What would happen if I didn’t collect DS from after school club?

[Confusedandtired21]

Just that really? Due to be collected before 6pm
I feel beyond able to cope with life at the moment. I have Adhd, asd and bipolar. No one can help so that’s that! So if I didn’t collect him what would happen to him. Would children’s services just get involved? I don’t want this for him but I feel like I don’t have much options left. He’s not hard work or anything, he’s a lovely boy which makes this even harder. I just think he’s he would better off in a different situation with someone other than me

Could you ask that person to read this thread? Or copy and paste some of your more emotional sentences into and email and explain that whilst you couldn't say this out loud, this is how you are feeling.

Don't give up. There will be support out there for you and your DS.

It's not selfishness, we know you're desperate but there is another way and you have to try and find it. Do you have a psychiatrist? Who adjusts your bipolar meds? Please don't give up.

@Confusedandtired21

I wish I had the guts to just end it all but I don’t. I just keep imagining his little face. Then I keep thinking what if I ended it but made it look like an accident, like hypothermia if I stayed out all night. I know it sounds ridiculous but I can’t live this

Go and collect him then phone the local social services out of hours line. Or phone the Samaritans. Please.

Fluffycloudland77 I’m on lithium but apparently not in the therapeutic range yet. Not allowed antidepressants

@Roselilly36

That is beyond selfish to even consider doing such a thing, if you can’t cope and need help get help tomorrow or tonight should you be in crisis, but do not abandon your child.

She is mentally unwell. Not deliberately being selfish. She can't think straight.

OP, you are not being selfish. You are sick. You need kindness and compassion, not judgement. It's hard to know how to help you from the end of a computer screen but just know that your son thinks the world of you and that it IS possible to get through this. Maybe the first step is to loudly ask for help and not stop until you get it. Keep posting here and good luck.

Your not being selfish. Your ill and desperate.

What you need now is a plan for this evening. It’s nearly time to pick him up so what can you do to keep yourselves safe tonight? Can you ask someone to come and be with you?

I don’t have a social worker. And no I have no one to help tonight.

Samaritans?
Can you go and get him, make a basic tea, and then call for help?
We are with you. Keep posting.

Roaelilly6 That is beyond selfish to even consider doing such a thing, if you can’t cope and need help get help tomorrow or tonight should you be in crisis, but do not abandon your child.

Yes I know xx

Can you ask the school to put him in a taxi if you don't feel like you can go out and collect him?

Op could you please give us an idea of your location? I know how hard it can be but please do collect your little boy xx He will not be collected for hours, will go into out of hours so could end up in Accomodation for much older children and miles away as well. Poor wee mite xx

1. go and get your boy
2. feed him. Cereal will do.
3. settle him in front of the tv
4. call for help - Samaritans, a friend, social services emergency line, whoever you feel most comfortable with. If you can’t articulate it, ask if you can send screenshots of what you’ve written here.

You can do this. You can.

I’m in bolton. I’m going to go and get him. I just can’t even do the basics right now. Cant even imagine sorting tea etc uniform. Not possible.I’ve just not got it in me anymore.
Everything’s a mess in the house, complete chaos and I’m usually so tidy!

Just order him a take away get in bed watch tv and let him fall asleep in your bed

Tomorrow you ring your GP and show them this thread if you can't cope

Social services too

You need to go get him now so you aren't late

I just want to send you a big hug. Please please reach out to the services. You’re not alone. Even if it’s a bunch of strangers on Mumsnet.

@Confusedandtired21

I’m in bolton. I’m going to go and get him. I just can’t even do the basics right now. Cant even imagine sorting tea etc uniform. Not possible.I’ve just not got it in me anymore. Everything’s a mess in the house, complete chaos and I’m usually so tidy!

Ok don't worry about the mess. Cereal for dinner is fine... don't worry if he misses bathtime for one night. PJ's on... snuggle on sofa and watch something funny on TV...well done for deciding to get him

AttaGirrrl I can’t ring services etc as I just can’t seem to explain! So everyone thinks I’m fine, I just struggle with the words of what to say. And can never start the conversation. It’s ridiculous

Your son loves you. He would not be better off without you. Losing a mother is about the worst that can happen to a child.

Mothers don't have to be perfect - which is good, because we aren't.

It sounds like you've done good things already, trying to tell people how bad you're feeling today. You need to keep trying to tell your mental health team.

Write things down and show school, your GP, someone. They can then contact social services on your behalf and with your consent to get the ball rolling for proper support for you both.

It’s not going to be sorted overnight obviously but asking for the help is a big hurdle sorted.

I think you can text or email the Samaritans? Hugs, OP, it’s so hard

@Confusedandtired21

Roaelilly6 That is beyond selfish to even consider doing such a thing, if you can’t cope and need help get help tomorrow or tonight should you be in crisis, but do not abandon your child.

Yes I know xx

You're not selfish , you're ill.

I was in hosp as an impatient In sept after being under home treatment team from June till sept, and I’m not sure I should have come out so early