A thread for those of us who just want to tell each other things about our day

[LikeMyHeartIsAboutToStopBeating]

Prompted by a discussion on another thread, this is a safe and supportive place to share those small and inconsequential things you'd probably tell your partner but aren't big enough to warrant calling your friend, starting a new thread here or discussing with your therapist. It's for those of us who don't have someone we can talk to in that way - maybe we are newly (or long term) single, we have a partner who isn't willing or able to have those conversations, we have teenage children who grunt but aren't that interested, or we just want to hang out here.

No rules, apart from be nice. Nothing too small to share if sharing will make you feel more connected to people or you just want somewhere to offload about small problems/share something funny/have a "would you believe it" anecdote. I can't guarantee to be here all the time but will try and make a habit of checking in.

I'll start by saying that I went to Screwfix to pick up a plunger because the toilet keeps blocking (my life is whatever is the opposite of glamorous) and there was a couple there trying to buy something but struggling because they didn't speak great English. The guy behind the counter asked them where they were from (he had a proper Cockney accent) and when they said France, he started speaking French to them. Not the best French (my mother is French, I'm not fluent but I know enough to distinguish good French from bad) but enough to help them figure out what they needed. Then the woman on the next still said (in French) that she did French at school and wished she still remembered more of it, and I said it was funny to hear people speaking French in a Screwfix in East London, and suddenly the world felt like a very friendly place. I came home with a new tape measure but realised I didn't ever get round to buying the plunger, so I will have to go back tomorrow.

Hi everyone. I was a bit argumentative with a colleague yesterday a combination of frustration with some things happening at work and general life stress of my house move not going smoothly and to be fair she gave as good as she got.

This morning after a sleepless night I apologised to her and I now feel a lot better. I sometimes think as adults we should remember to apologise more.

Can I join please.
Going through a bit of a rough time with DH at the moment which is impacting my sleep and my anxiety. I think(hope) we are through the worst though neither of us has behaved very well. Mostly his fault though.

Anyway on the plus side I’ve lost a bit of weight and had to take some jeans back today as they were too big. They fitted when I bought them.

Well I get p---ed off with men and boys who criticise my driving. That's about it.
It happened again today when I was parking. No, I did not hit anything and didn't even mount the pavement (which seems to be the norm) but my old Volkswagen Polo made its usual noises for which I always get blamed.
No I'm not the world's best driver but I'm a h-ll of a lot better than boys and men who always think that THEY are the world's greatest!

Sorry rant over.

Anybody ever have days where you feel like your counting down to bedtime?
Nothing has particularly happened but I've just felt so cold and wintery today.

@NPET Why do people not simplybsee that you parked on the road, you did not mount the pavement you did not hit another car. Why can't people praise good parking?

I do love a cuddle with a baby. It's a shame you can't go up to strangers in the street and ask to cuddle their babies. I understand why that isn't appropriate but it would be a huge serotonin boost.

So mine is so worried about my 18 yr old dd at the moment. Apprentice hairdresser working so hard, passed her driving test 3 months ago and paying a fortune for car insurance on a little cora we bought fir her bday. She had a minor crash on a roundabout a few days ago not quite sure who was at fault, car is drivable but needs the tracking fixed but she just seems so down literally saying so scared to drive now keeps reliving the accident (no one was hurt but the other driver went into her so hard she forced her off the road and then verbally abused and threatened her) she's worried about her premiums going up next year she can barely afford as it is. She said can't sleep for racing thoughts in her head, she thought she was going to die when the car hit etc. I'm so wooried about her, sorry for long rant.

Meant to put little corsa for her birthday sorry 😂

I don't like to use this but I am, at the moment, a "conventionally pretty" 20 year old and I think there are 2 reasons: 1. Men can't accept that I might dare to be good at something as well as being what Americans call "a looker" and 2. Therefore if they find one LITTLE thing they won't let go (for example, my VW is not new and sometimes one of the doors shakes or the gear grinds, especially into reverse).
Thx for commenting anyway. I ought to take heart from the fact that I know I'm a decent driver but ..... Oh well, Men!!!

Morning all, I hope today is filled with small instances of peace, content, hope or downright happiness that we can spot and appreciate. My days have been so very hard recently that I'm trying to cling to every tiny tiny piece of goodness that the day brings.

@Frenchie01 your dd was driven off the road by another car? And then was abused by the driver?

Your poor dd. No wonder she is rattled.

I hope it becomes clear the other driver was at fault.

I’d booked in a couple of weeks ago to bring lunch yesterday to a friend who is terminally ill and has months to live. Unfortunately, right before I left I received a solicitor’s email demanding that I sort something at the behest of a toxic sibling who has refused to engage with me in a matter since the start of the year. I feel sad this morning because instead of my mind being on chatting with my lovely friend, I felt irritated by the demands being made on me and after responding I spent less time with her than I had planned to. I know my friend appreciated the visit (I made a lovely lunch for us both including a cake) but I feel like I let her down by not being fully present.

I also feel really sad for Liam Payne’s parents and his child whose world will never be the same again. My DD is back from uni this weekend so I shall be giving her an extra big cuddle. Life is so precious.

Sending strength to everyone who needs it today. I look forward to hearing about the minutiae of the little things that have cheered us all up with week.

My husband is having to work away at the moment, and I also hate going home to the house all in darkness. My son told me yesterday to get a smart bulb to switch on when I’m on my way home so think I will try and get one
good morning to everyone today - hope you all have a good day

I am really poorly physically today I'm in so much pain my husband has worked from home and keeps coming downstairs just to check on me. It's these moments that make me so glad I met him ❤️

I hope you feel better soon ❤️

If she's still scared to go back driving, try to push her back! I'm 20 & had a
minor tiff with an ancient Renault when I was 17 and about 3 months driving.
Was afraid to get back behind the wheel and my bff said "see it as a teething problem - get straight back, rev the engine, jerk the transmission, grind the gear, and you'll be OK forever".
Best advice I ever had.

I need to moan, probably about myself as much as anything. My wife fell twice at the end of September, and I’ve been taking her twice a week to get the dressings changed. She woke me up at 03:30 this morning to ask what she was holding, it was the dressing off the wound on her leg, she had taken it off and folded it over. I took her to have it changed this afternoon and the wound is healing.
She has a Zimmer but refuses to use it, she says she can’t manage with it and wants me to help her every time she moves around the flat. I have told her it is making my back sore, but she keeps asking.
I’ve phoned and asked for a visit from a physio, and they said they will let me know next week when they will visit.
I just want to moan; she does not want to eat a meal but just picks at food so I don’t cook a full meal and I am hungry.
This morning she said she needs to go into a home but I love her and want her here at home with me.
We are both the same age, 77, so I keep telling her that neither of us is old.
It has helped me to simply moan about all this.

Aw John you're having such a hard time both of you. Do you have any family that could help until your wife is healed? Moan away! That's what this thread is for, for people to listen to each other.

@OldJohn I have nothing constructive or helpful to say but I read your post with sadness, my parents are going through not too dissimilar at the moment and it's SO hard. Have a very unmumsnetty hug and cuppa

I have just eaten the most amazing lemon tart from Sainsbury's and would definitely recommend it to anybody who needs a little pick-me-up this weekend :)

The pain behaved itself some of the day until late afternoon when I could hardly walk - that was erm, fun.

Thankyou, you're right that's more or less what her bf told her, just waiting to get this tracking fixed this weekend and hopefully she can get back at it and worry about insurance going up next year by which time she will be qualified and have a wage increase .

Morning all, I hope the weekend has some glimmers of happiness for us all. I intend to have a long bubble bath with my book today and then we're going to carve pumpkins this evening with the kids.

@OldJohn I'm so sorry about your situation. If she doesn't want a full meal and you're hungry, do look after yourself. You need your strength to look after her properly. She could have a small portion of whatever you have, perhaps?

I've woken up at the crack of dawn to accompany DD to a uni open day. She's not feeling well so I'm wondering what to do with my day. I should probably go to Parkrun as that way at least I will get some exercise but it's a bit drizzly and grey outside. I have had a really busy week so it's not the end of the world to have an unexpectedly free day.

Hope your dd can let go of the fearful thoughts @Frenchie01 and just climb right back into the saddle again as it were.

How are you feeling now @Aspecialplaceinhell ? Hope your dh is still looking after you.

And @OldJohn that all sounds very hard but you like you're doing a fabulous job. And do cook even if it's mostly for you, you count too.

@Nogodsnomasters hope you have/are having a lovely day. Carving pumpkins sounds fun. When we were kids we had swedes to carve at halloween. I don't think I'd even seen a pumpkin!

How are you @LikeMyHeartIsAboutToStopBeating ? Did you get your smart lights?

I've been out today with a family member with mh problems. It was a beautiful afternoon but they were so preoccupied I don't think they noticed. I kept pointing things out but got limited responses. It's hard when then that's the only person you speak to the whole weekend.

Bless you for thinking of me and asking. My husband is looking after me he's got a bit of a flu bug himself so we're battling through the weekend and our DD treated us to a 3 hour nap today which was very much appreciated.

How are you!?

Oh no, flu on top! Three hour nap sounds good though, hope you felt a bit better for it.

I'm okay thanks for asking @Aspecialplaceinhell Feel a bit wrung out after this afternoon but I'm going to settle in front of the tv in a minute and watch a Rings of Power episode. It's not great but something to watch... I try to find a good series at this time of year but I don't like horror or crime much so the choice is a bit limited.