Keziah, City, Choc et al support thread

[Keziahhopes]

Hi - found us a new home. Just didn't like the title of my old thread - and have found your support so helpful but would also like this thread to be less egocentric .

Choc -hope cbt assessment goes well.

City - how are you doing?

My physio exercises are helping me, but don't see stroke consultant until beginning of July. Still not had OT assessment, but dont' think will need it by then - just been horrible for dh to do everything for me since Easter. Now more independend - just had my first shower by myself!!

Choc if you sent off for a prepayment prescription you can officially pay for your prescription and then claim it back I think. Ask at your chemist... that is what I was going to do, but the chemist just gave it to me knowing I had always got a prepayment one each year! The advantage of having a baby is mine are free for a year! Vit D could really help.

Excellentyou get free for a year , Keziah , as a lot of mothers would have to great difficulty otherwise . I used to get a 3 month prepayment one, & am trying to plot different HCP visits & asking for medication to fit the certificate so I can leave a gap

I've fallen foul of thinking you could get a refund from just showing
the packet label with name & date , or something ( no , that can't be it
!)
www.patient.co.uk/health/Free-or-Reduced-Cost-Prescriptions.htm

Sorry haven't manaaged t ost properly yet - hope we all have a relaxing time

< tries harder at rain-stopping incantation >

Thanks for great support and advice (again) guys . Keziah I'd actually forgotten about the free prescriptions a year after birth (think I only ever needed one course of anti-biotics). Thanks for the link Merivel - it was probably the most coherent guidance I've read. I'm waiting for a new tax credit award notice which due to my change in circumstances (I now count as unemployed for tax credit purposes even though legally I'm still employed ) will entitle me to free prescriptions if I show this while still waiting for the exemption certificate which could take up to 8 wks to arrive. As I've probably been vit D deficient for some time another few days won't make much difference.

Well this might sound a bit odd but as of yesterday I no longer feel depressed! Yay! Absolutely nothing is different but just woke up feeling like I'd woken up in a parallel universe where everything looked and smelt the same but evoked different feelings within. It felt strange not having that battle-to-continue to do and absolutely no intrusive thoughts (not a single one). It's taken 17 months to get here so I'm definitely going to try to enjoy it. Ironically this morning I actually feel like I've got a massive hangover (no alcohol consumed) and could have indeed done without being woken at 7am but unlike normal I wasn't ready to tear dd's head, legs and arms off her body! I did wonder whether I'd inadvertantly consumed some illegal recreational drug or something to make me feel so... um...normal. Does any of this resonate with either of you two? I can honestly say I don't recall how I felt coming out of my previous episodes. I know the last couple I probably didn't come out of, I simply got to the stage where I could get on with day to day life not really enjoying it but functioning without major crisis. Maybe having all this time of work has actually done my health a lot of good. I guess what I'm wondering is whether this is how it's supposed to be that you wake up one day and feel cured. Ok ramble over . Here's to a good day for us all xx

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY choc- so ,so happy for you
Thank you for fabulous post , and for far better advice than I ever come up with
Sorry , running late for DN's birthday do , but will post later - but yes , I can relate to that joyous experience ! You have been very courageous < sniff > ...I do think tim away from work may have helped , and hope things will fall into place all round .

Hope you're getting more sleep , Keziah< waves at baby D , who may cnonsider waving back when he gets to reognise silly cyberlady >

< waves in case choc pops in >
Sorry too zonked to post, but hope been a good day for us allxxx

That is great news choc

Mm... sleep and baby, he fights it!!

LOL Keziah at "Mm... sleep and baby, he fights it!!"

He just doesn't want to miss the fun .

How did the birthday party go Merivel? < choc wondering if you're sleeping off the anxiety excitement >

I managed all of about 20 mins in the garden after putting dd to bed before it starting to rain! Grrr! But to be fair it had been dry the rest of the day but dd climbing walls from being stuck inside since Friday so went out for a bike ride.

My exuberance Saturday was sort-lived. < choc thinks maybe inhaled a bit too much vaporised bergamot essential oil >. Oh well I'll think of it as a glimpse of things to come .

Yay sunshine this afternoon so have been outside with a garden fork!!!

Great weather Choc - I did the same yesterday after dh came home from work! Lovely to be out early evening in warm sunshine - amazing how it lifts one mentally! Hope that even if exuberance a bit early that things are better at least.

I am trying to get baby ds to nap more (ie at all) in the day - trying to not get a routine that is prescriptive, but some naps in the day. He had 3 naps yesterday - 5 mins, 10 mins, 30 mins - and slept 7 hours in a row last night! Feel so much more human. Was going quite low with lack of sleep, so amazing how one good night has made me feel.

merivel - hope party went ok? And you got form out, put it in a place to keep attacking it and filled in first few pages?????????????? - just the name, address ones is a start!!

Yaaaaaaaaaaaay , magnificent about naps and proper night's sleep ,Keziah ! Can well believe you were feeling low .I keep remebering "Mm...sleep and baby ....he fights it "

Yaay too for your both having chance Ditto for lovely spot of weather- though I failed to trim tall grass , before rain set in again

So sorry your near -euphoria was short-lived , but thank you for joyous post , and I think it's a brilliantly good sign of an innate
state , just poised to become routine .

Have been very stressed about not managing to post , yes very tired
after wekend but RL pretty frantic and I keep making stupid mistakes ... this morning I managed to upset neighbour- best say no more.. now I may have made a minor but real black mark ..poor Dh.

Yes K , am doing practice drafts with that evil form , again ! Thank you for empathy with thre trauma of the smplest bits . I need
lots of medical appts this year so maybe will help at the appeal !

Has your Mum been enjoying her time over here , choc ? Bet she's been catching up with friends a lot , shopping for odds and ends she can get here
Hope your Mum is up to enjoying progress reports of DS , Keziah - very sorry if she's not well enough fo that

Am fretting just at my Mum's little injuries- just getting over torn
shoulder ligament , now in bad pain in knee-hope not arthritis . She decided to come to a rarely-held event with us on Monday , which was a big treat - renactments, dancing etc - and stopped at picturesque church with carpet of violets all the way up to the door

Peaceful night all < listen up , baby son and talkative dd >

Sorry , forgot to mention another namechange

Ooh another name change... not a book influence this time?

My ds put on 10oz in a week, wow !! In shock at the rate of growth. Jumped up a centile on the chart too!

Brief post as feed time xxx

10oz ?!!!! Magnificent infant and well done , his Mummy
< waves at little lad to help continue his waving lessons >

Hope baby son continues to have occasional naps in daytime , and we all get garden time now that -non-lovely light evening are her - big favourite
< waves to choc > Bet this weather is really testing you , choc - bah . bah bah . Have you been able to get to art or support group ? I know at least one is at a time when you need childcare .

Not a book - related name , Keziah... could think of absolutely nothing , then remembered a lyric in Anarchy in the UK "your future dream is a shopping scheme" , and am as ever pretentious enough to choose it as is nearly jubilee time

< sets up alternative jubilee tent for any of us who fancy it > ... hope you find something like that in your area as you mentioned , choc, preferablywith children's activities

Peaceful night to us allxxx

Feeling low ... head buzzing, can't explain.

Baby son becoming more independent of me - now in his cot early evening, not needing me. So I don't need to be as "ok" as I did, as I am always ok when with him. But am not keeping him up just for mysake - he needs to sleep. He will not sleep in the day, so have to get him to sleep as much of night as possible.

(((((Keziah)))) - and sorry you can't be hugging baby son right now .Made me teary actually to see you say you are always alright when you are with him .

My judgement is very foggy this week < waves to choc , needing the voice of experience > but could it be a combination of sleep deprivation , a natural comedown from the incredibly vigorous work of first months and emotion , the vast emotions of having this longed-for child , versus other scenarios , and the endless weeks of pouring rain ? Plus you have had some huge stress in recent weeks , and I know being at home all week is very hard on you .
As for what hormones are doing , and other emotional aspects of this part of babyhood , choc can relate, I'm sure .And don't forget you may have some anaemia or something that could be sorted .

The head buzzing thing sounds pretty familiar to me , but may be totally different to yours...the best instances are more like a a feeling of distancing I think , a protectve mechanism? vagueness ? Sounds as though you might be experiencing the type of buzzing feeling which is almost pure anxiety Sorry , it's probably more complex , else you would have described it ... am not helping ,but will be around for agres yet so just chat if needed .. .

Hope favourite methods of ddddddddddcoping help eventuall so you can sleep peacefullyxxx

Not ignoring you choc! How's it going ? Thanks for asking about that party I was wailing about - was very touching , but socialising makes my chest cavity burn with misery -even though I am sociable , also introvert or -< back to lurk on thread for adults adults strongly suspecting AS >
Hope you're not sufering miserably from weather

Been a shocking week here , fretting about family illness , finances , Dh health horribly affected by work & finances !.... but am managing to approach problems in different way , which is a godsend
Cat just stepped through blossomy jungle lawn - very sweet
Peaceful night all, I so hope xxx

Sorry for the me, me , me there Am still catching up with thread after weekend

Hope you found something to help the distress , Keziah . Think the phrase I was looking for was delayed reaction , to the many months of risk , infections and worry , then incredibly exhausting birth too . Plus , you are doing what a woman without the physical complications of the last year or so , finds exhausting - you'll surely need a bit more rest for a while longer than is really possible in ealy stages of motherhood .

Hope you're OK , choc - forgot to cheer you on for stopping all that dd-lifting xxx

Eeeeek- forgot to ask you cchocwhether you'd received your prescription form-before-the exemption thngy which allows you to pick up new script - have you been able to start the necessary form of Vit D? There are two different types , I think ?- will look up

< waves to choc and Keziah >...hope you're feeling a bit better today , Keziah , and that we can all have some garden time later xxx
PS mind out for tender plants -may be a frost tonight < feels ancient >

Hope the rain finally stopped for you two , and positive things happened .
I did lots of stuff re: finances , health & bureaucracy , but could have tried harder with one thing ... oh well , busy tomorrow too so will eventually feel more virtuous

Hope you're reasonalbly OK , Keziah , and baby son sleeps enough to be better for you ...sending wishes for calmin , and sunshine

Hope you've enjoyed time with your Mum , *choc

Peaceful night to us all

< very early wave from Choc over here > probabaly shouldn't be waving as bin on the but feel bad for not able being to keep up with the posts (i want a name change futuredream - but can't think of anthinh - choc throws toys out of pram). seems lots of struggle all round. yes keziah incredibly exhausting ghavign smal babby. i can certainly relate ot msuh you wrote except the bit about ds not needing you in the evening. my high maintenance dd meant i was perma-attacehd at this age. she wouln't normally sleep til after 11pm and took lots of singing to etc to go to sleep. amazing how ds is so indeependant at such young age. hope you managing to catch up on soime sleep.

no free prescripytion form yet so no vit D - I'll be taking vit D3. hopefully form will arrive early nxt week.

fading fast hre - think tolerasnce is way low. just been hard week. i got to both of my groups this week, also started volunteering for a loca; charity. sorry for rubbish posts. promise to do better next

...rubbish post even. utterly drained and friends dad dying night to all xx

Oh that's awful , 8choc . I hope he and friendddddddddddddddddddd & family are getting really good care and support

So plglad about the volunteer work , and so many other positive things . kept up , groups etc .

Oooops, sorry - how did I manage to post that ...Hope you get some time & space to relax & recover , Choc

Hope you're having better patches , Keziah - thinking of you

Been out all afternoon with worthy stuff , now for a bit of fresh air for neglected Dh
love to you both

Hmm sorry for awful typos in last nights post . futuredream you apologise a lot for typos in your posts but I rarely notice them . Sorry to hear about your shocking week (don't know how I missed this yesterday) it does sound all go, go, go! You mention family illness - I hope it's not bad news reagrding your MIL or DM. My DM came over this afternoon and took over caring for dd so I've been out cutting the jungle lawn. < choc invites dear cat over to frolic! >

Hoping that Keziah has extra pair(s) hands this weekend as sounding rather exhausted. Will be trying to catch up with sleep myself too .

Hi Choc great you got to groups and some volunteer work, hope that all helps! sorry about friends dad.

City sorry things so stressful for you and Dh right now... hope this lovely sunny weather given you both a break.

How babies change... mine has gone back to being very high demand!! He will just not nap in the day unless held and at 12lb he is rather heavy to hold just for him to sleep for me! As soon as he is put down he cries. Neighbour had a real go at me this week for my visitors for baby parking on road opposite house - it means to get in his driveway with his BMW (!) he has to drive an extra 20 metres or so. Mmm.... was so tempted to say what I thougth but bit my tongue and told my Dh to talk to him!! We paid to have drive widened to sort out parking - he prefers posh cars to anything else .... grrr....