What would happen if I didn’t collect DS from after school club?

[Confusedandtired21]

Just that really? Due to be collected before 6pm
I feel beyond able to cope with life at the moment. I have Adhd, asd and bipolar. No one can help so that’s that! So if I didn’t collect him what would happen to him. Would children’s services just get involved? I don’t want this for him but I feel like I don’t have much options left. He’s not hard work or anything, he’s a lovely boy which makes this even harder. I just think he’s he would better off in a different situation with someone other than me

@Confusedandtired21

Alcohol services (achieve) said I need counselling, but cmht said no, so hard to know who to listen too!

Counselling in the future once your MH is stabilized

@Confusedandtired21

How do I change the monotonous voice etc?

Contact an ASD service to ask about that. There must be a helpline somewhere. Like any behaviour, I expect you could make some improvement with practice. Or learn to point it out to people that you do this, educate them on ASD a bit so they do a better job of assessing you.

Honestly I wouldn’t be concerned about the voice as that is just part of you. I think you could learn to speak slightly differently but I think it’s a bit of a red herring.

Did you exercise this morning? I have put my gym kit on and will exercise after I have done the school run

Yes I did do the exercise and it almost killed me! Lol. Then children’s services came today and it seems they have no concerns really so I doubt any support is coming from them. They just said my kids were lovely, chatty and happy and that last time they came they went away saying what a lovely house i have (like that matters 🙄 but anyway) so yeah, I’m expecting the case to be closed really!
But on a positive note I got a message from boots today saying my Adhd prescription is ready so I’ll collect it tomorrow after talking DS to camhs. Can’t wait to try the instant release. However I’ve got a feeling if I metabolise the extended release so fast it will be the same for the instant release. I’ve got both extended release and instant release prescribed anyway, so we shall see!
Oh and the school nurse saw my 10 year old for an emotional well-being check today, she phoned me saying everything is fine and all he said was that he doesn’t like school and would rather be at home because it’s better, oh and that he’s worried for secondary school in sept. So yeah, at least I know he’s ok.

And yes I should educate them on asd presentations actually! I told the social worker today that I can say the words when I’m really down and at rock bottom, but because I struggle expressing the emotion/feeling (which is literally a symptom of asd) no one takes me seriously. They just think that because I sound ok and don’t sound sad/not crying or emotional etc, that I’m fine. But there’s nothing I can do about that, so it is what it is I suppose. And I doubt I can change my voice. Apparently it lacks prosody (that’s what my last psych report said) also I take rapidly all the time lol

and I’ve tried talking slower etc in the past, but I just can’t do it! It feels unnatural and quite painful. My brain must go too fast to talk at a normal speed. Don’t know if that’s the asd or Adhd? Don’t suppose it matters really does it

I really wouldn’t worry about the voice tone:speed. It’s just part of you. You’ve got friends you’ve got happy kids, that’s all you need.

Good luck with the new meds- I’m sure there will be a transition where you adjust to how they make you feel, would it be an idea to keep a diary of each day just to monitor it?

You sound like a brilliant mum with a happy hour. Take comfort in that.

I would like to add that , having had experience with alcohol services, they are very hit and miss. Not knocking them, but the councellors (alcohol) often have have limited training and are not experts in complex mental health issues like yours (and mine).
I would definitely be taking the advice to stabilise your moods with medication before any counselling.
Great news about the SW’s and school’s comments re your children. You must be doing something right. Hang in there and I sincerely hope your upward path, if rocky and one step forward one step back, continues.
X

Bunce1 thank you so much :)
Day 1 back on the meds and I feel great!!
So much more chilled, more cheerful ans patient, and my head is silent! Honestly a massive difference.

Nevercloser thank you :)
And you’re probably right about the counselling, don’t want to end up making things worse do I. I’m not sure if it’d be helpful anyway to be honest. Can think about it again a few months maybe.
Got my Adhd meds back today and took one earlier and I feel great, finally :) like night and day.

Amazing!

Look how far you’ve come x

Although it seems like children's services haven't helped you, it's because you didn't need help from them directly, the children were fine, so the help has been going on behind the scenes. They'll have been giving the other organisations involved with you a massive boot up the backside to get them to do what they need to do, so that you've no need of children's services because you're coping better. And it's worked. Since children's services have been involved, suddenly your 15 year olds ADHD assessment has been bumped up the wait list, your ADHD meds have been re-prescribed, you've been urgently referred to alcohol services (although it turns out that wasn't the right service for you) and you're on somebody's to-do list for counselling in the future. So it really has been worth telling people you weren't coping.

It's the same with the school, they'll have contacted your MH team to raise their concerns too, as well as children's services. So although there was nothing much the school could do directly (except keeping an eye on your kids), their involvement has helped you be taken seriously as someone who needs help from other places.

None of it has been a waste of time. You did the right thing reaching out for help. I'm glad to hear you're feeling so much better. This has been a difficult time for you and you've shown great strength.

Well the Adhd assessment for DS has been pushed by me without a doubt with no input from children’s services, school haven’t even heard from them in that regard, they’ve been in touch with school, but only to see if they have any concerns.
My Adhd meds have only been reinstated because I’ve gone to a private clinic while I’m waiting (over a year!!!) for the nhs clinic, no outside input there.
Alcohol services must have been in contact with me because of children’s services or it would have been a massive coincidence as I last spoke to them over 2 years ago and heard nothing until recently, so must have been.
However there doesn’t seem to be much alcohol devices can do for me because they say it’s my mental health that’s a problem not a dependency problem, so that’s that. Which is good! I’d rather not be an alcoholic.
So actually so far… I can’t actually see how they have helped! I’m sure they have and I’m just not seeing it or something, but really I’m not seeing a difference lol.

Oh perhaps I misunderstood then. Hope you get whatever you need and they don't all just drop you to deal with everything alone.

Hope you’re doing ok @Confusedandtired21