so jealous of people whose parents will do tech
finally lost my rag today and told mum I couldn't do any more work on probate unless I was allowed to put it on a computer. (I was seriously working from pen and paper, it was batshit considering dad had lots of accounts with about £2 in them)
so now I've done that, and it all makes sense and is much easier than I thought it would be.
however, she is very pissed off, moaning about how computers have ruined everything.....and of course, the fact that's now in a sensible format somewhere won't stop her asking 10 million questions about everything and getting annoyed when I point out I'm not a lawyer.
there's a bit of me that thinks her constant faffing with bits of paper is keeping her busy and therefore distracted from grief? I wonder if she was against the computer the whole time because she didn't want it sorted or solved quickly. Or does she really think aliens will somehow steal data and therefore money?
Increasingly I think she fears what she will do when the tasks are done, and also she fears that she will end up handing over her everyday tasks to me. I am sympathetic that being too old to deal with stuff and handing over must be very hard....but she let dad do it for 50 years, so why not me? And I do wonder, if I were male, would she just hand it over then, I think she might.