To go off sick until this happens with nursery?

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I have been struggling loads with working full time with my 2.5 year old. I’m on my own mostly and she sees her dad once a week. He won’t do more, I’ve tried a lot.

I just can’t carry on keeping on top of everything and feeling well. I started taking anxiety medication this month and I’m slowly building up the dose but it’s making me feel a bit shit even though I want to stick with it. I’m just done. I haven’t had a day off in years. My job is incredibly demanding and I don’t really want to lose the income but I almost feel if I don’t go off sick then I will lose my job anyway as I’m just not juggling everything well at all.

I wanted to go off sick until dd gets the free 30 hours in September so that if I then continue to struggle with work I can easily go down to part time without financial worry. If I went down to part time now then I would struggle financially. I have a good sickness policy so would get full pay until July then just have August on statutory sick pay. I’ve never been off sick before (literally except one day 4 years ago!) and so I don’t know how easy it would be to do this. I know my GP is supportive of the anxiety I have felt and which has increased hugely recently hence the medication.

I feel so alone and don’t know what to do.

I don’t think @Parlezz is arguing with mn, but answering the question that was posed.

On mumsnet, work is god. Who are all of these work shills on here? IRL, work does not give a fuck about you and will see you high and dry after you’ve worked past breaking point for them. So, make the assessment on that basis. If you need to step back before breaking point and protect yourself and others, do it.

This is now in the mental health board. It’s not meant for people with tiny drums to beat.

👏 exactly!!
We are just a number. Not indispensable and definitely not irreplaceable!

Thanks for your input, but again, it's fine for me to have an opinion and that doesn't make it an argument. I can respond to any user, whether they represent MN or not, especially when others' views are worded as fact. You've assumed that the word 'struggling' inherently means someone has asked 'for support' but suggesting taking advantage of a generous sickness package isn't the same as having a need.

MN obviously have the means to move the post to mental health, but it was in fact posed as an AIBU and still has a poll showing that 80% of respondents, myself included, actually believe the circumstances outlined, and the general attitudes, to he unreasonable.

@Parlezz Can you explain why you have posted a laugh smiley in response to the request that you respect the OP when she is struggling? Do you think anxiety disorders are funny?

A) I am not showing disrespect to the OP.
B) It is not your place to request anything of me.
C) You didn't make any such request.

MN can comment; you can comment; I can comment.

It doesn't matter one bit what I think about anxiety disorders. It matters that the OP asked if her plan to take as much sick pay as possible until her financial situation improved (in whatever state she was experiencing at the time) was unreasonable and on invitation to respond, and reflection, I believe yes. You don't have to agree; it's a public forum.

If you want to add further comments to the thread without adding anything useful, go right ahead. That's the only thing, (other than expecting 6 months' full pay off for being a working parent) that's laughable.

B&C contradict each other. Indeed I did not request if myself, I merely highlighted MN’s request.

It’s quite nauseating to try to make a mental health thread about you and your opinions.

You are the poster continuing this derailing. If you care about OP's mental health and/or financial situation, talk to her about it.

You didn't need to engage with me at all, especially with pedantic and inaccurate comments e.g. you having no right to make a request of me and the fact you didn't even do it are not mutually exclusive; you said I 'laughed' at your request...I laughed, because I couldn't roll my eyes, at you thinking you needed to highlight a general request.

And if we're being correct, this was NOT initially a mental health thread, but an AIBU. The fact OP didn't think it was supposed to be in that category is quite telling in and of itself, and strictly speaking, I'm not making a MH thread about me, my opinions are being taken out of context by being moved into a "MH" thread.

I have talked to the OP. I’m not indulging your narcissism further.

Don't make light of mental health disorders you have no business diagnosing.

Narcissism is not a mental health disorder nor is it a diagnosis. It sounds like you have confused a personality trait with a personality disorder.

Like the whole thread, then.