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Can someone 'sit' with me?

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Youtwohumpedcamel · 20/01/2019 20:38

I have MH problems. This week I've been especially unwell.

It's all come to a head tonight. And I'm wanting to SH.

I don't really know exactly what I'm wanting from this thread. I feel incredibly lonely and I'm struggling with all my thoughts. I don't know what to do.

Can someone keep me company please?

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XmasPostmanBos · 20/01/2019 21:22

My mum likes to look at pictures of trees if she is upset she thinks they are very healing.

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Youtwohumpedcamel · 20/01/2019 21:23

I could go for a Bailey's hot chocolate Grin

I should go to bed. So first I need to pack things away. Why is it so hard??

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OdeToDiazepam · 20/01/2019 21:23

It's scary and confusing when you're struggling with mh, it's ok to feel like that. It sounds like you have lovely friends that care about you

courderoy · 20/01/2019 21:24

Have you tried the crisis team? Sometimes just the action of calling breaks the moment if you see what I mean.

What was the thank you chocolate for?

Happyinheels · 20/01/2019 21:24

I've got chocolate buttons too.

OP - it's hard to open up to friends sometimes. That's why I like it on here, we're anonymous. Don't worry about putting stuff away if it all seems too much effort right now.

XmasPostmanBos · 20/01/2019 21:24

I would stay up a bit longer and chat. Maybe the clearing up can wait?

Wordthe · 20/01/2019 21:25

I will sit with you too 🙂
🛋️

Potentialmadcatlady · 20/01/2019 21:26

I’m crap with mindfulness too but everyone keeps telling me it works 🤔😉.. so let’s not bother with that...
milky bar is lush... kids safe and warm and cosy in their beds is also lush... when I get really bad I hosp unto the fact that I am keeping my kids fed/safe/loved... everything else can go stuff itself as long as I can do that... who cares if it means McDs again... now actually I quite fancy a McFlurry or better still an egg McMuffin ( random)
I would love a big corner sofa but sadly my room isn’t the right shape...

Wordthe · 20/01/2019 21:26

I get why it can seem hard to tell friends what's going on, it can seem like too much to put on them I think?

Hmm12121 · 20/01/2019 21:27

I’m assuming you want to pack some things away to keep yourself safe? We can help you (in a virtual sense) hold your hand while you pack them away.

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Youtwohumpedcamel · 20/01/2019 21:28

I've never really had this scared confused feeling like this. It's so scary not knowing which thoughts to believe.

I did the school run for her a few times when her other children were ill.

I always go to ask for help and then I play it down when it comes to it.

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Wordthe · 20/01/2019 21:28

Pack those things away
pack them all away out of sight

Wordthe · 20/01/2019 21:28

Out of sight is out of mind

Apileofballyhoo · 20/01/2019 21:28

I don't tell people either. I'm sure it's related to mental health conditions, not feeling you can tell anyone.

Apileofballyhoo · 20/01/2019 21:30

You could tell us some of the thoughts?

Hmm12121 · 20/01/2019 21:30

Would it help to tell us what those thoughts are?

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Youtwohumpedcamel · 20/01/2019 21:33

That's exactly it, it's a lot to put on other people. I don't like to do anything that might cause a fuss.

My kids are my main focus, we all like Maccys. It's tough being a single Mum with MH problems. I doubt myself so much. But they're happy and healthy.

Yeah I need to pack unsafe things away. I guess I haven't yet decided it's not needed.

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Disfordarkchocolate · 20/01/2019 21:35

I've found when I've reached out to friends that so many people have had some form of MH problem that I have felt far less alone.

Hmm12121 · 20/01/2019 21:37

It’s bloody hard being a single mum isn’t it, and mine are teenagers and fairly easy!
You are obviously a fab mum. Mine are also my main focus and when I feel low, I think about how they would be affected if something happened to me. They are the only reason I stay safe.

courderoy · 20/01/2019 21:38

I get that. It is times like this that the crisis team is there for if that helps, they won’t think you are making a fuss.

What are you up to? Just sitting or tv / music? I’m watching crappy tv...

OdeToDiazepam · 20/01/2019 21:39

Could you listen to some music like I suggested? If you have a little sing along it naturally helps to relax your breathing too.

It's hard when you get into a negative thought cycle

Hmm12121 · 20/01/2019 21:39

How many children do you have?

Apileofballyhoo · 20/01/2019 21:39

Yes to not causing a fuss, I'm the same. Just used to getting through things on my own. Though I think if my friend came to me for help or support, I wouldn't think in a million years that they were causing a fuss.

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Youtwohumpedcamel · 20/01/2019 21:39

The thoughts are that no one likes me, that I'm not good enough, that people are plotting against me, that I'm doing things wrong, that my bf is going to break up with me.

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XmasPostmanBos · 20/01/2019 21:40

Online friends are the best. I love chatting on MN support threads and I have a weight loss forum I find helpful.also sometimes easier to put your thoughts into writing.