What would happen if I didn’t collect DS from after school club?

[Confusedandtired21]

Just that really? Due to be collected before 6pm
I feel beyond able to cope with life at the moment. I have Adhd, asd and bipolar. No one can help so that’s that! So if I didn’t collect him what would happen to him. Would children’s services just get involved? I don’t want this for him but I feel like I don’t have much options left. He’s not hard work or anything, he’s a lovely boy which makes this even harder. I just think he’s he would better off in a different situation with someone other than me

Please don’t do that to him. Yes social services will be called, after a period of him sitting waiting and worrying about what has happened to you. Go and get him and get him to bed early. Tomorrow- call social services yourself and ask for an assessment. Tell them everything you’re experiencing.

As tempting as it may be I wouldn’t just leave him at after school club. That’s not fair on him, the staff or you.

Can you talk to someone at school tomorrow to ask for support? Or do you have your own medical team who can support and signpost?

Good luck

Go and get him, don’t put him through that.

They would call the police abs the safeguarding team. Don't do it, get him and then ring the school tomorrow, speak to the head and ask for help in accessing services to help you. Ring Samaritans or 999 if you feel desperate x

Is there someone that can keep you company and safe tonight?

Do you have access to the local crisis team?

You need to access help for you both.

Good luck and remember that things will get better

OP I have ADHD too, and I have days and even weeks like this. I have a son, who also has ADHD along with autism. I promise that your son, and even the world would not be happier without you, you just need some help. Please struggle through tonight, no matter how hard and go speak to either the school or a healthcare professional tomorrow. Things can get better, I promise. Feel free to DM me

@Confusedandtired21 sweetheart please reach out to someone in RL and get some support.

Just take it a bit at a time but you do need support. 🤗

Hi OP, I know it's hard but as you've said you keep thinking of him. Our children keep us going on bad days. Please collect him and then call social services if things are really that bad but please don't leave him. He needs you, just as much as you need him right now

That is beyond selfish to even consider doing such a thing, if you can’t cope and need help get help tomorrow or tonight should you be in crisis, but do not abandon your child.

Yes I have a mental health team but never seem to get across how I’m feeling to them, with my asd I seem to struggle expressing feeling. But never mind!
I don’t want to do anything to him that would hurt him and the thought of him being at after school club and waiting for me is horrible (he is autistic too)
I just dint see a way out at the moment and it’s weak and ridiculous.
I have spoke to children’s services. And school! Who rang my mental health team today on my behalf. I also sent an email to nspcc.

I'm sorry things are so difficult. You're doing an amazing job and your son loves you. Please don't do this to him. Definitely reach out for help though. Sending you hugs!!

Your ds won’t be better off without you. Please ring Samaritans

Can you write down how your feeling and give that to the mental health team? Sometimes it’s easy to write it than say it.

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Life just feels overwhelming right now and I don’t think my difficulties are helping much.

Your son is not better off without you. He needs his mum....I hope you can get some real life support asap

Someone on duty from my mental health team came out to see me today because my cpn is on annual leave but didn’t help really.

Oh please don't do this. I know it's so tough but I grew up in care after my mother got rid of me and it was terrible I was abused and everything.

Please contact your GP for help. You can get through this.

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.

We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources. You can also go to the Samaritans website or email them on [email protected]. Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.

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Go and get your little lad.
Do you have any friends/family who you could both go and stay with for the night?
Your boy will have been enjoying his club knowing his Mum will be picking him up. He will be expecting you. Please go.
Things will get better OP and I know that seems completely unfathomable at the moment but it's true. Reach out. I did and now I hardly recognise myself looking back. Honest.

You don't say but does DS have another parent he can go to for a bit, even if you are not together. This happened to a friend of mine. Really struggling to cope and DC living with their dad at the moment while she gets herself sorted.

If you are feeling suicidal are you taking any anti depressants? Are you on medication for your Bipolar. If you are feeling this bad, medication could help

If working can you get signed off work so you can get some time during the day for yourself?

Any other family members that can help?

You've done absolutely the right thing to contact services for support. This too shall pass. Your son absolutely needs you around.

where do you live? do you have family or friends that can come and help you tonight? or take your son for the night? please keep asking for help, write it down if you need to. dont give up xx

Yes I know I’m being selfish

you are not weak and you are not ridiculous.
You are desperately struggling and you need and deserve help.
I am so sorry you are feeling this way.
If you find it hard to express verbally, could you write down how you are feeling and give it to your SW?

I am far more eloquent in writing than verbally. I think a lot of us on the spectrum are.

You are not alone. I promise.

Are you on the right meds? Dh was close to the edge on the wrong drugs.

It’s not your fault your ill. You write well, could you write down how you are feeling? MH nurses should be able to understand some conditions make communication hard.

If you feel your close to ending it you can ring for an ambulance, I had to do it for a relative, they assessed them and got them in with a dr that night who prescribed diazepam and mh nursing also rang me at 10pm offering diazepam.