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ToccataAndFudge · 23/03/2010 13:23

yes BitofFun - you were right, it wasn't even 3 days, BeastofBodmin - yes I'm moaning again.

I'm not coping, I'm a fucking mess.

Have been trying to write it all down for the last hour and have given up.

If you've already posted on my other recent threads I haven't ignored the time and effort put it to try and support me, i do appreciate it I just can't even take my own advice right now

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ToccataAndFudge · 26/03/2010 16:28

ooo - that's nice - just had an email from Anglian water - I filled in the thing on the website to pay in installments, they've just sent me an email telling me it's been set up and my first payment isn't due until the 1st May - and I had money set aside for an April payment.

Me thinks pizza for dinner tonight.........will save on having to make more washing up

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purpleturtle · 26/03/2010 16:54

Oh excellent! Enjoy the pizza.

DH has just brought DD and DS1 home from swimming lessons and sent them straight to their rooms. Think I'd better go and find out what that was all about.

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ToccataAndFudge · 26/03/2010 16:57

yes having a good afternoon (apart from the shock about what to say to poor Bitter - didn't mention it in my previous post as wasn't sure she'd mention it here on MN, but seen that she's sad about it on another thread - as she had to rush off as she got a call to say her MIL had died ) and think once I've ordered this pizza I'm going to try and get this dining room sorted out.

Sieze the moment and all that.

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ToccataAndFudge · 26/03/2010 17:02

btw purple - I am ridiculously excited about the prospect of staying in Liverpool and exploring with the DS's.......they think I've gone quite mad

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purpleturtle · 26/03/2010 17:33

Poor Bitter. I hadn't seen that. That is very sad.

I'm glad you're excited. I am (bizarrely) a bit excited too! I will be looking out for stuff that's on while you're here, and making my house look like some kind of tourist information office for you.

I have had a pretty rubbish day, for various petty and in-the-grand-scheme-of-things-totally-insignificant reasons, so I've spent far too much time on here (again), and am sort of looking forward to bedtime followed by a fresh start tomorrow. Although it turns out that what caused the sending to bedrooms was their reaction to DH's answer of what we were planning to do tomorrow, so perhaps I'll wait and see how that pans out!

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ToccataAndFudge · 26/03/2010 17:42

duh flipping pizza - ordered their big meal deal whatsit.

had a choice of BBQ or Peri Peri Chicken wings.........ordered the BBQ - and they sent me Peri Peri, have rung them and they're going to send some BBQ ones round, DS1 is jst about managing to eat some (he likes spicy food - but he's never had Peri Peri type heat before) DS2 won't touch them, I nearly went thrugh the celing when I licked my fingers after dishing them out.......and I'm hoping that DS3 hasn't just run off with one to try

They also sent a thin crust for one of the pizza's instead of deep (but not a major issue that).

They're really good usually so I shan't complain any further than the call I've made.

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purpleturtle · 26/03/2010 19:56

I am making progress. Of sorts. I have now booked the second week of our holiday.

Think I shall now start a campaign to find friends to land on visit for the week you're in Liverpool. Don't be offended if you see me begging shamelessly on FB.

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ToccataAndFudge · 26/03/2010 20:05

well done - don't worry I shall totally ignore any shameless begging

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ToccataAndFudge · 26/03/2010 22:27

twat......

just called me, obviously drunk/drinking/at a party/bar/home with friends as I answered and he "hang on".......and started telling someone that someone else was taking their drinks back quick go and stop him

Anyhow, he "has been thinking about when he would have the DS's"

and has offered to have them for a couple of days in the first week of the Easter holidays.......hey I suppose a couple of days 4 1/2 weeks after i moved out is quite reasonable

Oh and "he'll drop the posters and pictures round "at some point"

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willsurvivethis · 26/03/2010 22:43
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ToccataAndFudge · 26/03/2010 22:49

bet he was "thinking about it" because I mentioned it this morning. FFS he didn't even give his 2yr old DS a hug/cuddle when he saw him

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willsurvivethis · 26/03/2010 23:23

Oh if my dh would do that to my ds (also 2) it would break his little heart and he would not understand...

sb6699 · 27/03/2010 00:06

Sorry to you hear your sad news Bitter. Sending you and yours much love xx

T&F, it really sounds as if you are making headway now, you're coming across as being more positive now too.

Did you manage to get the dining room sorted?

Friend finally got boxes round to us tonight but have had a busy evening ferrying DS to and from his school disco so they're still sitting in the porch.

Am planning a trip to the market in the morning (providing the weather holds) then enlisting all 3 dc's to "help" with DS' room.

I think there must be a quite alot of stuff that can be re-homed in the toy boxes. He's getting so grown-up now that I think he's outgrown most of it - dont think he'll ever part with his beloved Lego though

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ToccataAndFudge · 27/03/2010 00:16

yes I had good afternoon/evening, and then XH's phone call seemed to knock me back again.

Certainly mood is a little higher walking through to make coffee and finding clean dishes and no mess on the floors.

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sb6699 · 27/03/2010 01:09

Maybe seeing you today, has given him a bit of a jolt.

Try to be positive about it, at least it has played on his mind enough to make him call and once they start visiting him it will become more of a regular thing.

You are doing really well, dont let this put a dampener on it!

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ToccataAndFudge · 27/03/2010 01:21

maybe.......although he may not see me regularly - but he'll see my house every time he goes to the shop, so it' hardly like he can forget that he has 3 DS's living here that he's barely seen for 3 weeks.....

I'm not holding my breath that it will be a regular thing, - going to intefere with his weekend piss-ups if he has to have them then, Easter holidays during the week is easier.....

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ToccataAndFudge · 27/03/2010 09:58

not having a good morning so far.

Lost it with DS1/2 by 9am. Really just want to curl up on the sofa for the day.

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purpleturtle · 27/03/2010 11:17

I think all children everywhere may have end-of-term-itis. Ours are really really hard work this morning. In fact, I have taken the coward's way out and let DH handle a lot of it. I'm not even dressed yet. But I need to head to the shower and try to get to the Post Office before it shuts and my niece's b'day present will be late.

Hope your day gets better.

Dumbledoresgirl · 27/03/2010 11:24

T&C, just looked at your profile. I recognise those boys! (from previous profiles I mean, not in rl - hope I didn't scare you there!) Have you name changed again? I can't keep up!

Anyway, just wanted to check I had the right person, and sorry to see you are still on a rollercoaster.

Oh and I take it you have recently moved and finding it hard to get on top of the mess. Would it cheer you up to know my house is in a not dissimilar mess and we have been here 5 years? Don't judge yourself too harshly.

thumbwitch · 27/03/2010 12:24

Oh Tocc, sorry you're having a not-so-good day.

I wish your H would grow up (again?) and sort himself out - he's going to lose his DSs if he carries on the way he's going and he probably doesn't even realise it.

I had a day away from DS today - went into Sydney to meet 2 other expat MNers and had a nice afternoon with them but it takes 2h on the train to get there, and 2h back so I was away from DS for 9h. Don't think he was all that bothered, tbh - he whinges at first but then gets over it.

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ToccataAndFudge · 27/03/2010 13:08

I'm stuck in a rut here today, just spend the last 1 1/2hrs on the sofa.

Only got up because I had to get DS1 ready to go out to his friends birthday party - well actually it's not a "party", he's going to the cinema and then pizza hut with him (only one friend invited and that was DS1)

So now I have DS2 and 3 at home together all afternoon.

It's the worst combination really, DS1 + 3, no problems usually, DS1 + 2 no probems, DS2 and 3 together without DS1.........all hell usually breaks lose

Living on caffeine and nicotine again today

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thumbwitch · 27/03/2010 13:17

tut tut - have yourself a sandwich woman![stern over-the-top-of-the-spectacles look]

Can you separate them completely, or put on a DVD that they both like to watch to give yourself an hour and a half of relative peace?

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ToccataAndFudge · 27/03/2010 13:20

oh and DS3 got hold of the furniture polish, sprayed it on the living room floor and then "cleaned it up" with the fleecy blanket......it's a varnished floorboards.......

Will go and get something in a while.

Separating doesn't work, as DS3 does actually adore DS2 and wants to be with him.............

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thumbwitch · 27/03/2010 13:31

how nice - an indoor skating rink!

Isn't there anyone you can phone who could pop round for a while to distract them/you?

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ToccataAndFudge · 27/03/2010 13:45

yes - nearly landed on my arse as I walked across it.

No-one to come round, the curse of being a single mum with friends who are all in relationships.

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