General support thread 3

[Helplessandheartbroke]

All welcome x

St Johns wort is meant to be an alternative to the SSRIs but you have to check as can have interacting with e.g. the pill

Thanks oranges and lemons ..I took that when I was about 18 ,but I'm on the pill ,so dare not risk it

Hi, how are you all doin. I'm struggling recently, considering going to the GP for medication but trying to get routine and healthy eating first. I'm in a bad place with my husband. I feel like he's kicking me down, he says I've been an arsehole and trying to pull an apology out of me when I am too tired to remember all our interactions, just feelings around them. Slept about 5 and a half hours last night. I have an assignment due on Tuesday I've been putting off.

Midsummer is generally linked to bad mental health for me, not every year but the lowest points in my life.

I just said on another thread ,I'm not good in the summer.ive been in a foul mood all day because I'm not and irritable.
I read you can get like SAD for the summer .
2in22 that sounds difficult,.can't be easy on 5 hours sleep

Hot and irritable

I'm in an air con room fortunately but not making enough progress on my assessment.

Hot and stressed here too it is really humid today isn't it

In our wisdom,we put a conservatory on to the back of our house ,which leads to the kitchen
So basically that's two rooms that heat up like an oven
Last year I ended up sat in supermarket coffee shops that had air conditioning on very hot days .
You live and learn, wouldn't do it again .
No breeze at all here
Hope you get your assignment done 2in22

Hopefully it will freshen up a bit soon

Extra hot now, and various personal reasons and social interactions have made me tear up today but not full on cry and I'm still going. I think others are hot and bothered so had 2 people be aggressive to me at work today. One colleague who seriously gets to me, because I respect her from how she looked after me when had a mental health crisis but now I feel uncomfortable around her and asked her if I could leave early, she had a rant, then said yes

I'm struggling with the heat too, it is understandable it making people worse I guess.

It's awful and tomorrow and Saturday are going to be worse

I was in Scotland start of the week and it was lovely and fresh, kind of missing it now

I had a lovely evening with my family for my daughter's birthday, her opening presents playing in the garden when it cooled down a bit. Then when I was reading my toddler a bedtime story I developed that horrible pit in my stomach. I've been thinking back over the conversations at work and I feel mostly shame. I feel like I need a good cry. Last Friday I was nearly sobbing at my daughter's school performance because they're so cute infant school children and the phrase 'these memories will never fade.' really got me.

How do you know when you need medication. I thought about booking annual leave for a day to myself this week but haven't. Maybe I need to look at booking one next week instead, then see how I feel the following weekend. What do you think of that plan?

I had a MH assessment after another self referral. I was told they no longer offer talking therapy, only CBT. If you want talking therapy you now have to go private! I was shocked.

Have you tried contacting your doctor and explaining how you feel,they might sign you of work and suggest medication.or have some suggestions that might help .
Definitely a day to yourself to do as you please will help

Yes same where I live ,it's called talking therapy,but the only one doing the talking was the professional
I just basically listen for half an hour
They used to offer counselling,then when I was referred again by my doctor they told me I was to complicated for their service and had to go elsewhere.
Then the next time doctor refers me ,I'm told CBT is all they offer .

My main issue seems to be anxiety.worse in the early hours of the morning,a horrible stomach churning anxiety..how they think CBT is going to fix that I've no idea

No I haven't contacted my GP, i have had a fair bit of time off Sick, I don't want to. I don't feel as though it would help.. my work has quite good wellbeing services. When I had counselling it was through them not work. So I could contact them. I do also generally have a good team and a manager very understanding of mental health issues. I took a day off for mental health in may and I've had a couple of viruses this year so really would rather take annual leave, then I'm not plaged with feelings as though I should be at work. My work They do have a mental health 'tenpreture check' questiore which I might do now. That would help me decide what to acsess. But no, I've not recently been to my GP for mental health. I did have a check up recently and they asked about my mental health and I didn't say I needed help with my mental health then.
I just had another 5 hours sleep, but I slept very well the night before.

I'd give it a go bulldogsummer, everything is connected so changing your thoughts and behaviour could change your feelings over time. I'm a recent convert to little regular routine changes too.

That sounds like a really supportive company to work for
I suppose if your wanting antidepressants,the doctor is the only way to get them.
But it doesn't sound like you are
You could book a day of annual leave of ,give yourself some breathing space
Or do a pamper day with things you love,nails ,hair , chocolate in the bath , whatever you feel would pamper you x

I am doing yes ,I started last week ,plus some counselling I'm paying for starts soon.
Really going to give both my best shot

I know why I get anxiety and that's my autism playing up
But I need it to stop .that's the bit that's frustrating

I've been wandering in recent years if I have autism. I am dyslexic which can come with anxiety. But have some relatives who really struggle to do normal life with autism so I may have traits but don't think it's worth me getting a diagnosis. I get overwhelmed in busy places, especially supermarkets. I while I have to get out like when I was younger I am very unproductive and bad at parenting in a shop with my son. I have some traits though that are very non autistic such as enjoying spontaneous surprises and struggle to keep routines.

Because I had a good upbringing so my anxiety doesn't come from any trauma, that's got me wandering if I have autism.