What would happen if I didn’t collect DS from after school club?

[Confusedandtired21]

Just that really? Due to be collected before 6pm
I feel beyond able to cope with life at the moment. I have Adhd, asd and bipolar. No one can help so that’s that! So if I didn’t collect him what would happen to him. Would children’s services just get involved? I don’t want this for him but I feel like I don’t have much options left. He’s not hard work or anything, he’s a lovely boy which makes this even harder. I just think he’s he would better off in a different situation with someone other than me

Oh that was blurry,.. I’ll try again

Your house looks fantastic @Confusedandtired21! So Christmassy and cosy, really beautiful, I hope you're feeling a little better after all your efforts to tidy and put things in order. Well done and enjoy it!

It’s so beautiful!

Can you come and do mine?!

@Bunce1 I’d love too! Haha. Love doing things like this

Well the social workers have been and gone and spoke to the kids, the kids were happy talking to them upstairs (2 of them came this time)
They said they’ll see me on Tuesday with a plan.
I asked them … “so you’re not going to take my kids then?” They said no and laughed so I said that’s a shame lol.
Anyway only posting this on here because no one in real life knows what’s going on so only place I can talk about it! Although I’m sure I’ve bored you all by now!
And they told me my house was really lovely, so all the tidying obviously payed off!

I think that’s so great, and reassuring.

They know you need support and they also know that you’re kids are loved and safe. All in all a brilliant outcome!

I feel much more positive about life today :) thank you everyone for your support

And my 15 year old loved his first day at camhs cbt group therapy session this morning (I didn’t, I had to wait and walk round the hospital for almost 2 hours waiting for him 😳 was torture!) I thought he was going to hate it and not engage as he’s not engaged with anything with camhs so far, but I’m so happy that I was wrong :)
I asked him if he enjoyed it when he came out, and he said “sure” and for my son that means that he really liked it! As he usually just says he hates everything.

@Confusedandtired21 I'm so happy you're feeling a bit better overall! You are so strong, I can't believe it. Not bored at all to hear your updates. Was very worried for you initially, and it's good to know life is feeling a little bit brighter ❤️

CONFUSED 😀
Your house and Christmas tree look absolutely fabulous. I’m inspired, really, to do my own house. I don’t have your problems but I have my own and I have so much sympathy for you and also immense admiration. You’ve dragged yourself up and you can do it again when things gets bad. Your kids will be ok. Just keep pushing for the help you need. They really aren’t going to take your kids if you keep trying and accepting help. Like previous posters have said, SS do not want to take children away from their parents. They do want to support you to keep the family together.
Keep posting here if you think it helps. We’re all here for you and understand and wish you all the vet best for your future.
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Nobody is bored. We all just want to help.
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Well done on your sons appt. that’s a result. In the spirit of Christmas I have plonked one dec in a plant that is very much on its way out!

I need to have a word with myself

How are you doing CONFUSED ?

You’re house looks fab. 😀😀😀

@Confusedandtired21 your house is lovely! I was laughing when you posted the "messy" house photos. You have no idea what mess is! Your decorations are fab

I’m doing ok.
School messaged me today asking if I was happy with her sending all the info I’d told her and sent to her over class dojo to the social worker, I said I don’t know because now I’m panicking about it! So she rang me and convinced me it was a good idea. So that’s that! So worried about it! But it is what it is I suppose!
Had to take 10 year old to pick up new glasses after school, so took him Nando’s while we were out and went and bought some gifts for eldest son while we were there, was horrendous, anxiety was sky high! Felt in the verge of panic. Waiting for a taxi in the dark afterwards was horrible, so paranoid! But… I did it! Yay.
Tomorrow will be a busy morning! Gp rang me today to say my cholesterol is high (not surprisingly as I’ve lived solely of takeaway for months now 😮) so I have to go see a healthier lifestyle practitioner in the morning at half 8, so early morning to get DS to breakfast club at 7.30, then I have my appt with the Adhd specialist at 11 via video link, then my CPN is coming round at 12!
And I have an appointment arranged for Monday with alcohol services, seeing as I seem to turn to alcohol in times of crisis! Then social worker Tuesday, then camhs with DS on Wednesday, gosh I feel exhausted just thinking of all the things I’ve got to do! Lol
Sorry for the long post!!

Bunce1 you’ve gone all out 😃

SMBC2020 it felt so messy! It was stressing me out so much, just felt like absolute chaos! Could not cope! Haha

Your home looks beautiful. So pleased you're getting some help. Alcohol services is a great idea. Hopefully they'll be able to help you find something else to do at those times. Better to nip it in the bud regards inappropriate alcohol use, before it becomes a real problem. Good news that your DS is happy to engage with his therapy group too.

The whole Nando’s experience sounds full on, but such a brave thing to do. And you did it.

Sounds like you do have a busy few days coming up I like to keep a written list of things like that as I get stressed and then forget. My list lives on the kitchen counter.

Would you like some help about meal planning? That seems like a nice quick fix for you and your kids and think of the £ you’ll save!!

Good news! Saw the nurse this morning, and after looking at my results she said that my cholesterol is only high because I have a high level of good cholesterol, my bad cholesterol levels are very low, phew 😃

Still bought salmon and veg to make for tea though after my panic!

Small wins and small swaps.

Salmon and veg sounds lovely. I like it baked in the over with a bit of that squirty ginger, garlic and lemon grass paste that you get in the tubes at the salad section of the supermarket, a splash of soy sauce and little splash of fish sauce. Then serve it with veg over rice. Dead easy. Very tasty. Also works well with chicken breasts, or even tofu.

Oh it’s a good day so far! Just spoke to the Adhd specialist and she’s reinstated my elvanse and added an immediate release to take in the afternoons because I told her that the elvanse was wearing off at 2. Should get them back within a week.