TW - He’s been charged - very very old thread update

[Backandforthandnow]

Hi all, sorry username change as I haven’t been on here for about a year, can’t remember which one I posted under.

There may be none of you here now who remember, but in 2018 I was the victim of a brutal rape, under the guise of niche, violent and sick BDSM. Which I had no interest in and did not agree to.

Over the time it happened, and the years after you guys were here for me, after having the case rejected on very spurious grounds, evidence lost, the rough sex and silly woman thrown at me constantly someone on here referred me to the Centre For Women’s Justice and I really wish I could remember the username of the member but I was traumatised at the time.

Anyway if there are any who remember, with their enormous support all the way, and that of my local MP I have fought this for 4 years.

This week, after review by the independent CPS body, I finally have the validation I’m not insane, complying to survive was not my fault, being hospitalised with various injuries and having months of physio is not the normal outcome of a date.

They have chosen to charge this man with 6 counts.

I won’t say anymore because I don’t want to give any details that could jeopardise, but I do want to say thank you.

It’s a long road from here to remove this man from the streets he shouldn’t have been on for 4 years and there are no guarantees. But from your support hopefully a tiny change will be made in the system, maybe some lessons will be learned.

So if any of you remember then thank you, thank you for being there during one of the darkest moments of life.

If any of you are seeking a charity to support to help women who have no where else to turn then please consider the CWJ because I can’t repay them for all they have given me in practical legal fights but also in kindness and understanding.

wow - you are an incredible woman, thankyou for persevering with this - for the women that came before you, yourself, and those who he may (or has) targeted since you.

I remember your original thread OP. You are so very very brave
Will be thinking of you, i hope the verdict goes the right way x

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I wish you all the best for your next steps. 💐

@Fullyhuman if you are allowed special measures, this includes back entrance to the court and a separate witness waiting area, where you are allowed to take someone with you.

But only for your actual testimony. After that if you want to know what’s going on then it’s main entrance and public gallery. Obviously I haven’t done that I don’t feel it’s safe.

Fingers, toes and everything crossed that the verdict goes your way, op. 💐 Even if it doesn't, should he try this again with some other poor woman and she reports him, the history is there, the red flags will be waving and there's way more chance he'll get done for it. You've stood up for yourself and for every woman, you're a star. 🌟

Thinking of you tonight. You have been brave and tenacious.

I just wanted to salute you for your outstanding bravery, and I hope with every fibre of my being that it goes your way tomorrow (as of course it should).

Well done. Bloody well done for all of it.

I really hope for the best outcome.

I remember your original posts, OP, as it was about the time I first joined MN - I come & go a bit and also name change.

Well done indeed for getting this far. No mean feat and I just hope the jury sees the truth.

What a thing to have to go through.

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I misunderstood, sorry, thought you were there. I hope you can get some sleep.

I don’t know your original posts. But bloody hell what an awful thing to do through. I am so pleased that you stuck it out, reported and saw it through. It can’t have been easy. But the world is a little safer.

Fingers crossed x

Strength and love, OP. Everything crossed for tomorrow.

I truly hope you get the justice you so absolutely deserve.

But please know, whatever happens with the jury is no judgement on you, as you say the defense can and will try their best to plant seeds of doubt, no matter how clear the case, that's their job.

Even if they can't convict, you have made a difference. You have told people who this man is and people will have heard it. You have shown the system failed you early on and you have made it better for others who walk your path.

You have been incredible and you have done everything and beyond. Now fingers crossed!

Absolute respect for you

Hope today brings you an answer op x

Got everything crossed for you op x

I remember you and believe you without any doubt. You are an amazingly strong woman. I hope he gets what he deserves.

Just sending you all my best, OP. Be extra kind to yourself .

Thank you for seeing this through regardless of the outcome

My thoughts are with you OP. You are amazingly strong for seeing this through.

Yes, I agree with this. Thankyou for making it easier for sexual abuse victims like me and others. You will have helped.

Brave strong woman. For standing up when it matters, for getting justice, for getting this man prosecuted for what he did to you. Really hope you get the outcome you want and deserve.

Really praying for you OP, I hope you got the outcome you wanted

You’re an inspiration OP