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To think is this it?

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Isthisit33 · 20/02/2018 22:46

I go to work. I come home.

Then I go to work and come home.

Five days a week. Then weekends I sit.

No money to do anything, nothing I really want to do anyway. No one to do it with.

Sometimes I feel like even in jail I might have people to talk to.

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SavageBeauty73 · 20/02/2018 23:15

I think you need to see the dr and try antidepressants again. You sound incredibly depressed.

Does anything make you happy? Food? Music?

Huntinginthedark · 20/02/2018 23:15

If counselling is not for you then think about how you and that voice in your head co-habit, because it sounds like the voice has a lot of power over you.
I’ve had a shit counsellor and then one who really made me start to see some self worth. Because feeling like you do, is about “self”

homefromworklate · 20/02/2018 23:15

How about getting a pet, they can be great company, gives you a purpose as they need you're love and attention. If you get a dog then they get you out of the house.

Or maybe offer to walk dogs for the local dog rescues ?

virtualreality · 20/02/2018 23:16

How do you think we can help you OP?

You have to want to help yourself first and I mean that in the best possible way.

You won't go to GP, anti depressants are not on the cards so what do you think might help you. Think it through.

Why have you no disposable funds even for a night or day out? Is money an issue... you work full time, you have no dependants, child care costs etc. so is there a reason you are so short of money to do things?

Just teasing it out, and I am trying to be kind, even if it doesn't sound like I am.

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Isthisit33 · 20/02/2018 23:16

Other people can make me feel sad, they have the things I don’t and sometimes getting s tiny bit of company is worse than none, like how getting a tiny bit of sleep is worse than none.

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crunchymint · 20/02/2018 23:16

What about moving into a shared house? Or volunteering? You need to be talking to people outside of work.

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Isthisit33 · 20/02/2018 23:17

I don’t really virtual like I say I am waiting to die. I have no hope left and I am done.

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Mumoftwoyoungkids · 20/02/2018 23:17

Swimming is good for feeling a bit less alone without having to make conversation.

If you go at about the same time every week and swim lengths you will soon find that you keep seeing the same people. You all nod and smile at each other but conversation is nicely limited to “after you”, “how many have you done” and “see you next week”.

The exercise will help with your mood as well.

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Isthisit33 · 20/02/2018 23:17

I’m in a shared house it’s awful.

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Isthisit33 · 20/02/2018 23:18

No, sorry, I don’t want to just do activities alone and see people. I might as well just do what I do. I know I am negative I know this will annoy people. But I am so far beyond help.

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crunchymint · 20/02/2018 23:18

So none of them are friendly at all?

bastardkitty · 20/02/2018 23:19

@Isthisit33 You have a 'No' for every single suggestion. Literally. You sound very stuck. And very low. But you have placed yourself beyond all help at the moment. How did things get so bad?

bastardkitty · 20/02/2018 23:19

Whoops - cross post!

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Isthisit33 · 20/02/2018 23:20

None of who?

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Lostin3dspace · 20/02/2018 23:21

FAir dos, some shared houses are bloody awful and might be the root of your problem, particularly not being keen to interact with people, despite being lonely.
There's many people on these boards married with children, but they're still lonely!

virtualreality · 20/02/2018 23:21

Talk to Samaritans. They will be human contact and will listen and empathise with you. Human contact is good even if anonymous, just like here.

If you feel like checking out, there is not a damn thing anyone can do about it, but YOU CAN do something about it if you want to.

Huntinginthedark · 20/02/2018 23:21

Tiny tiny steps.
And start believing in yourself. When you have a conversation in your mind about something negative, let it not swamp you (easier said than done I know)
It’s impossible to be able to really help you in internet land, but I can tell you know, that you do have something to contribute to life.

I have a friend like you, and I can tell you, I don’t see him as negatively as he sees himself, but he struggles to see himself as I see him. If that makes sense!

Try and view yourself outside of your punishing voice. Because that voice is not real.

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Isthisit33 · 20/02/2018 23:21

It would be nice if that was the case virtual.

Sadly some of us really are just that hopeless.

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cloudrunner · 20/02/2018 23:22

Have you read Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine? Amazing novel published a year ago. Its heroine feels exactly as you do. Work, home, home, work; isolated, purposeless.
I know you don't feel inclined to do anything at all but you might like to try a book that starts from exactly where you feel yourself to be.

Justaboy · 20/02/2018 23:22

You are down in those old dumps isthisit!.

OK you are rather depressed and thats not a very good place ot be you've seen the doctor they have prescribed antidepressants and they may not have worked that well or had adverse side effects.

I have known a fewe people in the past in your situation and three of them got rather better with one thing in common - excercise!.

Ok you don't have to faff around running a marathon but one of them got a small dog that she had to walk and that made her feel a lot better about things overall, plus she made an unquestioning four legged friend in the process;)

Can you say when you do for work if you don't mind me asking?

CalleighDoodle · 20/02/2018 23:23

do you enjoy being miserable?

virtualreality · 20/02/2018 23:23

YOU feel hopeless because you have no hope in yourself.

Speak to Samaritans just once even and try it out. Totally anonymous and non judgmental. You never know.

mellicauli · 20/02/2018 23:23

If money was no object, what would you do?

gimmesomeapachepizza · 20/02/2018 23:23

ah you're back again.

You consistently ignore any and all advice anyone gives you and never answer peoples questions.

Like if you work full time and never go anywhere or do anything. how come you have no money?

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Isthisit33 · 20/02/2018 23:23

Lol I hated that book, so boring.

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