A thread for those of us who just want to tell each other things about our day

[LikeMyHeartIsAboutToStopBeating]

Prompted by a discussion on another thread, this is a safe and supportive place to share those small and inconsequential things you'd probably tell your partner but aren't big enough to warrant calling your friend, starting a new thread here or discussing with your therapist. It's for those of us who don't have someone we can talk to in that way - maybe we are newly (or long term) single, we have a partner who isn't willing or able to have those conversations, we have teenage children who grunt but aren't that interested, or we just want to hang out here.

No rules, apart from be nice. Nothing too small to share if sharing will make you feel more connected to people or you just want somewhere to offload about small problems/share something funny/have a "would you believe it" anecdote. I can't guarantee to be here all the time but will try and make a habit of checking in.

I'll start by saying that I went to Screwfix to pick up a plunger because the toilet keeps blocking (my life is whatever is the opposite of glamorous) and there was a couple there trying to buy something but struggling because they didn't speak great English. The guy behind the counter asked them where they were from (he had a proper Cockney accent) and when they said France, he started speaking French to them. Not the best French (my mother is French, I'm not fluent but I know enough to distinguish good French from bad) but enough to help them figure out what they needed. Then the woman on the next still said (in French) that she did French at school and wished she still remembered more of it, and I said it was funny to hear people speaking French in a Screwfix in East London, and suddenly the world felt like a very friendly place. I came home with a new tape measure but realised I didn't ever get round to buying the plunger, so I will have to go back tomorrow.

We're watching married at first sight I'm arguing with the TV my husband is pretending to be busy in his phone but chimes in at the juicy bits... Aparinately he doesn't like it. Hmm. I beg to differ when he's the one lining it up for me.
When I'm unwell I really enjoy mindless drivel that I don't need to remember bits of.

No smart lights. I need to figure out exactly what I want, but need to get on with it. The impending clock change means I will be plunged into my annual seasonal despair and try to rectify it by spending money on lights. Last year I bought a neon star and some new lamps. This year it will be the smart lights and possibly one of those "wake me up with daylight" lights if I can pick one up for a good price.

I'm about to have a glass of whisky and watch some TV. I don't do either of those things very often but it's been an odd day and I'm feeling a little out of sorts so I think it is the answer.

I'm going to visit DD1 at uni tomorrow which will be nice; I've missed her since she went back. She's the talker of my two children - her younger sister isn't one of life's great communicators! So the house can be very quiet.

We have smart lights they did take some getting used to but we have them that sync with the TV and it's makes the living room so cosy.

Makes me giggle though our DD will have such a different view. Hey Google turn the lights on... Hey Google close the blinds.. compared to what I grew up with on the 90s

@LikeMyHeartIsAboutToStopBeating I'm going to look for smart lights at B and Q tomorrow. It's much nicer coming home to lights on.
How lovely to go and see your dd at uni, hope you have a lovely day with her and don't get too fleeced - I used to end up buying clothes, food shopping, taking them for a meal etc because I couldn't let go just wanted to look after them really. Does she come home in the hols? I used to teach at a uni and those terms go past very fast.

@Aspecialplaceinhell Ha M@1st Sight... I've ast through a few of those... you kind of get engrossed despite yourself.
It's funny to think of what the younger gen will see as normal now. The idea of going somewhere without a mobile is unthinkable to the ones I know.

I'm late (urgh!) 30s and I got my first mobile when I started secondary school I don't really remember a time without a mobile.

I’m finally off antidepressants after 18 years. It took me a year to wean them. I’m now 10 days without and am questioning myself. I feel very low, lethargic, almost ill with no motivation just waiting till I can go back to bed. What I read says give it 3 months, other sources say it will improve after 1 month. Just want to keep this thread going as well as I like reading about ppls days

Well done @Nools24, that’s a big achievement.

I’ve been checking my phone all day waiting for a blast from the past to reply to my WhatsApp message. I feel like a teenager (although v happy and content with DP, so I feel kind of blindsided by this TBH). Other than that, I’ve been at my desk with a blanket, and we had spag bol for tea. I’m looking forward to an hour of uninterrupted reading time on my commute tomorrow…that’s me really.

Morning everyone, been awake for an hour. These middle of the night awakenings are all too common for me now and frustrating. I've got a full on day today (as per usual!) let's just hope I have the energy and will power to muster through it all.

Hello everyone, what a lovely thread.

Sorry you woke early, Nogodsnomasters, do you know why?

I got a couple of hours (I have COVID so difficult to sleep without coughing) then woke up agitating about my father, who is in hospital, and can't get back to sleep. Been looking at craft blogs to try to calm down.

Seems to be a repeat pattern at the moment for the last few months. I have bad anxiety and a lot of stress at the moment so I put it down to that.

Sorry you have covid that really sucks. I hope your dad is okay ❤️ looking at craft blogs is a great idea, I look at Pinterest to calm down.

I'm unwell. I was ill got better and am now ill again.

Trying to stop myself spiralling as there's a lot in my life I'm not happy about at the moment.

That's rotten umbrella, just when you think you're getting over something and then get struck down again it's the worst.

I feel so physically run down today, probably the lack of sleep and stress getting to me. Heads banging, shoulders are so, body feels like a dead weight. Got a plumber due in an hour to fix my loo and once he's gone I'm getting into the biggest bubble bath ever.

Hi all, learning to forgive yourself is so important.

Sending love and prayers to the ones who commented before me. Hope things gets lighter for us all. ❤

Hi everyone, anxiety today over my chronic illnesses (I have health anxiety) and no matter how long I live with these diagnoses when things flare up I STILL get super scared 🙈 going to make a pot of GF vegetable soup this afternoon with my son.

Hope everyone else is doing okay with their Thursdays!

Today has been a good day. I had a phone call at quarter past nine from a physio. We talked for a while and he then visited at 12:00. He assessed my wife, and how I help her. He told me that the way I help her move is good for her.
He will speak to her GP and visit us again. Such a great help.

That's great news John, I'm sure that was reassuring to hear it from a professional! You're doing a wonderful job looking after your wife.

Hope you got a bit more sleep @Nogodsnomasters

Anxiety is so hard to keep coping with.

I'm finding it really draining, but better than at the weekend thank goodness. What annoys me so much is I'm really fortunate in practical/material things, I can pay my bills, have a car and okay physical health etc. But I just can't get to a content/calm place mentally at the moment. It's doing my head in.

Bloody clocks going back won't help - what fucker dreamt that up?

That's brightened my day @OldJohn Keep going! You're doing a great job by the sound of it 👌

This is such a lovely thread

@OldJohn I enjoy reading your updates and you are doing a sterling job!

Thanks for all the positive comments.
Things are not so good now. My wife was admitted to hospital yesterday as her GP thinks she had a stroke. I am sitting with her and she is sleeping at nearly mid day today. Iwish she would stop snoring
The good news is that intensive physiotherapy will help her.

@OldJohn I’m so sorry to hear about your wife. She knows you are with her and I hope you are getting a little rest too. It’s amazing what physios can do these days. It sounds like you’re fighting her corner and she is lucky to have such a good husband. Take good care of yourself.

I am now 2 weeks completely free from antidepressants after 18 years. I am trying to prioritize my mental health. This is he first day I have not had an agenda but I’m doing ok. I don’t think I can have two days agenda free because my mood plummets. I’m delighted to be off them. I feel more clear headed and strong in myself.

Well done @Nools24 what a fantastic achievement. It’s so good you recognise what might make things easier each day. I hope your agenda-based day tomorrow goes swimmingly!

@OldJohn how is your wife doing?