#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 8

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7
And the one before that: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6
Here is the link to the one before that: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI
We also have a weight loss spin off thread:www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

[kwick]

shoes we defo missed you and all the others that were not able to come.
witch put on an amazeballs spread and we met Henry and Mya. Lovely walk on the heath after.

snowdog I may do IUI again - but CRGH will not do IVF as I do not produce enough eggs for them to run genetic tests. Will explore donor egg option with IVI.

Lovely doggy munro!!!

[PhoenixMama]

Hope the meet up went great everyone! Sorry I couldn't be with you. Had a great birthday lunch (may have secretly spent the whole time wishing for a baby to be there next year!)

[StorkAhoy]

Greetings from NYC, hoping you guys had a super fun meet up! Xoxo

[pickle162]

Ooh NY snork how lovely.
We missed all of you who weren't there, it was lovely. Witch fed us up well and we all had a good giggle 😊

[witchmountain]

Happy Monday everyone!

Stork if you're at a lose end (unlikely in NYC!) I'd recommend the Tenement Museum.

Glad you had a good birthday Phoenix.

Lovely dog pic Munro. A weekend of hills sounds nice.

Cherry good to bear everything is ok, sickness and exhaustion excepted.

Caution, how are you feeling? We missed you yesterday, hope you're on the med.

[kwick]

Very early start this morning to catch 5.40 to Paris.
The good news is AF seems to have made an appearance bang on time (31 days), the bad - I managed to knock passenger opposite coffee cup with newspaper... he was not amused!!!

Despite early start I feel refreshed after the great company and sunshine yesterday.

Hope everyone has a great week!

[pickle162]

Yay for AF kwick ** oopsie about your incident, would loved to have been a fly on the wall though lol.
I really don't want to be in work today, doing the prep this morning and just winding myself up about incompetent/lazy wotsits 😡
Roll on 5pm

[Angliski]

Hiya everyone! Just wanted to join the group.

I am 38, got BFP on my first medicated IUI with my husband ( azoospermic) but we had an MMC and I had D and C two weeks ago so now waiting for AF - check me out with the lingo sisters!! - so we can start again.

Was gutted with the MMC but now stopped crying, ready to be a big girl and try again.


Happy to be in community.

Waves to everyone.

[witchmountain]

Welcome again angliski (have just said hello on the weight loss thread)!

[PhoenixMama]

Welcome Angliski!

So my magic potion is shipping today! Eeeeek!

[Angliski]

Ah look at us here - making our nests all ready! Fingers crossed for everyone! Pickle - yay for your course! Pez - hope the tooth is ok! Hopeful - that a big move - are you moving home? Love liverpool!

I am waiting AF after missed miscarriage of first medicated IUI cycle. 38 years young!

[Angliski]

Phoenix is it going to a clinic or home? If its home be super super careful opening the box! I could not believe how expensive it was! £800 a vial in the end!

[PaisleyBE]

Kwick , yay for AF! Mine finally appeared, too, more or less on time.
For years I've been on cycle of 28 days. Of course, the month I really started to watch it in prep for IUI it shortened to 26 and it kept like that for several months in a row, so I though - okay, 26 days (LH surge alway on the CD 14), I can work with that. And this month/cycle, when I really care about timing and all, I'm back to 28. I'm amazed how my body loves to joke around with me.
On that note, Shoes , I can't thank you enough that you talked me out of buying my tickets before. I will just patiently wait for my LH surge and buy tickets to CPH on the same day. Your wisdom is saving my nerves.

[Karendvm]

angliski I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the group. I hope you get your rainbow baby.

[Karendvm]

Tell me if I'm ridiculous. My manager at work has had 6 miscarriages and 3 live births. She absolutely doesn't understand why I want to be careful with this pregnancy. I haven't mower my lawn because 1) I'm exhausted 2) my allergies are crazy right now and 3) I want my dr to tell me it's ok. My manager keeps giving me this veiled dirty looks like I should be able to just put my fears aside and motor on through. I've also had a rough weekend worrying about money and life. Just wish I worked somewhere where there was some understanding.

[INeedNewShoes]

Paisley - 'wisdom' is a kind way to put it. I learned from my own idiotic mistake Luckily I enjoyed my three-day city break sans IUI in Copenhagen. My only regret is that Tivoli Gardens weren't open because it would have been a brilliant opportunity to enjoy the rollercoaster (which clearly should not be done after IUI, just to be clear...).

It really does make life easier if you can try not to plan everything to focus on expected day of ovulation, but it's so much easier said than done!

[StorkAhoy]

karen Im so sorry. your boss sounds like a (sorry) b*tch. is there any steps you can take? can your doctor do anything for you? I don't know much about legislation and laws in your country, so can't help Im afraid as the UK they are generally quite supportive of pregnancy issues. Bt I know America for example is much more stringent and not as helpful to moms and moms to be e.g. I have passed on flying to Mexico and Brazil for work since august last year due to zika concerns and my boss is absolutely fine with it, but it sounds like your boss would have just said fly. or is it just your boss and thats just her way?

and how someone who had 6 miscarriages can't understand why someone would want to be careful with a pregnancy means she's just an unfeeling idiot. Im so sorry. Is there anything you want to talk about in particular? can you take it out with us, or with others in terms of life and money worries?

Thanks for the thought witch no time on this trip, perhaps in July!

AF arrived with a mighty fury today, so thats a 27 day cycle post failed IVF, which is the same as the cycles after my first ivf. paisley Im there with you on the weirdness and wonder of the body!

[PhoenixMama]

Karen As someone who has just had a megabitch for a boss for the last year I massively feel your pain. My life is entirely better since my nice boss has returned from mat leave. Its terrible how stressful 1 person can make your life. Def agree with Stork feel free to share away here!

Paisley I've booked my tix to Copenhagen already for next month - although I've booked a couple different returns to cover myself! Fingers crossed it works out.

[INeedNewShoes]

Karen - you ignore your boss. Everyone has their own parameters for early pregnancy, especially after experiencing a MC and, especially after MC, I think it's to be expected that you will be more risk averse. Ignore, ignore, ignore! Don't even let it bother you for a second.

[Karendvm]

Thanks everyone. Don't mean to whine about it. I know I'm not ill or incapable of working. I just want to be a careful where I can be. Being pregnant and a vet do not go well together I'm afraid. Thanks for your support. Outside of this group the people in 'real life' just don't seem to get it. Relax, they say. I wish I could. I really do. But I still have this terrible feeling that everything could come crashing down. I'm hoping that settles down a bit as more time passes.

[witchmountain]

Karen, sounds like she's having a major empathy failure. She might be worse because she's had miscarriages and live births. For a start, she's had live births so she knows she has carried pregnancies to term. Secondly, since she's had both she may be at the point where she can't see any connection between anything she did and the end result for the pregnancy. And of course some people are just of the "get on with it" mentality.

But none of that matters, the point is it's your pregnancy and your decisions. Are there specific things at work that you aren't comfortable doing or is it more general exhaustion and needing to look after yourself?

Who cares about your lawn?? It's a lawn. It will still be there when you feel like mowing again. I didn't water my balcony for six months because I was a bit busy. Almost everything died. It really didn't matter that much!

Everything is so much harder with allergies too. Is the end in sight for the kind of pollen you react to?

[witchmountain]

Also you can "whine" here. Although I don't think that's what you're doing. What's worrying you about money and life?

[Munrowalker]

Wow guys this thread moves so quick!
Karen. Your boss sounds like a right pain in the a**. As she's had so many MC herself you'd have thought different. But some people were not made to be empathetic and I do feel very much that people don't have a clue what we are going through, even the nice ones don't really get it.
Welcome angliski. We are a friendly bunch here! Sorry for your loss. I hope u get to try again soon?
I'm due my 2nd iui this week. Just waiting for the surge.
Work today was good but it's turned cold and snowing here. Brrr

[Snorkmaiden85]

Hi all!

Struggling to keep up, but welcome angliski! I'm so sorry about your miscarriage, but glad you're feeling ready to try again. And glad you found us here!

Karen, what everyone else said! It's NOT whining, I'd feel just the same as you, your boss sounds like the ridiculous one to be honest. Your body, your pregnancy. I agree it could be because she has had MCs herself - I think some people think their way is the only way to deal with something and are sniffy of those who deal with it differently. I've experienced this sometimes with having depression, I've heard other people say things like "well i had depression and i didn't do x,y and z....". I'm sorry she's being like that though, having difficult colleagues is the worst. I'm sorry you've had a rough weekend too, I wish you could have been having a giggle with us! It's easy to get overwhelmed by money/life worries, especially if you're feeling fragile already... those are my 'go to' worries when I'm feeling a bit down. Hope you feel better soon, but never feel like you need to apologise for venting here!

Best of luck with IUI No. 2 munro! Sending you lots of good vibes Can't believe it's snowing with you! How rubbish. I'm so ready for some nice warm summer sun. Glad things are better at work too.

[pickle162]

Welcome angliski so sorry to hear about your Mc

Paisley not long to go now :) bloody AF cycles-it's like they know grrr

Karen she sounds like a right cow bag but perhaps it's her way of dealing with the emotions of her miscarriages- perhaps she just desperately doesn't want to talk about it so she is being off with you....or as others have said she is just being a bitch
I find when you have one worry 3000 come to join it so hopefully once you've had your 12 week scan the other worries may settle a bit xx ps your not moaning, your entitled to worry after what you've been through! These babies are so special
I have fake grass so don't have to arse about with lawn mowers

Ah Munro I did wonder whether you may be where the snow was, we had a lovely sunny morning then miserable rainy afternoon but means I don't have to bother to water the plants so not that fussed.
Glad it was sunny yesterday when was the weekend