#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 8

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7
And the one before that: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6
Here is the link to the one before that: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI
We also have a weight loss spin off thread:www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

[pickle162]

I know @Snorkmaiden85 just checked in and there was like so many bits to read. Did you get the cake made last night?

[pickle162]

Just because it's been at least a day since I updated you all and I know how much you love my countdowns......
(In so much tummy pain right now I am hibernating in the bath-can't even blame AF just stupid food intolerances 😫)

[kwick]

@Angliski welcome!!!
So sorry to hear about MC 

@Karendvm your boss sounds strange

[Munrowalker]

Boo to food intolerances @pickle
Make you feel so so rubbish doesn't it?

It's snowing here but not settled as yet. It has in other places but fingers crossed should be okay. It's horrible to drive in snow and ice

[Angliski]

Gutted I just missed the get together! Will need to get arse in gear to coordinate another! How nice Yonkers in real life and all! Just back from a run with a lady joggers group- felt a bit shy but it was ok! Now just one more career coaching client and I am done for the day!

[pickle162]

Do u like near London andliski?

[pickle162]

Sorry angliski

[Snorkmaiden85]

pickle I did get cake done thanks! Felt a bit insane starting baking at 10 pm but it turned out ok and my colleague seemed pleased! Knackered now though, just about to get into bed. Hope your tummy feels better soon, stupid fragile digestive systems!

[kwick]

Sorry to hear you do not feel well pickle - take it easy.

Much eloquence on the thread today - hope some if it rubs off on me - have to write a report on various options to reduce staff costs... should have done on Friday, then was going to do on train today but well did not...

Oooooo I need a career coach!!!!!

Right off to sleep.., it has been a LOOOOOOONG day!!!

[pickle162]

Thanks, feel bit better after an hour in the bath and will head to bed with hot water bottle once the island finishes.

You must be shattered kwick. Good luck with phoning ivi tomorrow (hint hint hehe)

[Angliski]

Hiya @pickle- I live just outside london in the countryside near Gatwick- but in for work quite often.

@kwick you can take my free career test here- //www.ericasosna.com to get you started!

[Angliski]

Haha just seen my Yonkers typo! Wtf! Had final session with client. She asked how my recent ted talk went and I said well it was a bit shit because I had a missed miscarriage that week- and she said she had had one too - she now has an eight month old. Funny how life turns out.

[pickle162]

Ah nice, I got a few friends in Redhill so prob not too far from you then.

[kwick]

Thanks @Angliski - will do! But only after I have called IVI otherwise pickle will seek retribution!!!

TMI alert: forgot to get in sensitive bladder knickers to deal with overnight torrential AF... think I managed to miss sheets but not jimjams....

[pickle162]

All for your own good kwick

[kwick]

So called IVI - FINALLY!!! Have a consultant appointment booked for 8 May. Lady on the telephone was lovely although not sure about how donor sperms works - had loads of info on donor eggs. She is going to clarify and send me on loads of information. I am going to block time in my diary now to type up all my previous treatments/scan results etc - as this will help the consultant. I do not know what it is but I get so much more done when I am in the office and sitting at my desk....
Thanks to all but particularly pickle for chivvying me a long that is to say giving me a kick up the bum
#makeithappen!!!!

[witchmountain]

Well done Kwick!!!

Have you requested a copy of your notes from the last clinic? If they are comprehensive it might save you some typing?

[pickle162]

Yay so pleased you've got an appointment and they sound so lovely.. glad my gentle (shove) push helped 😁 and not too long till the appointment. Hopefully she'll send out the stuff soon and you can start reading up it all :)

[MiriAmmerman]

Hi all - glad I found the new thread!

Kwick well done for calling IVI.
Pez and Karen glad all still looks ok. Am crossing my fingers for everyone about to start (and am totally loving the spreadsheet Pickle - helps me keep track!)

Intro

I'm Miri (31; will be 32 this year).
Am ttc #1 with my DP (33).
We're both women; ttc with donor sperm.

6 IUIs (5 natural, 1 medicated). 2 BFNs followed by an ectopic followed by 3 more BFNs. Have been doing this for just over a year.

We're on the waiting list for NHS IVF in our home city at the moment; pursuing private IVF with Create in London in the interim.

_Latest update
_
Had pre-IVF scan and treatment consultation yesterday. But if a setback; it looks like DP has hydrosalpinges (fluid in tubes) on both sides, which would explain why we haven't conceived since the ectopic (ectopic probably caused it). Anyway, DP has to have a laparoscopy to remove both her tubes before she can conceive (the tubal fluid can prevent IVF embryos from implanting).
So, the plan is to create some frozen embryos at the next available opportunity via mild IVF, have DPs tubes removed, and then have a frozen embryo transfer. DP should start meds on 11 or 12 May, with egg collection around 23rd. Then we will get her laparoscopy done, and hopefully embryo transfer in August.

It was a lot to take in yesterday and we were pretty upset - just another delay and setback. And it means DP will never conceive without IVF. But ridiculous really - when we got together 10 years ago we had 4 tubes between us; by the end of June we won't have any

Trying to keep positive though - we're very aware that things could be worse, and we were planning for IVF anyway.

I have a routine follow up with my oncologist tomorrow to make sure my cancer hasn't returned. I keep trying to say to myself that as long as that's ok an extra couple of months added to the ttc timetable shouldn't matter. It's hard though; ttc feels more important than anything just now.

Have just read back and realised the length of this post - sorry!

[PhoenixMama]

Wow you're all a busy lot!

I'm following your link now too angliski! How amazing - I think I need your coaching skills!

Kwik Hooray for making the call - some times that one step feels so much bigger than the other ones!

Welcome Miri!

And Snork I'm inpressed with your late night baking skills - what did you make?

I've just had delivery confirmation that my magic potion has been delivered to my clinic So exciting. Am going to tell my boss next week I think...

I don't think I've ever wanted AF to arrive more in my life because I know once it's here it's almost time!

[StorkAhoy]

hi all.

greetings from a very very very rainy soaked NYC.

so question: it cots £50 to get my file copied and it can take 20days for my current FC to copy it and and send to me so I can forward to my new FC.

Do I bother?

I have copies of my protocols, meds etc, scan numbers/measurements, results etc.

Don't have copies of my blood tests.

thoughts?

[Pez82]

Miri, sorry to hear about the last events. Hopefully you and your DP will be back on track soon for an early 2018 baby

Stork I know it doesn't help but 20 days!!! It seems a bit of a joke especially when you're paying for it.
To be honest it is likely the new clinic will want to run their own set of blood works so if you have copies of the rest I wouldn't bother.
Is there anything specific test you have done that might help them? If not, just talk the Wales clinic through your own set of data.

Yesterday I received what was supposed to be my treatment summary letter for IVF and instead got a summary of my 2nd IUI treatment (very random as I've never received such letters for any cycle). As I'm now past angry with them, I emailed back asking for all the missing ones 😉
I know they lost part of the data for my first IUI so let's see how they get out of it!!

[StorkAhoy]

pez seriously - what are they like!! Thanks for the thoughts, I think you're right.

[kwick]

Ladies I have been contacted by someone researching a screen play about our situation - she would like us to fill in a questionnaire - I just did - it took me just a couple of minutes. Here is the link to more information, should you wish to be a part of it: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/surveys_students_non_profits_and_start_ups/2909251-MUMS-VIA-DONATION-IUI-IVF-YOUR-VIEWS-NEEDED
Bagsie I take the lead part!!!

Great idea witch will do so momentarily - I think they will charge but lets see.

Miri that is so much to take in... any if I were you I know I would be feeling angry and frustrated!!!! I really hope that you get good news tomorrow - you deserve a break!

Stork you may want to check to see what the new clinic would prefer? I guess I should do this too...

pez what a crap clinic!!!

Right - need to shake a leg as I am still at work!

[INeedNewShoes]

Would you believe me if I said I've been wondering when that would happen Kwick?

I'm behind on the thread. Will catch up later.

Baby turning attempt was today. Didn't work of course so it'll be a CS next week.