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[dottymum]

Ive a 3 week old son, a four year old daughter, my husband left a couple of weeks ago.

The baby is lovely, I adore him. My four year old's behaviour is terrible. I got up to see to ds, dd woke up, screamed hystericallym demanded i went back to bed immediately. She is over demandingm jealous of the baby to an extreme.
to be honest i really dislike her at the moment. daddy doesnt want her ad she is begging to see him. he wont see her. I get the crap for it,

I feel like i want her to go live somewhere else. i really really dislike her. I know she had a lot of upset, it isnt her fault, its me. Im horrible.

What am I going to do, I love my childreb, i dont want to feel like this. I dont feel depressed as such, but Im not myself at all

Perhaps its better for them both if i gve hem up and go away

if we had an idea where you lived then we could try and find someone nearby...

please dottymum
can you give us some idea of whereabouts you live? then we can find someone to help you out...

i'm sure there are lots of people here who would be only too happy,

please post again

I've looked at another of your threads you live near Dagenham, don't you..I'm sure there must be people who live near enough to help

I've started another thread for you dottymum, it's school time at the moment but do come back and talk to us

this is the thread I've started for you..you don't need to feel totally alone

dottymum I am near you and would help in any way I can.

I have one ds and had pnd. I can really remember how bad my fear was that if I admitted it someone would take ds away, but now I can see that just does not happen. The fact you want the best for your dcs shows you are a good mum.

Please come back and tell me where you are.

How terrible terrible terrible. DH left me when ds was 17 month old, and like you I convinced myself that ds would be better off away from me.
Even wrote a letter saying I wanted him put up for adoption as I couldn't do it anymore.
Ds now 12 years old and wonderful wonderful child, light of my life. Looking back I know how ill and confused I was.
Please please think again, your children need you more than ANYONE else, and you need them. Don't know what else to say....please please post again

god, this is really bothering me...where is she?

I'm hoping she will come back after school time as she has a four year old, might be in school

bump

come on dottymum
please post again
we are all here for you...

I know this is the saddest thing I have heard. she cant be allowed to give her dcs away like this, but I cant think of any way we could track her down unless she comes back and tells us.

dottymum do post again

.. i have been doing the school run and am distraught....did a search. definitely dagenham..i am in the north west ..so can't do anything......

dottymum. If you feel you want to post again
there are plenty of people on here who have had similar experiences
and plenty more who will help you any way they can.

just tried CATting her , but she does not accept CAT...

dottymum do come back...and chat and we will try and help you feel better as best we can

xxx

dottymum
please come back - even if just to let us know you are still there.

we will do our best to help you

please

i feel just awful like i could have done something more....i've had serious PND ( in hospital for 3 weeks) , can;t believe i didn;t realise how serious this was for dotty want to do something..

me too lulumama but I'm on the other side of the world

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please can someone else keep bumping this? I need to go to bed - it's midnight here in Thailand!

dottymum hope you are OK.
xxx

Im so sorry i didnt mean to cause any trouble. Sarah please go to bed. It really is alright.

it's not trouble Dottymum, we are just thinking of you. So pleased you have posted back again.

Glad you came back, dottymum.

The children really are better without me. Im doing the right thing for them. They will just forget me. The flights are booked. Grandparents have said if i want to go too that is fine. but i dont thik my going with them is best for them.
Im no good for them. Ill just ruin their lives or they will hate me when they grow up more. I dont want to leave them i love them very much. Im doing this for them.
Ive ruined everything ive touched. i cant make aything work.
I appreciate it sounds strange to other people, but i know how useess i am and how happy their lives will be with me not around