snowmash's cybergarden

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We filled up your thread, snowmash! So here's another one.

Neither weather nor circumstance seems to be cooperating at the moment, so I thought we could do with a virtual garden to sit out in.

shodatin has started work already:
"we don't lose anything to the frost here, and nobody thieves our daffs and precious bay trees. Most days will be sunny I think, but sometimes we have rain at night, particularly when we've done some planting..."

And I think it needs a summer house with a chiminea or the like to sit round after dark and toast our tootsies.

How about a very smiley 3 year old who is addicted to sandpits and will bake sandpies for you :)

Oh I'm so pleased he's smiley again! Is he over the really grotty bit of chickenpox?

Excellent idea to have toddler in garden - can frighten cats out.
Summerhouse and stove gets my vote too.
Am getting quote for plastic grass in RL, saves mowing, so suggest it for snowmash's garden too.

No he went from 15 to 100 spots overnight and was quite clingy today. he is just a very smiley boy with an irrepressible zest for life despite being disabled (don't say it's because he's disabled that makes me go grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr but you lot won't - you know better)

So he still smiles (and giggled to my dad on the telephone - we are not from the UK so they don't see each other much) and used his Daddy as a trampoline for quite a while.

Off now to dream of new garden - night all.

Oooh, scratch! I'm sure snowmash had a bottle of virtual calamine, perhaps she can come and dab him tomorrow.

Think I'm off to bed, too. Should I damp the chiminea with turf, or something?

Aww...what a lovely thread and thread title.
Sandpies are excellent - you can have the virtual calamine as I'm not an accurate dabber.

Dd2 also very welcome pixie, as are all the adults. Shall we add a sensory bit with wind chimes and bamboo pan pipes and lavender, Rosemary and other smells?

Stove and summerhouse too - sounds lovely.

Fingers crossed for dd2 d/c pixie.

Hope everyone has good days

Hope today's an improvement for you snowmash, and both small ones feeling better.

Today's a bit busy - (car MOT tomorrow etc)but will see you in the garden later.

Good luck with the car prep shodatin!

madmouse please can you come and share some of your philosophies with some of the staff/ patients here? ;) I'm fed up of being patronised in the last few days and/or people assuming I'm depressed because of disability

Snowmash I'd love to help but I think you know an awful lot more about these things than I do - my journey with disability started 3 years ago when ds popped out with brain damage...

But yes to assume that you are depressed because of disability is very stoopid indeed. It's possible, but you will be the judge of that thank you very much.

what do you feel makes you depressed?

Snowmash, as you know it does seem to be a weak point for many healthcare workers, an unintentionally patronising manner along with an efficient and rather rigid focus on present realities which is frustrating for an analytical type. Perhaps you could feel less stressed by current misunderstanding as to the source/s of your depression if you looked in on a forum with others discussing the frustrations of patient- staff communication - "mentalhealthforum" is excellent for this, and has plenty of traffic.

For physical disability,I'd recommend the BBC "Ouch!" site as a starting point and for the more radical blogs it lists, such as Disability Bitch (sorry,I don't like the name either).

I don't know if you find, as I often have, that med staff sometimes seem very uncomfortable with being frank about disability issues, and that our feelings about our bodies are either judged too negative or, as you find, they think we're in denial about our emotions around the issue. Hard to be taken at your word about it, really!
Sorry for long & inarticulate post. Love the sensory part of the garden - would you like a jasmine plant to add to the fragrances? Can wind delicately round some fencing or over an unfashionable arch, which I think your fellow gardeners wiill veto on taste grounds! Would pixieonaleaf consider lifting her cat ban to allow a tiny corner for next door's cats to come to bask and flip in the sun,leaving plants and birds untouched?

"You'll be the judge of that thank you very much"- indeed madmouse- hope your DS is a bit more comfortable today.
Sorry pixie, didn't realise dd was in hospital atm - hope can come out today.

Love the plans for the garden - I adore arches and windchimes! (Taste-police, shoot me now .)

And jasmine, lavender and rosemary! We'll get such a buzzing of bees in the summer.

I'm in two minds about the artificial grass, tho. How would we feel about a virtual gardener to do the mowing, instead? Or is hay fever an issue?

Glad your DD is doing well, pixie. Oops, sorry, it was in fact shodatin who hoped that a toddler added to the garden could scare off cats! Perhaps we could still have a little tortoiseshell snoozing decoratively on a tree trunk in next door's garden, far enough away to avoid causing allergic reactions (we can of course control the direction of the breeze there)

TIANC, glad this isn't shaping up to be a minimalist garden so far. I hope if we employ a gardener we'll pay him/her a good wage and provide a satisfying work environment. Would a gardener tackle tree pruning? It might be nice to have an apple tree at the end of the garden- not blocking out too much light, of course.
Hope your afternoon isn't too stressful, snowmash.

Oooh lovely , pixie, long warm evenings out there- do you have twinkly lanterns in mind?

Have somehow lost my post, where I admitted I'd rather not have cats, but of course the virtual kind would not be killing wildlife or pooing in best pots so will withdraw objection.
Artificial grass would only be very expensive, real-looking kind, promise, have looked into this, and I'd vote for reliable female gardener if we absolutely have to have one...
Cityhobgoblin, thanks for info re BBC, my depression is caused by disability and I struggle with acceptance.

cityhobgoblin are you my DP in disguise? He has so far asked for an arch and an appletree, when told about the garden!

Maybe we could have a human-y bit, with decking or nice paving stones for wheelies, and then a wilder orchard bit way beyond the artificial lawn, but always downwind. Idealised virtual cats only.