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[dottymum]

Ive a 3 week old son, a four year old daughter, my husband left a couple of weeks ago.

The baby is lovely, I adore him. My four year old's behaviour is terrible. I got up to see to ds, dd woke up, screamed hystericallym demanded i went back to bed immediately. She is over demandingm jealous of the baby to an extreme.
to be honest i really dislike her at the moment. daddy doesnt want her ad she is begging to see him. he wont see her. I get the crap for it,

I feel like i want her to go live somewhere else. i really really dislike her. I know she had a lot of upset, it isnt her fault, its me. Im horrible.

What am I going to do, I love my childreb, i dont want to feel like this. I dont feel depressed as such, but Im not myself at all

Perhaps its better for them both if i gve hem up and go away

Hi Dotty,

LOL at dd playing with her passsport (no wonder you couldn't find it )

Glad Kezza is helping you today. Anything that doesn't get done, just leave it!

Have a good day!

You're a great Mum Dotty!

It is going to be fine. Keep going darling

xx

Best wishes Dotty, thinking of you...xxxx

Dotty you're in all our thoughts.

So glad you have some help coming your way.

You sound so lovely.

Please get some help for yourself, you'll feel so much better in a few weeks.

Take care. xxx

hiya dotty,

glad your sounding more positive today. is it possible to have someone have a quick look at your section scar before you go out there, just to be on the safe side. glad you feel better after talking to DH as well, and with any luck he'll help out with teh children once you are abroad together.

kez - don't foget bnig hugs from us mnetters for dotty.

also dotty, I know I keep harping on but please make sure you are eating and drinking properly.

hi dotty...great that you feeling more positive and have spoken to DH! i think it is great you are having some help from kezza......!

hugs to you and to kezza for being such a star! xx

Hi Dotty,
You seem a little perkier today, maybe things seem that they are 'coming together' abit now, its slow but you will get there. Well Done!
Its good to hear you laughed about the passport, even when you felt anxious about finding it. It goes to prove you are coping well & being strong.

Its also nice that youv'e heard from DH too, its so much better when it can be amicable.

Lets hope each day gets better, as it appears to be already.
Good on Kezza, glad you have her suppport too.

Hi Dotty. So glad to hear you sounding a bit brighter. Have a good day with Kezza.
Keep thinking of you.xx

Hi all

just got back from dottys. She is lovely and so are her children.

It was quite a surreal situation for us both, but we got on really well. I certianly could not organise a last minute trip with 2 kids in the best of circumstances so she is doing so well.

I will speak to her and hopefully see her again before she goes.

I feel very positive about it all, she certainly is not some snivelling wreck, but a very competent person dealing as best she can with a terrible situation. In fact today has given me a nice feeling inside, its good to help others and dotty was so brave letting a stranger in to her house while at her most vulnerable. Im going to stop now before I get all happy clappy and you need to get your sick buckets out!!!

I will call you tomorrow dotty.

really pleased for you and dotty

both of you

well done well done well done

cant remember who said this but ....

women are like teabags -- you only realise how strong they are when you put them in hot water

xxx

well done Kerry and Dotty - you are both great!

wow dotty - keep strong, you are fighting and winning, an inspiration to us all - you're daughter has a very strong female role model in you - she is lucky.

Where are you flying to (if you don't mind me asking)?

sorry should have read 'your daughter'

whereever you go will you be able to keep in touch - if not on the net maybe through kezza - we would all love to know how things work out for you.

Oh Dotty, what a mountain you are climbing at the moment. I've also been v ill with PND. I thought I'd never recover. I wouldn't see anyone because I knew they couldn't help. Eventually my world came tumbling down and I learned that actually, I could be helped, no one took my children away and no one criticised. I eventually recovered and when I was back to normal I looked back at myself and wondered who on earth that person was. I'm thinking of you and hoping that you'll give yourself credit for being a great mum because all I see here is an overwhelming concern for your family. Take care.

Dear dottymum, i really hope things get better - it's fantastic that kezza came to see you to help. a trip with two small children is so daunting at the best of times- you're doing brilliantly. having read the thread i can see you have a plan - you're making such great, brave steps. if bad thoughts come, remember, you are their world, you are everything to them, you are needed, you are absolutely invaluable. hold on.

Hi Dotty,
just wanted to post to let you know I am still thinking of you and wishing you so much happiness for your future and that of you darling children xx

really pleased to hear that things went well today, still thinking of you all, and also pleased to hear that things are looking better on the 'dh' front! Take care.

Thank you Kezza for doing what we all wish we could.

Dotty
I've been thinking of you and your children every day and will continue to do so. I'm sending supportive thoughts out to you. You are cared about by many from a distance and, I'm sure, by many who've not commented but have read and thought and cried and will keep reading.

wow. kezza..you are truly selfless.....if there were MNet gold medals...you'd get one...glad things are looking up a bit for dotty...xx

morning dotty, how are you feeling today?

kez - so glad you met up with Dotty yesterday. and glad to hear she's doing OK. (well as OK as can be )

Lulumama you have made me laugh, and go slightly red!

Dotty is out all day today with her final passport and travel plans. She actually goes tomorrow so not long now.

I had some lovely emails from others to my hotmail offering help behind the scenes so that was really nice. Thanks everyone.

I am now looking forward to getting involved in some less emotional posts!

Kezza, i think you deserve a drink in the bar tonight (in chat)

Lulu will look after you!

definitely kezza...champagne all round i think..you are an amazing person....! don;t be embarrassed ... this is the spirit of a 'community' ,the fact it is online is irrelevant . we are all mums, doing what we do, helping each other when we can. Sometimes, a kind word is enough..or other times, actually stepping up to the plate and walking the walk is required . Good on you!

and dotty........not to miss you out ! you have come back from the brink and taken your life back...i do so hope you will keep us all posted as to your progress....xxx