Parents and carers of anxious teens(part 8)

[MinionKevin]

Started a new thread as I can see previous OP hadn’t been on for a while.

Link to previous thread:

www.mumsnet.com/talk/feeling_depressed/4970868-parents-and-carers-of-anxious-teenspart-7?page=40

hi @destiel00 and all,

thank you for checking in and for the update. Sounds positive all around, fingers crossed things will continue to progress in a positive way for you all

Here we survived the first two weeks of the GCSE’s… once they were underway there was a relief that the wait is over. DD went in and did what she could. Not really revised.
today is leavers day, emotional for sure. Much as she struggled with the school especially this year, she loved the social aspect of it and had quite a good rapport with several teachers.

I was signed off sick for 4 weeks as the lead up to the exams broke me in the end, additionally my dad has passed away suddenly, abroad. We haven’t actually spoken for many years for various reasons but I loved him and regretted not being able to say goodbye and make my peace with him while I still could…

Oh @Mb76
I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. Grief can be complicated x
I think you were wise to get signed off.
I certainly found the build up to the exams worse than the reality.

How are you @Mb76 ?

just wondering if anyone else finds their teen has a few good days and starts to feel a small bit of positivity but then they slump and have a really bad day? Dd has a few good days with lots of good discussion about the future and plans and a good day yesterday but then has been in a really negative slump all day. Totally uncommunicative, everything is met with negativity and it feels as if she’s a million miles away from the person she was yesterday. It almost feels as if she fears letting go of the anxiety and negativity and brings it back as it’s the familiar emotion she knows. I’ve tried encouraging her to do something to help when she feels like that like going out on a walk, playing her instruments or anything rather than sitting in a dark room all day. She says it’s pointless when she feels like this.
just hoping tomorrow is a brighter day
sending love, hugs and strength to all xx

I’m ok thank you for checking in @Awomanofsubstance85

What you are describing sounds familiar, my DD is similar. She’s had a great first half of the May school holidays, but last couple of days the dark mood has descended, I’m guessing it’s to do with the rest of exams approaching.

10 exams done, 9 to go, and she’s not really revising. At least there’s no more lessons now, they are only going in to school for exams until the end now.

I'm spery to hear that your dc are struggling.
It reminded me that dd had a "blip" during may half term last year. It was a shock as she'd been doing so well 😕
She seems happy atm with her course and friends.
Older dd is causing me worry currently...she's still really struggling after her break up in January and is going to speak to s counsellor on Monday

Yes @Awomanofsubstance85DD got through her year 12 exams fine and then had a massive meltdown. Everything is end of the world, she hates all her friends, she’s never going back etc. We’re past it again.
They are fewer but still worrying when they happen still and very exhausting. These used to go for days but now it tends to be a single day at least.
we have a long term ahead to get through.

Hi all 👋
Hope all those dc sitting exams are doing ok?
Dd has had counselling today and she and her counsellor have decided next month will be her last session.
I feel a bit odd tbh.
This time last year she was in such a bad place it's so great she's doing so well - older dd is another story sadly 😕
I'm hoping the summer doesn't trigger dd - wanted to keep ger busy but shes npt 18 so finding jobs is tricky and the job she did have is ending as the shop is closing 😕