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To think is this it?

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Isthisit33 · 20/02/2018 22:46

I go to work. I come home.

Then I go to work and come home.

Five days a week. Then weekends I sit.

No money to do anything, nothing I really want to do anyway. No one to do it with.

Sometimes I feel like even in jail I might have people to talk to.

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Isthisit33 · 20/02/2018 23:02

Probably depressed but I’m not going to see anyone about it. I’ve tried to see the gp before and haven’t found anti depressants very helpful really.

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Lostin3dspace · 20/02/2018 23:03

You need to volunteer for something - that solves the no money aspect. Try conservation work, or Guiding, or - you can volunteer at festivals and gigs.

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Isthisit33 · 20/02/2018 23:03

I’ve tried it before.

It isn’t for me tbh.

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TamzinGrey · 20/02/2018 23:03

Flowers I've been where you are now, and it was soul destroying. I feel for you. What worked for me was to work out the that I cared most about ( cats and history) , and then find some volunteering opportunities. Now I divide my spare time between a cat sanctuary and a stately home and my life has changed completely.

GodIsDead · 20/02/2018 23:04

Hmmm...ok then. I said the exact same things up until I met DH so I understand your pessimism...unless you're opposed to meeting someone, in which case I can't relate. Even in my darkest hours I secretly hoped for someone to come along and save me from my misery.

All I'm saying is that your life can change when you least expect it. I hope things get better for you OP.

PM me if you want to talk.

Lostin3dspace · 20/02/2018 23:04

Depending on your beliefs, Try church! (Or equivalent) Always plenty to volunteer for in your local Church / Mosque / Temple

TheSnowFairy · 20/02/2018 23:05

This will be it unless you change.

You've had some decent suggestions as to how to make positive changes.

Famous saying - if you do what you always did, you'll get what you've always got...

Redcliff · 20/02/2018 23:05

How about downloading the free couch to 5k app and starting a running plan . once your up to 5k you can do your local park run and meet people - will also give you a goal. My mood is really improved with exercise

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Isthisit33 · 20/02/2018 23:05

I think this is what I will get. I am really just waiting to die and I hope it happens soon.

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Isthisit33 · 20/02/2018 23:06

I don’t really want to meet other people.

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pallisers · 20/02/2018 23:06

Can you think of anything that interests you? Anything at all? Anything you would like to do a bit more of or learn a bit more about?

GodIsDead · 20/02/2018 23:07

And ffs do not try church. The last thing you need is to start playing make believe when you're already in a bad place. This is how cults thrive.

Ssssurvey · 20/02/2018 23:07
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silkpyjamasallday · 20/02/2018 23:07

You sound very depressed OP. Please go back to your GP and tell them how you are feeling, it doesn't need to be like this. Depression is an illness, you would get help if you'd broken your arm, you should get help when it's your mind too. Thanks

Lostin3dspace · 20/02/2018 23:07

But...I get where you're coming from, I've been there. It was almost as if I HAD to go through the miserable loneliness and wait for it to pass sufficiently enough for me to be able to motivate myself to change things. I just didn't have the mental energy. All I could manage was work / bare minimum housework / tv / sleep.
If you get a let up, then use the mentL energy to change things. While you wait, look up what there is you could join / volunteer for. So you are prepared on the next good day you have

Good luck

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Isthisit33 · 20/02/2018 23:09

It’s been like this since forever. I have on occasion really tried to change but I always end up here.

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Trailedanderror · 20/02/2018 23:09

Park run or volunteering. Nothing will change or just happen.
What one thing can you do? What would you be happy to do? A course, a one off event?

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SoftlyCatchyMonkey1 · 20/02/2018 23:10

Sorry if this sounds a bit naff but what a about reading a bloody good book?

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Isthisit33 · 20/02/2018 23:11

I do know nothing will change, or just happen. Park run and volunteering have already been tried. I have given up. I do not have the money to keep chasing friendships that don’t emerge.

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Huntinginthedark · 20/02/2018 23:11

I get you
Sometimes the spiral of negativity is what keeps you down, and then people say just perk up and you’ll be fine and you think, it’s not that fucking simple.

Counselling would be the thing that I think would help you the most, I know you talk about lack of money, but there are people that will do reduced rates.
Even if you have barely any money, even going once every couple of weeks is worth it. If you can’t even afford that then look into charities who might be able to part fund it.

This feeling that you have about yourself is not going to go away until you work through it. No one is worth nothing, we all have something to contribute to life, That is a fact even if you don’t believe it of yourself
There is always a deep route to feeling like this, you’ve got to find it.
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Isthisit33 · 20/02/2018 23:11

I struggle to focus to be honest where books are concerned, they look interesting I buy them then I can’t get into them. Don’t know why,

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LittleBirdBlues · 20/02/2018 23:12

Flowers Dont give up. Life can be fun and beautiful and fulfilling, but it will take some time and change to get there. I know it must feel impossible right now, but the way you feel now really can change. I speak from experience.

Try a (different?) gp and ask to be referred to councelling urgently. It would be a starting point.

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Isthisit33 · 20/02/2018 23:12

Counselling is not for me but thank you Flowers

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StorminaBcup · 20/02/2018 23:15

Sometimes I feel like even in jail I might have people to talk to

I don’t really want to meet other people.

Which is it? You’re lonely but you’re afraid to put yourself out there or you just want human interaction but don’t want to make the effort?