How to stop elderly parent from driving!

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Just after a bit of advice please.

Parent is 90 and I really feel he shouldn't be driving anymore especially as his car is a very powerful model and he over estimates his capability.

Earlier in the year I reported him to the DVLA and felt awful but that I had done the right thing and lo and behold they passed him fit to drive!!

He is being fairly sensible in that he won't drive in the dark or rain but still goes on the motorway occasionally, to the supermarket, church, health appointments etc.

We were at a funeral recently and all his friends expressed great concern that he was still driving as have various health professionals. Does anyone have any advice please? We have a pretty ropey relationship tbh, many big fallings out over the years and he does not take kindly to any help or interference but I just cannot help think that he's going to cause a dreadful accident if he carries on like this. He's had a couple of near misses, driven over the grass, hit a kerb, that kind of thing. So hard as it will remove his independence and I don't live particularly near to him but don't feel we can allow this to continue.

TIA

@user1477391263 I'm just explaining what I think might be going on at a higher level of decision making, not saying whether anything is right or wrong. I'm also pointing out that the issue is compounded by the under-resourcing of DVLA, hence its backlog.

@user1477391263 said
It will be highly inconvenient for adult children to drag all the way over to the parent’s house to help them.

Not everyone has adult children to help. Another reason why I wonder whether the Powers That Be have decided on the current approach.

I find this unbelievable!

From mid-20s onwards I surrendered my driving licence voluntarily as had been diagnosed with psychiatric issues & my doctors instructed me to do it.
When I tried to get my licence back in my 40s, I had a hell's own job.
I'm on a medical licence that is reviewed now every 3 years. I've had all sorts of DVLA forms & tests, always been fine yet it's always balls-achingly difficult when it comes to renewal.
I was last in hospital nearly 20 years ago FFS!

I have other friends, also with psychiatric issues, and they also have to jump through hoops even though they are deemed stable by their doctors.

So hearing about all these dangerous drivers that go around not giving a shit about other road users is unbelievable.
If the DVLA pass them then there's not much can be done but it's the bullish drivers who refuse to stop driving & 'screw everyone else' that get my scorn.

Just shows that medically, honesty is not the best policy... and the young can be more responsible on the road than we're made out to be.

@MenopauseSucks I have a 3 year license too and also have to prove I'm fit to drive so I was genuinely shocked when I notified the DVLA that DF had glaucoma and dementia and was unsafe to drive that all they did was write to him and ask if he was well! We tried intercepting the letters but ge always beat us to it. Ive been shocked that on this thread people have stated that we as families are wrong for intervening when someone is unsafe to drive, but my DF right to drive and make his own decisions (poor one's at that) does not trump others right to be safe on the roads. DF licence was finally revoked just before he was sectioned as his dementia is that bad, the only thing that bothered him when talking to the psychiatrist was if he went and got treated would he help get his driving licence back