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[dottymum]

Ive a 3 week old son, a four year old daughter, my husband left a couple of weeks ago.

The baby is lovely, I adore him. My four year old's behaviour is terrible. I got up to see to ds, dd woke up, screamed hystericallym demanded i went back to bed immediately. She is over demandingm jealous of the baby to an extreme.
to be honest i really dislike her at the moment. daddy doesnt want her ad she is begging to see him. he wont see her. I get the crap for it,

I feel like i want her to go live somewhere else. i really really dislike her. I know she had a lot of upset, it isnt her fault, its me. Im horrible.

What am I going to do, I love my childreb, i dont want to feel like this. I dont feel depressed as such, but Im not myself at all

Perhaps its better for them both if i gve hem up and go away

please give dotty big hugs from me .....

so glad that she is not giving up her darling babies....xx

Dotty, you are unbelievable, all that rushing round and a c section. You must be amazing, I wish I could be there to help in some way.

Try not to worry about dummy..ds frequently mauls dd age 4 months and he is, shall we say very selective about washing hands after going to loo,.....she is thriving.

Thinking of you all day, kept checking thread time again. Keep posting.

oh kez/dotty i'm so glad you've made contact with each otehr. dotty enjoy the company tomorrow with kez and have a relaxing cuppa.

kez give that girl a big hug from all of us here so she know's we're all rooting for her

Still thinking of you dotty, going to bed soon, check back in the morning! Good night all!

I have been following this and am so glad to hear Dotty is starting to get some help.

OOh! I could cry. Scrap that, I am crying.

This is what mumsnet is all about.

Dotty, thank God you have made contact with Kezza. I know it must have been difficult to take that second step, (the first was coming on MN), but you did it and we are all so proud of you.

Kezza! How amazing!! Do you ever think, everything happens for a reason?

I so do!! You came on here and now you are making a huge step in helping Dotty. You must feel a bit overwhelmed by the responsibility of being the person on the end of all the past few days very emotive messages. I'm proud of you too for throwing yourself into Mumsnet in such a compassionate way.

I think I'm just proud of us all for helping each other out as we do.

Must stop grinning.[sensible face emoticon]

Love to you both Kezza and Dotty. You are both amazing!>>>

off to bed soon dotty...sleep well..and i;ll post in the morning..

i am so glad you are going to see kezza

(((hugs)) to you and the DCs

morning dotty...hope you got some sleep......hope you have a positive day today with Kezza..!

i am so utterly delighted you are having some support...i wish i was nearer, becaause i would so be there too!

i do hope you will take a note of my hotmail addy, and give me an email at some point , to let me know how you are getting on....

lulumama 21 @ hotmail .com

without the gaps!

(((((((((((hugs))))))))))))

checking in again later.....xx

Thinks have gone very wrong.

I spoke with dotty today and arranged to meet her, but I have just had a call back and she is in a really bad state. She was crying and sayng sorry and that she couldnt do it and then hung up.

I have called her back and finally mamaged to speak properly to her but she is now adamant the children are going without her and it is for the best. She will not even let me meet her or help her in any way.

What do I do? I dont feel I can walk away from this but am completely out of my depth here. She needs professional help but how do I get it for her when she clearly doesnt want it and I dont know where she lives. We had arranged to meet elsewhere not at her house.

Really need some advice here.

oh no.....kezza......the only thing i can think of is speaking to someone at a&e...maybe getting a crisis team involved with the community nurses!! don't know how else to do it..social services? just don't know....do you have any idea where she lives at all..or where the nearest doc is.....do you know her real name?

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guys we need help here!!

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guys we need help here!!

Do MN towers have any details, address ect, can they get involved? coul they inform SS who can trace her address by her email address.

i emailed MN towers a few days ago they have no way of getting in touch.....could try again...but they don;t think they can help...

have mailed them again........

OK, if someone else informed SS, show them this thread, ss can trace her address with help off the police.

jhow would you inform SS...no name & no address...IFYSWIM...

If its possible I think it should be done, it is sreastic, and she may not thank us for it.........yet, but 3 lives could be ripped apart here, and it can be avoided if Dotty get the right help.

pleawe dont do that.

drastic....even.

ill go to thr gp, just dont do that to me. Ill speak to kezza again. I feel really bullied

i totally agree and am terribly worriued...but no name ...how to tell thjm>
kezza might know dottys name...

have emialed mn towers asking if any way at all she can be traced and helped.....can;t in all good conscience just do nothing.!

this is absolutely heart rending,

Ok dotty, but please let someone help, at your own pace.

oh dotty,...no...........! notbeing bully...just so desperately wnat to see you get wll and stay with thechildren.....

Sorry dotty, just worried sick for you.