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[dottymum]

Ive a 3 week old son, a four year old daughter, my husband left a couple of weeks ago.

The baby is lovely, I adore him. My four year old's behaviour is terrible. I got up to see to ds, dd woke up, screamed hystericallym demanded i went back to bed immediately. She is over demandingm jealous of the baby to an extreme.
to be honest i really dislike her at the moment. daddy doesnt want her ad she is begging to see him. he wont see her. I get the crap for it,

I feel like i want her to go live somewhere else. i really really dislike her. I know she had a lot of upset, it isnt her fault, its me. Im horrible.

What am I going to do, I love my childreb, i dont want to feel like this. I dont feel depressed as such, but Im not myself at all

Perhaps its better for them both if i gve hem up and go away

Yea Kezza I think a well earned drink is needed for you.

Join the bar & enjoy yourself, you'll get to know all the other Mnr's & laugh with their wit 'n' humour. Its geat! Better than a night on the town.

Dotty, all the best for tomorrow , my thoughts are with you. I hope you can keep in touch with us all & keep us up to date with your progess.
((((((hugs for you all))))))))

Kezza -- those who bring sunshine into the lives of others cannot keep it from their own. Words are wholly inadequate (and so they should be) to thank you from all of us for stepping in with such kind benevolance. You did a very special thing indeed; you are just lovely.

Dotty ... the journey ahead -- actual and emotional is a series of small manageable steps. Take it one at a time. Keep reaching out. Keep repeating to yourself 'I am loved. I am irreplaceable. I am a fantastic Mother' And know all this in your heart. Wear your past tears as a trophy of pride to show what you can overcome. You are a strong, awesome woman. A real lady in every sense. Much, much love to you ...

x

Dotty - just found this thread
Just want to say 'all the good luck in the world to you all'
I feel humbled.
LOTS of love and thoughts to You DD and DS x x x

Hi Dotty and all

I'm not sure if you are leaving today but if so you probably won't see any messages, but thinking of you and hope the journey isn't stressful and you feel a load of relief when you arrive the other end.

Thinking of you and i'm sure you will be OK .

xxxx

me too...hope all goes well for you and the darling children...if you get the chance to let us know how you are getting on, please do....best wishes and best of luck....xx ((((((((hugs)))))))

you've come so far in such a short time..each day will be easier and more positive..x

Hi,

I should be packing, but am sitting here having a good cry. Im so relieved Im going with my children, so happy that dh is over there and we can at least talk and try to work it out...and that grandpa and everyone else will help me, but so sad to be leaving the UK for such a long time, prob for good and quite scared.

I havent got much time, but thank you to all of you. Every single one of you helped me get through this and to a point of safety. Kezza is indeed a star and we will keep in touch. When I get time at the other end, Ill let you know how it went/is going.

I really hve to pack. I have my mum coming in a little while to help me out a bit - she finally realised I thinkjust how desperately hard things have been.

Thank you, and thank you from my dd and ds. You were all right they need me more than anything.

Im going to a psych when I get to the other end, and see if they think I need ads.

Much love to you all

dotty

this is great dotty - i wish you and your dc's all the happiness in the world.

good luck dotty, I wish you three all the happiness in the world. hope you and DH can come to an aggrement either way as well

Good luck Dotty and have a safe journey xxx

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make sure you pack all the love from here into your suitcase..so you can get it out , if you need it again....x

WELL DONE KEZZA !!!

Dotty - hopefully a new start for you.

I send you my very very very best wishes that life starts to pick up again for you.

All the best Dotty, hope your new life works out for you, keep in touchxx

All the best Dotty - and remember we will all still be here, so if you ever need to chat, just drop in......
Big hugs to you and your DCs, and hope it all works out with your DH.

xx

Hi dotty so pleased things are falling into place for you.

Make helping yourself a priority please.

I know first hand what it's like to suffer with depression.

Hope you'll be able to log on and catch up with everyone when you're settled.

Good luck and be strong for those children.

Please take care. xxx

hi....well...ummm...

Dh wasnice for a couple of days but now is being horrible. either i stay and we split up. or me and dc return to the uk.

I think we will return.

he is a total bastard.

Hi dottymum What a complete twat he sounds.

Come back with your children with you.

Is your house still available for when you get back??

How are you feeling in yourself?

What country are you in???

Would you be able to get back ok??

Please do what is right for you and your little ones.

Hi

Sorry to hear about dh.

How is your own health?

And has fil been helpful and the extended family?

If you decide to return then I'm sure you will get lots of support and at least you have had face to face with dh and the alternatives, not a what if.

xxxx

well...sounds bad..but you sound strong......x

Hi dotty

I have been checking this thread for any news, I was getting worried about you!

So sorry dh is not doing what you need him to do, but you do sound stronger. Maybe you need a bit of anger to get through this.

At least if you come back here you are somewhere familiar, with your own family closer.

It goes without saying, if you do come back let me know and we can get together.

Kezza you are good.
Does Dotty have somewhere to come back to?
I was worried that she'd been renting and had given her place up.

Dotty hope your ok.

She had moved out of ther marital home and was renting, and I know she had kept it on for 2 weeks after she left just so she had somewhere to come back to, so I guess that gives her a week to decide.

After that I dont know. If her dh has any concience he will set her up with somewhere in the UK but who knows.

hope she is ok

Hey Dotty.

Well done for literally facing your demons. It took a lot of courage and strength to get you and thekids over there to talk it through and get help. And it seems you have realised just what grit and capabilities you have.

You will find the right solutions. Keep those babies with you and keep there welfare central in your thinking. You are a beacon in their lives.

x

Hi Dotty

Just saying hello and hoping uou are ok.

xxx

dottymum, i'm not sure if u are still with us or not but just wanted to say. after reading this thread soooo many times and being so scared for u. but after reading your last posts u sound like a completly different person, 100x stronger then your 1st post. I hope that u give your self time to continue to show us your strength. God bless you and your dc, and what ever you choose to do is obviously the right thing for you and dont let anyone tell you otherwise.

((((((((((HUGS & KISSES))))))))))

Hi,

Well, Ive beent trying to mend things with dh, but it is not looking good. He has gone a bit nasty with me. Ive got to get my son a brit passport to get him home, then I think its best I go.
I feel really embaressed having to go to the embassy and ask them to process the passport quickly.
Ive been an idiot, but i had to see for mysel the marriage was over.
I have no idea how on earth I will cope in the UK with two kids. Maybe its better I stay and put up with him being nasty now and again. He didnt meant o hurt me, Im sure.
Im fine. No damage done, so please noone worry.
Ill get us back soon enough, but may well ask for some practical help if people dont mind, when I get us back.
Im so scared of being a single mum. I needed his support and help. I wont get anything from the divorce financially if I leave here.
I will be ok.
I did ask for ads from doc here, but they wouldnt give me them. Told me to rest more. As soon as I get back Ill ask for some mild ads to help me.
I dont eel strong. Im a bit scared and uite upset.
It will be alright. I wish I had someone to talk to.