Andes up - who needs a rock to lean on? Rock on over here!

[ThatVikRinA22]

in honour of ed and her mountain ranges.....

welcome to thread 3 - this is a support thread for anyone needing a hand to hold while they get through depression or any other mental health problems - long term or temporary. All are welcome.

linky to old thread

hi Vicar
My fault with teens was to shrink their T shirts in the tumble drier. YES i own up .
But like all mums washing /drying and keeping toot at the time was not on my radar while making tea /drying dogs paws/hoovering up the mess of family living

They soon learned to do their own precious clothing . And best to say f**k off under your breath . And smile .

Nowt we say as mums seems to penetrate . But it does Vicar a few years along the line . x

taking today off to go to doctor's.

Good plan Helles I really hope you going on the attack with this awful illness helps and your Doc is good.

Sending supportive vibes to everyone with teenagers and

I was v low yest pm and eve. DD said are you cross mummy. I told DH and he said bad vibes were coming off me and it was hard for the kids and for him so feel pretty bad about it now. Don't blame him for being honest tho. I was in his shoes last year and that's a horrible place to be too. Hoping to have a better day today. Am having a very lazy start to the day, then going to go for a walk and meet my dad at a local cafe. Sun is trying to break through here which helps. Feel a bit stuck at the moment and like I've made no progress - now been three months so it feels like a big effort not to slide into despair. Anyhow, onwards.... looking forward to lunch with my wonderful dad and think I might take a Lakes map with me and we can look at places to go after Easter.

Good morning everyone x

Just wanted to call in and say a tentative 'hi'.
I am trying to concentrate on getting better after a long time of depression / anxiety leading to confused thoughts and poor decision making and regrets.
Right now, I am supposed to be not spending my time fretting about decisions for the children, and starting focusing on getting better. I am finding that I'm in a big crash where basic self-care is slipping, and I'm struggling to do the basic things in the day. Next task today is to eat something ....

Hello there Cairngorms - good to see you here. I need to eat something too - stuck to my fecking seat though, as usual :( Bloody frustrating, but ill get there in the end

Aah CG I have found you - and I'm NOT FB stalking honest. I have been on this thread for a long time and have just pulled out for a while (NOT because it isn't supportive as it certainly is, but there are a lot of people on it) and I was getting confused with who said what and I like to respond to posts...........I have been given the opportunity to return if I wish! You will certainly get a lot of support on here and see the length and breadth of various mental illnesses and how they manifest themselves.

I think that you will be advised to take the meds!!

Have your PM and will respond later.

Hi to everyone on this lovely thread.

Hello everyone, bit better today as less anxious after getting repeat prescription - always panic they will take them away even though I've been on them for years. Does anyone else get that?

Struggling to eat/wash today. Husband gone away for week so no one to make me. Am hungry just can't be bothered get up and make food. ( possible automatic thought - why bother feeding myself I don't matter).

How is everyone else doing?

queen, lucy cairngorm little steps: clean your teeth. if you feel like doing more, have a quick wash and put on some downstairs clothes.

if you're already at stage 2, your little step is to put the kettle on and make a jam sandwich (or honey/nutella/philly)

if you have are stage 2 and have eaten, your little step is to say hello to a friend - by phone, facebook, text or email.

my friend bullied me out of the door and out for a cuppa this morning - thank God! or I'd be stage 1 and Ncj in bed after gp's appointment.

gp says I do too much but that, though my mind is tired, my body isn't so he is says I have to start going to the gym. yes cos it's that easy. turns out though, if you tell your mum and best friend what he said, they gang up on you, take you to the sports shop to get larger sports gear and set up a rota to remind nag you to the gym and check up afterwards!

Thanks for encouragement HellesBelles, I have sprayed deodorant but hae located bath oil for later and eaten Tracker plus spoke to SIL this am. So actually I guess I'm doing OK!

Ouch Queenofknickers, I remember that feeling of not bothering to feed myself because I didn't really exist. Please will you go and eat something to look after yourself because we on this thread think you matter and want you not to go hungry when you're ill. And please will you let me know that you've had something to eat (another Tracker bar maybe - one isn't enough to keep you going. Low blood sugar might lower your mood even firther and you don't need that.)

Also, even if you don't get dressed, can you take 10-15 mins outdoors if you have a garden. It's milder today. The sunlight and fresh air might give you a bit of energy.

And thanks everyone for the warm welcome. It's very kind. Great thread. Thanks Vicar.

Do take care all, particularly NanaNina.

Thinking of all of you, still in hospital so I can't read or post much.

Oh Hello snowymouse - I was leaving this thread for a while because there were so many people on it I couldn't keep up with everyone but I am invited back whenever......I intended to start a thread for you in case I miss you on here.
You are in and out of my thoughts a lot and I do so hope things are at least bearable. You sound such a lovely person, always concerned about others and never moaning about yourself. I'll look out for you on this thread xxxxx

Hi all. Tired but happy, I have returned from the Emerald Isle to Sarf London, for a visit with my aged parents. Need to catch up on sleep...

a very quick "sticking my head around the door to shout HI!" post and to say welcome to cairn, a wave to everyone else and snowy im glad you are managing to nip in every now and then....thinking of you. x

been to stables. knackered. hurt my back. cant keep eyes open....will catch up with everyone tomorrow.

hope everyone is ok. x

Sticking my head in too.

Good day here. Miling about the house but reasonably productive.

Welcome to the new comers. Still haven't had a chance to catch up (half term here so no laying in bed reading mn all day).

How did you go with the dr helles? And well done for dragging the new comers through the morning. helles is our very own mrs motivator and keeps us in check...and plodding thru the day.

Neck still bad. Bit better today. Dunno what ive done...

Busy day tomorrow. Need to bath and headlice check dd3 (with my neck that will be fun). Dtds are at a sleepover...but they havee only just setled themselves to sleep tonight. Dentist for dds. And then cinema for me and dd3...best toddle off to bed.

(Oh and can someone remind me to book dd3s birthday party and do ebay order please).

Night all.

i love that helles is our mrs motivator. I hear helles when i cant get up....or, when, like yesterday, some numpty knocked me out of bed asking if i wanted trees pruning. i have no trees!

i could have gone back to bed. but i didnt.

having a lie in tomorrow though....just a little one!

the doctor says I have to:
make quality time for myself
tire my body by doing 30mins cv at least 3 times a week
cutting down my activities.

I tried resigning from cubs but no-one noticed so I'm taking a month off.

ps vicar - well done

nina you keep saying that you're leaving the thread because there are too many people on and that is quite unpleasant.

i think nina just loses track a bit feels she cant answer posts as well when there are lots and lots of people - she speaks very intimately to folk, which is lovely. Its fine if she dips in and out - i think lots of people do that. Dont take it personally helles - this thread is about using it however people need to.

i use it similarly to ed - its just me getting thoughts out of my head...

i think you are having a really difficult time at the min helles, and you sound so run down, hopefully with a rest, and doing some nice things for yourself, you might feel a bit better. The exercise thing is so true - i used to run - but hated it, now i go to the stables which is probably just as hard physically, but i enjoy it. Sometimes i really cant be bothered, but im always glad if i do.

ive no idea how i will continue to do it when i start work again. Im trying to cross that bridge as and when....

this thread is full of hugs, and i reckon thats allowed on this board....so plenty coming your way lovely lady. x

Hi from me to Cairngorm ......and all who sail in this ship of comfort and hope .

So agree with the exercise boost for mood . I miss it hugely -used to walk miles.
Not good now with chest trouble and bad back. I waddle and stop often which is hardly power walking is it ? But it does get me out into the fresh air and some colour in my cheeks . And I can check out each birdsong and practice mindfulness. Does nowt for my lardy backside though .
Anyone have tips for gentle Dvd I can use at home ? Cant go to classes .

Thinking of you all this Easter Weekend very much . And hope that a sense of peace and optimism makes it a content one .
A bit of sunshine here today which always gives a bit of oomph to our tired minds . DH is feeling wellish so that lamb joint is going to be a feast for him on Sunday with all the trimmings .

and yes a large bosom down unable to breathe hug from me . x

Hello all and a cheery wave! I have been hibernating in my little mental comfort zone trying to figure out some way forward.

I do think that the beauty of this thread has been the acceptance of people and their situations and that this is what has made the thread such a strong one and appealing. People come and go, chip in or lurk, have little conversations or name check as many as possible. It really is reflective of the many characters on here and I have pro arguments for all approaches (steps down from mini soapbox and hides away).

Egg Ebay order and DD3's birthday party reminder

Yes! I know I need to exercise. I am not overweight but I am (thanks DD) squishy (her won words; she actually likes it as I am soft and snuggly ). Motivation is nil. I admire all of you who go out for a walk and I keep noting that I too should do that.

Snowy I love that you pop by every so often. Nana do keep dropping by as well.

Helles the Dr talks sense. I think when they realise you are not there, cubs may figure it out. It almost sounds like they are so used to having you there, they can't imagine it otherwise (may I say taking you for granted?).

Hmmm. Lamb Basset. I am getting peckish I think.

Vicar I think your work-related plan sounds reasonable. Give it a fair try if you can do it on your own conditions where you want but always remember that choosing not to is also an option.

DD - boundaries and consequences. I think when we get mentally run down we are less assertive and protective of ourselves and this weakens boundaries because we don't have the mental energy to deal with things as we normally would.

well im sat waiting for occy health to ring me....again. i keep missing their calls and they keep missing mine. I dont think being in limbo is helping much....but the thought of going back is worse.

im slightly embarrassed to say im still level 1 today....i fully intended to get dressed. i actually have started to feel a bit guilty if i dont....

(is this a good sign?? not sure....feel i should be able to enjoy the odd pj day without feeling bad about it....)

i ought to dress and walk the pooch.
will be out tomorrow morning....was going to go to stables in afternoon but back is killing me from yesterday...think i pulled a muscle. might leave it til sunday....

thanks for support all. everything cub-related is getting handed over. school is off for a fortnight (though I'm in 4 days)

nina I think everyone should use the thread as suits them - as often or as little as suits. my concerns were that your repeated comments that you didn't want to use the thread any more because there were so many people using it now sounded really unwelcoming and not at all what I expected from you. that's why I mentioned it, in case you hadn't realised how it was coming across.