Aibu not telling new partner about diagnosis

[Bpdqueen]

Iv been seeing a new guy for about 3 months now and things have been going great and I'm worried that if I tell him I have bpd he will leave. Aibu to keep this secret from him.

yes you did. severly so.

I never laid a finger on either of them

the point would be to give him the chance to decide for himself if he want to stay in the relationship, knowing what OP is capable of

he's a human being, not a toy in OP's game of do-over perfect families...

Everything you post is a lie. There is zero chance your CPN reacted that way to you supposedly being pregnant.

abuse doesn't have to be psysical

Yes because abuse is only physical, there aren’t any other forms.

Hopefully the CPN will do her job properly and immediately inform SS. Who will do their job properly, expose you as the liar and abuser you are to your poor partner and remove the newborn before you get chance to even breathe in their direction.

I told her I was scared of the baby being taken and she told me everything will be fine aslong as I engage. What was she supposed to do march me down to the abortion clinic

She isn’t a social worker or a judge so what she says is irrelevant.

No i wasn't on contraception as the baby was very much planned and wanted

Wanted by you, on a whim, maybe, but you've just admitted he knew nothing about it!

I suspect op told cpn a selective version of reality, not that she deliberately got pg or has only know her p a short time and that he is unaware of her issues or history.

This is such bullshit.

I'll be honest, I think this is a troll post. I know that some of the medications you listed can't be taken during pregnancy without risking birth defects. My psychiatrist would not let me take medication if I were at risk of pregnancy.

If this is a troll post, you're making a mockery of all the people who actually have BPD, their families, partners and friends.

I've reported it but MN obviously disagree. I think it's an obvious wind-up

Neglect is abuse OP.

Everyone can belive or not believe what they want i couldn't care less. Thanks for Everyone who has been supportive and encouraged me to reach out to my mh team. I know iv dome things others don't like or agree with but u know nothing about my life or my past. Regarding the medication I'm seeing the psychiatrist this week to discuss that. My mh team are going to support me all the way and I will prove to everyone I have changed

I’ve reported it but MN obviously disagree. I think it's an obvious wind-up

Agreed. The sudden pregnancy is too much. And if by a slim chance it’s real, the OP is beyond meaningful help. Not worth engaging further.

Setraline, quetiapine and lorazepam are all safe in early pregnancy

Sudden pregnancy we've been having unprotected sex for 6 weeks its hardly shocking

6 weeks is two fertile windows at very best, one of which would have just happened and wouldn’t result in a + test. To have had a + test, you would have had to have started your cycle within days of stopping the pill. It’s not impossible but it is highly unlikely.

About half of women get pregnant the first month of stopping the pill but im glad you think you no better then a nurse who came round my house with the pregnancy test and was here why I took it

I never said you weren’t pregnant, I was pointing out that you have suddenly got pregnant because you stopped the pill within weeks of meeting your partner. Fucking psycho behaviour.

no, they don't. only 6 out of 10 women your age will get pregnant in a YEAR of trying. Where'd you pull that number from?

I was sympathetic at first but now I’m thinking that this is either a wind up or OP has no insight at all. If it’s a wind up it’s disrespectful to people who are struggling with BPD and trying their best. If it’s true OP you need to start being more honest with everyone for your own sake.

Whether this thread is a wind up or not, it is likely to have done damage to how people with BPD/EUPD are perceived by people who read it.

I started reading this thread with no preconceptions of BPD/EUPD and a general sympathetic attitude for anyone with mental health challenges seeing that I have such challenges too. I was rooting for OP and hoping she could find a way to being honest and open with her boyfriend and, hopefully, establishing a safe and nurturing relationship.

After having read this thread though, I'm afraid that I feel less open to giving the benefit of the doubt to those with BPD/EUPD. The potential risks for one's own mental, physical and emotional safety and peace of mind appear to be high.

If this thread is genuine, my sympathies are with the OP's boyfriend and children. May they emerge from this with the least damage possible. To the OP, I hope you find a way to see the implications of your actions and to limit the damage you are doing to yourself and others.

This is what my cpn said