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Andes up - who needs a rock to lean on? Rock on over here!

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ThatVikRinA22 · 19/03/2013 15:27

in honour of ed and her mountain ranges.....Smile

welcome to thread 3 - this is a support thread for anyone needing a hand to hold while they get through depression or any other mental health problems - long term or temporary. All are welcome.

linky to old thread

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ColouringInQueen · 21/04/2013 18:54

Hi all,
lady that sounds horrible. Helles' advice is good. Maybe give it a few days and then decide.
vicar hope yr enjoying yr rat :)
Egg hope you're surviving today
Helles, SPC and everyone else hello

I wondered if anyone had any wisdom on the anxiety front? I've been on Prozac for 2 and half months, 20mg for last 4 weeks. It is helping with the depression, but I am really struggling with anxiety. 6 wks or so ago GP added Trazodone to the mix which helped get me sleeping again and maybe a bit calmer for a few weeks? Since my hol (8 days ago) anxiety is worsening. I constantly feel breathless, nauseaus today, very self-conscious out of the house, very tense, don't actually have panic attacks but I think in part cos I do know some good yoga breathing stuff. Some stuff I've read says that Prozac can increase anxiety. I certainly don't remember being quite this anxious before I started taking it. It was more exhaustion, low mood, despair, suicidal thoughts ie typical depression with a bit of anxiety thrown in. I had a tough day yest visiting friends of DH for the day. I don't usually socialise for more than an hour at a time a couple of times a week, so am suspecting yest hasn't helped at all.

Thanks x

SnowyMouse · 21/04/2013 19:01

Ouch, I hope the rat realises the difference between food and your finger.
I'm sorry, CiQ, I don't know much about anxiety, hope someone comes along soon.

I'm level 2 today, not sure what tomorrow will bring.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 21/04/2013 19:08

well done on level 2 snowy. im still level 1 and have been all day....

Colouring - some ADs can make anxiety worse. I would make an appt to see and talk to your GP.....some other ADs work on anxiety too. Im on sertraline and i know that is also licensed for anxiety. i think citalipram (sp??) is too.

might be the meds if you feel anxiety is worsening....go have a chat to gp.

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TheSilveryPussycat · 21/04/2013 19:26

Level1 here too. But productive.

Seconding the GP in CQ and lady

When does Pearl bite - through the cage bars, when you're trying to get her out, or return her - when? (Envy of vicar)

TheSilveryPussycat · 21/04/2013 19:27

*in = for Blush

bassetfeet · 21/04/2013 19:28

Sorry you are suffering CIQ .......anxiety is the evil twin to depression .
They often go hand in hand .
Can only go on my own and others on another forums experience . Prozac does not seem the med of choice these days for anxiety /depression.
Citalopram /Venflaxine/Setraline seem to be the med most used [but only my own experience ].
Side effects that heighten anxiety should have died down by now .

CIQ go back to the doctor eh? You should not be feeling like this and I truly feel for you . It is hell.

Google NICE guidelines [National Institute for Clinical Excellence ] re depression and anxiety and meds recommended . It gives you the info re what is recommended these days.

Yup to the breathing .........I find cold drinks and going outside in the fresh air to sit .........soda water for the nausea .........distraction .
sometimes I just fiddle with my house keys [like worry beads I guess ]

Go back to the doc my lovely . I do understand .

TheSilveryPussycat · 21/04/2013 19:39

my post looks a bit terse - but basset has written a lovely post. I stopped having anxiety many many years ago, and just get ambushed by depression now and again, so didn't have much to offer...

bassetfeet · 21/04/2013 20:06

your posts never sound terse to me Silvery ..you always make me smile
with your wit despite your hurt and depression . Fine intuition .
Now you got me googling leggings daft bat and that is scary in my house but like your style Wink
there is no contest between anxiety and depression is there? Both hell .
x

ColouringInQueen · 21/04/2013 20:31

Thanks everyone. Tried reading the NICE stuff but can't concentrate and seems to be making me worse tonight. i have been wondering about prozac i think the gp who prescribed me it was a bit crap tbh as she had been treading me for gastritis (no identifiable cause other than stress) for 3 months before I presented with depression. But I think prozac combines better with omeprazole (antacid) anyhow will make appt next week.
oh and thanks basset for the mindfulness suggestion - book looks good.

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HellesBelles396 · 21/04/2013 21:01

re the relationship between anxiety and depression - I tend to find that my depression kicks in when I am uber-anxious. It's like my brain says 'woah there! I can't cope with this many things to worry about. Let's just stop thinking or feeling for a while.' Which is a defence mechanism I suppose.

CIQ fluozetine (prozac) definitely can increase anxiety - that's why i was moved onto citalopram once my depression had subsided somewhat last time. I had become very jittery, unable to sleep, unable to concentrate, permanently scared so they switched medications. No doubt though, fluoxetine saved my life but it wasn't a long term solution for me. I hear of people trying a few different AD's before they find the one that works for them - everyone's brain chemistry is different.

TheSilveryPussycat · 21/04/2013 21:08

My depression kicks in when my motivation goes - these days.

I spent my childhood chronically anxious about everything, and constantly depressed, except for school holidays. I learned to do things about stuff I was worrying about, when I could. Then I had long years worrying about money - with every good reason to! And finally there was my emotionally, financially and verbally abusive - and v long - marriage to FW (fuckwit), from whom I am now divorced.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 21/04/2013 21:54

SPC just if i try and get her out of the cage - if i put my hands in she goes for me. (several bloodies fingers later......!)

if i wait until she is in a box or something, and lift that out, she is gentle as a lamb and has been perched on my shoulder now for the last 2 hours.....

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EggwiniasRevenge · 21/04/2013 22:46

Evening all.

Hi to living

I got up this morning. Took dd3 swimming lesson.
Came home.
Went to bed.
Got up 6pm.
Scrabbled about to cook tea & do dd3s homework with her. Got her to bed.
Half heartedly tidied kitchen

Back in bed.
Night all

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ThatVikRinA22 · 21/04/2013 22:48

thats ok ed....you did good. You have had a set back - you will get through it.
bed is fine when you need it.

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TheSilveryPussycat · 21/04/2013 22:55

Egg you did well, you got the stuff that needed doing done - including going back to bed.

vicar just open the cage door. If she is reluctant, you could entice her out with a little treat.

TheSilveryPussycat · 21/04/2013 22:57

BTW a note on cage doors - depending on design and how well made it is, she may eventually learn to open it. I had to add a clothes peg for added security.

EggwiniasRevenge · 21/04/2013 22:57

Thanks vicar.

She's still posting on my mums wall. This is uncharacteristic (particularly in the context she is doing so).

She knows my relationship with my mum is non existent. She knows I 'can't' ring my mum and explain what's going on. She knows that my mental health creates a huge barrier for me doing this atm.
I am so angry. And so sad.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 21/04/2013 23:07

...and let that just show you that she is not a friend. a friend would not do that.
she is a vindictive cow by the sounds of it.

do you have access to your mums fb account?

time to fight fire with fire i reckon. ask for the £££ back. as puclicly as she is doing.
she sounds like a prize cow. sorry. you dont need her. you really dont.
xxx

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EggwiniasRevenge · 21/04/2013 23:21

Yeah. I might be able to log into mums account and block her...

Tomorrow I am going to put all my washing away. Its everywhere in my house atm and depressing me (ha! As if that's all).
I will then do the bare minimum I need to do for brownies.
I will then get my credit card statements out and start to itemise what I think she owes me. I csn probably do a good job of itemising the shops and occassions if not the values. If she provides me with an itemised list (which I know she has recorded very accurately) then I can tell if stuff is missing.

I feel like such a fool. And I am going to sleep now. Thanks for listening...and send me a virtual hug with Pearl please :)

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ThatVikRinA22 · 21/04/2013 23:27

you can defo have a hug with pearl....she has been whispering sweet nothings into my ear all night....ive just put her to bed. with a bit of chocolate Smile

you are the worm that needs to turn my love (in the nicest way posible....)
start to get tough.
yes to working out what she owes you.
sod blocking her - publicly ask for that money back. shei s being a bitch. then block her.

she doesnt get out of this smelling of roses....

gnite ed - sleep well. we will be here tomorrow. x

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EggwiniasRevenge · 22/04/2013 11:37

I'm still here.

Still in bed.

No meds taken

Need to get up for a wee though

SnowyMouse · 22/04/2013 12:05

Could you stay level 1 but use the loo and take the meds?

malheureux · 22/04/2013 12:05

Afternoon everyone.

I've managed (finally) to get a Dr's appointment tomorrow, next Tuesday seemed a long way off. I'm now veering between thinking they wont take me seriously to taking me too seriously.

Is it bad form to go into an appointment with a list? i cry, lots, and then ramble about what wasn't important in the first place.

Eggwinia, it's been 20 minutes since you posted, i'm hoping you've been for a wee :)

SnowyMouse · 22/04/2013 12:09

Good luck with your appointment, it can be very useful to take a list.