Oh pedropony that is a lot to be dealing* *with. In fact any one of these things are a lot to deal with, baby, toddler and the end of a relationship, having them altogether is hard.
I hope things can settle for you a bit. Rest as much as you can. Can you get some help from family or friends? Maybe they can make you some meals and put it in the freezer? Sorry you're having all this going on. Go easy on yourself.
I have found my binging decreasing definitely although I need to stay vigilant or it sneaks back up on me then bam, i seem to be back in the depths of it.
As for what has helped...
•A thread on here to stop me drinking made me feel that anything was possible. If I could stop drinking then maybe I could address my challenges with food.
• I did a few things last year. I did a hypnosis of Paul McKenna's (How to make you thin - terrible title and not indicative of the content). It actually made me like myself more and realise it was nothing to do with being thin. It was emotional. Which I kind of always knew.
• doing some mindfulness around intuitive eating. That actually made me soar in weight because it came after a famine so it was like the floodgates opened and I used it as a good excuse to eat anything as nothing was off the table (literally) . But, I do find it useful now to add to my list of tools.
• some things that I've done along the way, like My fitness Pal have made me realise what a healthy plate looks like. My portion sizes, even of 'healthy food' was way out of whack. I wouldn't do it again but it has informed me a lot.
• letting go of dieting! This is the biggest one. Letting my body trust that there will be no restrictions. When I need a more supportive structure, after a binge or a period of binging or dieting I go to 3 meals and 3 snacks. It helps me to reset. Some of these snack are tiny. But I stick to it. Then, as I'm in now, after a period of 3 meals/3 snacks I naturally seem to move to 3 meals. Maybe 1 snack if I fancy it. That's the only rule as such. That I can't actively miss a meal. Of course there are times when life gets in the way but I try to stick to proper meals. And make them nice, enjoyable, tasty and filling. And treats. Everyone having an ice cream cone? Why not me too? I used to find myself in the group being the only one denying myself and the only one overweight. That was very telling. Because they might have an ice cream cone at the beach and enjoy it, i will deny myself and battle with myself over it then feel so shit I buy a box of ice creams after and eat them all! Crazy. So i stopped being the only one not enjoying a treat.
• i try to eat my 5 a day. I had a thread on here trying to eat our 10 a day and it was great. It helped me think about what I can eat rather than what I can't. Again, it was quite prescriptive and I want to step away from that. So I make better choices and try to get at least my 5 a day within my meals but its not the end of the world if i am less than that some days.
• this thread has really helped. Massively. I am so glad I found it. Just having a place to write the thought processes out and know you understand where I'm coming from is so helpful.