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TW - He’s been charged - very very old thread update

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Backandforthandnow · 06/04/2022 02:57

Hi all, sorry username change as I haven’t been on here for about a year, can’t remember which one I posted under.

There may be none of you here now who remember, but in 2018 I was the victim of a brutal rape, under the guise of niche, violent and sick BDSM. Which I had no interest in and did not agree to.

Over the time it happened, and the years after you guys were here for me, after having the case rejected on very spurious grounds, evidence lost, the rough sex and silly woman thrown at me constantly someone on here referred me to the Centre For Women’s Justice and I really wish I could remember the username of the member but I was traumatised at the time.

Anyway if there are any who remember, with their enormous support all the way, and that of my local MP I have fought this for 4 years.

This week, after review by the independent CPS body, I finally have the validation I’m not insane, complying to survive was not my fault, being hospitalised with various injuries and having months of physio is not the normal outcome of a date.

They have chosen to charge this man with 6 counts.

I won’t say anymore because I don’t want to give any details that could jeopardise, but I do want to say thank you.

It’s a long road from here to remove this man from the streets he shouldn’t have been on for 4 years and there are no guarantees. But from your support hopefully a tiny change will be made in the system, maybe some lessons will be learned.

So if any of you remember then thank you, thank you for being there during one of the darkest moments of life.

If any of you are seeking a charity to support to help women who have no where else to turn then please consider the CWJ because I can’t repay them for all they have given me in practical legal fights but also in kindness and understanding.

OP posts:
UnexpectedMorrisDancer · 06/04/2022 03:19

I’m a long time lurker around here and I remember your posts.
I’m amazed at your bravery, your courage and your strength to still be fighting after four years. You are formidable!!
I wish you every success for the next stage. Keep being brave, courageous and strong, while being kind and gentle with yourself.

BootsScootsAndToots · 06/04/2022 03:24

I think I remember your OP.

I'm so glad you found the support you deserve. I hope the evil bastard is locked up and the world gets to know also how evil he is.

You are extremely brave 💐

Colouringaddict · 06/04/2022 03:26

On behalf of all victims everywhere, Thankyou.
Thankyou for reporting it.
Thankyou for following up
Thankyou for following advice
Thankyou for your courage
Thankyou for your tenacity
You are a very exceptional woman

jay55 · 06/04/2022 03:26

Well done for getting this far. You're amazing.

EmpressaurusWitchDoesntBurn · 06/04/2022 04:04

That’s great news. Congratulations and thank you for updating.

LunaLights · 06/04/2022 04:30

You are brave, and inspirational. What courage to keep fighting for what is right. 💐

Lengokengo · 06/04/2022 04:36

Thank you for your tenacity and hopefully this changes things for the better for women. What great and difficult actions you took. Well done

builtonrocks · 06/04/2022 05:20

Thank you. Sincerely, thank you.

KloppsTeeth · 06/04/2022 05:32

I remember.

Thank you Flowers it must be overwhelming but the strength you have found will help others as you heal.

MaryStuart · 06/04/2022 05:34

I’m so sorry for what you went through.
I hope you get the justice you deserve.
Thank you for fighting.

WindowsSmindows · 06/04/2022 06:05

You are brave and right. Right is on your side. Glad the CWJ is too and thanks for reminding is to support it. Well done.

CrueTrimeGal · 06/04/2022 06:29

Kudos to you for never giving up or in. A true inspiration

Livebythecoast · 06/04/2022 06:37

Thank you for the update OP.
What a brave and courageous lady you are.

Flowers
SpinningTheSeedsOfLove · 06/04/2022 06:38

A huge thank you to you, OP, and to CWJ.

hearmywomanlyroar · 06/04/2022 06:38

I'm so sorry to hear what you went through. What an utter bastard. So much respect to you for pursuing it and to CWJ for supporting you.

JoyLurking9to5 · 06/04/2022 06:40

Im so sorry for what you went through. I'm glad that he is going to be charged.

Xx

CalmH2O · 06/04/2022 06:49

You are so strong! Thank you for your update, and know that we are all behind you Flowers

PizzaCrust · 06/04/2022 06:52

Huge amount of respect to you. I can’t even imagine the sheer courage it must have taken to not only report it, but to keep persisting with the case and to keep going.

I hope the bastard gets the maximum punishment possible. And I hope you’re doing as well as you can be.

EthelMerman · 06/04/2022 07:01

💐
I’m sorry this happened to you, and I’m raging because you weren’t heard and believed by the police, meaning this man has been free, potentially doing the same to others for the past four years. I hope justice prevails.

Thank you for persisting, you are amazing. CWJ too. Stay strong, look after yourself.

Giggorata · 06/04/2022 07:06

What you have gone through to get here… and yet here you are, head held high, standing your ground. 💐
You are an inspiration and I hope the bastard gets what's coming to him.

mudgetastic · 06/04/2022 07:31

Wow that's incredible

CWJ take PayPal

springtimeishereagain · 06/04/2022 12:30

You are so brave and a real inspiration. 💐

Lowhum · 06/04/2022 14:03

I remember OP 💐

Iloveyourbracelet · 06/04/2022 14:07

Well done op you brave, wonderful, strong woman. Thank you for fighting to remove this monster from the streets.

TooBigForMyBoots · 06/04/2022 14:14

Love and strength to you @Backandforthandnow.💞