General support thread 3

[Helplessandheartbroke]

All welcome x

Hey all, hope you don't mind if I join in? Currently dealing with PTSD from work as ED social worker and struggling a little. Have two kids 16 and 9. Just here for chats/mutual support ☺️

Hi @DeepRubySwan and welcome. Sounds like it could be some traumatic stuff. Is your workplace supportive, do they have wellbeing services? Are you working at the moment? Is your 16 year old got GCSEs coming up too? Got a college who's finding it stressful on behalf of her son.

Hi @2in2022twoyearson! Thanks for the warm welcome. Yes my workplace has been great and I am on paid stress leave for a little bit, getting some good quality care which I am very grateful for. My 16 yo has his ATAR coming up (I am in Australia) and he is very stressed indeed so yeah there is that too! He's a great kid though so I'm lucky.

I have insomnia at the moment, not sure how long I should leave it, trying to get good sleep naturally before going to the drs. My episode of poor mental health about 7 years ago, was primary down to insomnia and me not thinking straight, getting headaches and increasing a anxiety with mild depression. Qutiapine really helped me. However, now I have more responsibilities with 2 small children so not sure I want to go on a medication which is a sedative. I know it worked well for me, not just sleep but I could put things back in perspective and enjoy the little things.

This time it's different as I do find joy in small things at the moment. Spring flowers, my children's growing personalities. Etc. I lost that after the birth of my second child. Didn't get help for postnatal depression, but I'm over that now but the insomnia is the problem.

I had 2 nights of good sleep then last night I was up stupidly early again.

Hello @DeepRubySwan I’m pretty new here too, but have been welcomed warmly and compassionately. I hope you find it supportive too.

@2in2022twoyearson Insomnia is horrid isn’t it. I too battle with it periodically. When I am having awful nights, what has worked for me is to stop trying to sleep. That sounds daft but I’m more likely to get some sleep if I am not actively trying. I don’t know if it’s similar for anyone else, but I end up lying there thinking ‘I must sleep, I’ll be so tired tomorrow, I need to do this, that and the other and I’ll not cope, it’s only X hours until I need to get up…’. I now try to go with accepting I am not sleeping, and trying to use the time for resting instead. So get comfy and put an audiobook or something on and lie with my eyes shut, resting, not trying to get to sleep. Sometimes I even drop off for a bit. It might work for others, I don’t know. It’s better for me, and I end up less angry and fed up at least. I hope you get a better night tonight.

I think my newest raised dose of Antipsychotics are starting to help. I’ve got a thick muggy head which I don’t like, but the voices have been less intense so far today. I am scared to be hopeful. Which is stupid.

Tomorrow was a date I had in mind to end my life. I am feeling less certain that I need to do that. So I think I need to delay it. I was so sure it was the only option, sensible answer to the situation. Maybe the medication is changing my thoughts, is that good or bad, I don’t know.

I know it is going to be really hard to get through the day, safely. I’ve asked my cleaner/helper if she can do some extra time with me tomorrow, but I don’t know if she will yet. I’d forgotten it is Easter School Holidays. So my son won’t be at his specialist education placement tomorrow. If he is at home it makes it harder for me to end things, so perhaps it’s good.

I’m questioning myself about my blood’s toxicity. Nothing makes proper sense.

How is everyone.
I've emailed relate. Anyone used those services? I'd like to talk through some things with my husband, I feel unable to do alone. Big life decisions and little irritations both ways.

Hi, just found this thread, is it still going? Hope you are doing Ok.

Hi @Orangesandlemons77 . This thread is still going . How are you?

I'm doing ok, got a diagnosis of probably PTSD and anxiety disorder in the last weeks so trying to come to terms with that.

I think the sunshine is a bit helpful but also makes you feel you should be enjoying it iykwim, anyway how are you doing?

I'm not to bad atm thanks. I suffer with OCD and anxiety and found this thread a couple of years ago when I was having a full on breakdown. The ladies here are very supportive.
Do you know what caused the PTSD?

Glad things are going OK. Yes it was from emergency surgery a few years back and I had a psychotic episode and sepsis, (so the surgery/s were life saving) I relate to the OCD and anxiety as think PTSD is also somewhat an anxiety disorder.

The NHS has recommended some therapy but I'm not sure what yet, just waiting for them to tell me. I expect there will be a waiting list.

Hi all,

How's everyone doing? I am doing surprisingly ok, I have exams next week and in the lead up have been reviewing my dyslexia assessment from about 15 years ago, thinking I might have different neurodiverse.

Eg, I get overwhelmed in supermarkets and at parties, was diagnosed with audio processing difficulties as my biggest weakness with dyslexia, but that fits more with autism.

I went to a work party last week, I'm trying to push myself socially, and I like the college who's leaving party it is. But I felt so deflated and bad after.

I wasn't sure about going to work today because I'd not slept so well earlier this week and haven't seen people much. But I slept well last night. Had a wobble at work first thing when I argued with a colleague, then started to cry but pulled myself together and did a good job.

Hi all. How is everyone doing?

Hi, I'm good. How are you @Ilovedogs1

I'm doing OK atm. Whilst it's great to be doing well it also makes me a bit dubious about it lasting. Almost waiting for the other shoe to drop.
How's everyone else doing? @Helplessandheartbroke how are you?

You need to spend more time out of the house together.

Evening all. Feeling a bit out of sorts today.
Felt completely shattered all week and today feel a little anxious and getting some intrusive thoughts. Hoping this is just a minor blip. How's everyone else doing?
@Helplessandheartbroke are you still about on this thread??

Does Mumsnet always hide threads on here first ..I just posted a thread and it was hidden,I'm worried I said the wrong thing ..but I was only asking for advice on supplements to help with anxiety and depression

My anxiety is very bad again..just looking through the mental health threads to see if anyone found any supplements to help .. thinking of trying CBD ..but it's expensive

Ah, I imagine they have to investigate questions on supplements and medication as someone will likely advise illegal drugs, that are not illegal outside the UK. So nothing personal.

I went to my GP years ago and first tried setrline, which is a common one but it was awful for me, made my insomnia worse and I lost touch with reality, had hallucinations. Then I didn't try anything else, I was prescribed citralipan but I didn't try anything else until I saw a psychiatrist and was prescribed qutiapine which worked really well for me, especially the anxiety. I was on it for 6 months, then when I felt more myself, could do self led CBT, I weaned off it.

Thankyou,both speedy replies.much appreciated.
So they may not approve my post as I'm asking about 5 htp and CBD gummies.
My doctor won't give me medication..she says there's nothing left for me to try and I'm already on the maximum dose of propranolol

Again....ahhh what am I doing wrong

Ok ..I mentioned supplements.
It must be that
Thankyou for the replies
I have autism and ADHD and my doctor says that's causing my bad anxiety,and keeps giving me CBT sessions to treat it ..I have asked for antidepressants but she says no ,there's nothing left to try that I haven't tried already and it didn't work.
So I'm here trying to see what other people find helps them
I literally dread every single day
I'm awake from 4 am with stomach churning anxiety as it gets lighter and lighter .I can remember being like this when I was 6 ,so my doctor is correct it probably is the autism..but how can CBT help anxiety...as I've no control over the feeling,yet CBT implies I would have control over it