#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 7

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6

Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

Welcome Dream I'm single & 42 with a (natural) 7 yr old DD.

She's been a trooper today getting her tonsils out but the aenethstetic part made me wobbly. Absolutely horrid. It's like she thought we were trying to kill her. Hope I never have to go through that again.

Did a bunch of flight research today. Might book tomorrow when we get home from the hospital (they kept us in after all). It's cheap enough now that I can book 2 different return dates to give me options.

Just want to get going now! Getting impatient!

I wrote a blog when we were trying to conceive DD. Might do the same with my little Viking baby. I think it's lovely to have bits & bobs for them to look back on. DD loves her scan pics. I'm planning on framing some of the donor's pics for the little one if it happens.

Aw Phoenix, that must have been worrying, glad she's out the other side!!
Oooh are you planning on going abroad now for treatment? (sorry I swear I miss things) Denmark? Which cycle? Sorry million questions 😁x
I know what you mean about the impatient bit, I'm now down to 3 weeks left of pill before start and that seems like a lifetime 🙄

www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-4384646/Gemma-Collins-told-t-freeze-eggs.html

Did anyone read this? I'm not a towie fan but if talks about donor sperm and/or ds and donor egg and highlights the normality of this then it's ok for me

Good article pickle i don't watch Towie but saw interview on Loose Women when she talked about freezing her eggs. Shame it hasn't worked out for her

That reminded me I meant to post this a while ago. Interesting read www.theatlantic.com/amp/article/309374//_. It was a response to all the stuff that came out a few years ago implying that on the strike of midnight on your 35th birthday you ovaries basically shrivelled up and fell out.

Your poor DD phoenix

Right I am off to read the articles posted!!!

I kinda feel the same as Gemma only I do not have a Cartier or a Range Rover to trade in!!!

Me too kwick

pez how are you doing?

Last night I had a dream about pregnancy tests! In the dream I decided to test early, but when I looked at the stick there were loads of different stripes - thick, thin, close together and with big gaps. I was trying to interpret them and getting really anxious, and then I woke up. Did my usual toddle to the bathroom, and spent a couple of sleep befuddled minutes trying to work out whether I should test or not (not: too early).

Not that it is on my mind or anything... Anyone else have dreams like this?

Hi kwick, I was about to post to say I was awake most of the night with abdominal pains, they were really bad for about 2 hours and I really wanted to take some painkillers but didn't. It means I also had some very odd dreams but that's not unusual for me when I have a rough night. Also not going to the loo these days - sorry TMI - which doesn't help...
I have no idea if this is very nasty side of the progesterone or if it means something is happening inside. As a result I feel a bit under the weather today with a very dry throat.
I don't tend to get a lot of pains with AF and therefore not sure that's what they're supposed to feel like, it's like I had a burning ball inside my lower abdomen. Don't know if anyone can relate to that?

Anyway, only time will tell...

Late, yes I have dreams about sticks doing strange things!
When's your OTD again? You must be getting close

Loved that Atlantic article. It was a great read. I'm 33 this month and dreading the 35 birthday for the reported fertility drop off. I know this is crazy. Every birthday feels like a step further away from our chances. Mental right? This article gives a much more rounded perspective on fertility chances and age.
Thanks for sharing

Only useful thing I can say is that period pain is never, in my experience, a burning pain. It ranges from a dull ache to a more intense spasm, but not burning, so fingers crossed!

I dream about babies, sometimes I can look after them and sometimes I can't.

Oh and Gemma Collins. I can't imagine charting my journey in the public eye. Good for her. Although I would have sold my cartier watch and range rover 3 years ago if I had the chance! Instead we waited for the NHS. I don't know if we made the right decision; but we didnt have the luxury of being able to readily afford private treatment. Time will tell.

I dream about medical procedures and testing. Sometimes BFP and often BFN. Strangely enough the dreams never include pregnancy or babies.
Sorry to hear you had horrible pain in the night pez. I hope this is a good sign.
I am getting so bad for symptom watching since my dates for implantation have arrived.

I test on Monday!

Did you take codeine at all? I was give some after EC and it bunged me up for days - it was almost a week before I felt comfortable, and I had bad abdominal pains which painkillers didn't touch. I recommend prunes - either tinned or dried.

I've had quite a few cramps since ET which I've assumed were progesterone related (or AF arriving), but thankfully those have cleared up. I think all the hormones can affect digestion too, so fingers crossed something's happening for you!

I think one the disadvantages of being 30 and making this decision is that everyone keeps telling me that I should wait until I am 37/38 until I make such a “drastic and irreversible decision”. Everyone seems to think I should hold out and wait for “Mr Right”, but can’t comprehend that I’ve already met my Mr Right and at the moment nobody has come close to being as wonderful as he was.

Also, I am not sure if it is just me feeling like this, but a lot of people seem to think that IVF as a single woman means you only want one child. I definitely would like to try for more than one (more than one time), but these things are not guaranteed and can take time. I was wondering if anyone else has had that experience when they’ve discussed it with people? I’ve basically stopped discussing it with real life people now.

I’ve been in touch with LWC- I am finding it difficult to get responses from them. Hopefully they are just inundated with e-mail contact and it takes a while to reply. I think I am young enough still to donate eggs so that is possibly something I will do, but I want to ensure the best quality eggs are split between donor and recipient and not just given to the donor.

Has anyone looked into IVF in South Africa?

Sorry - lots of questions.

Thank you very much for the podcast titles.

Love the ideas of keeping a journal of this journey - Pez, I think it’s an incredible idea to travel back to Denmark with your little one at the right time and share their origins with them.

I definitely couldn’t publicly share this journey - however, I have thought about starting an anonymous blog about it.

Munrowalker I am dreading my 31st. So feeling exactly the same. Does the feeling get worse as each year passes? I feel like a time bomb inside - it’s really difficult to describe.

Late I have dreams involving babies and children - not the conception part yet though. Maybe they’ll change the more research I do into this.

Hope everyone is having a nice day. Absolutely love that there is this thread - I wish I’d posted in here weeks ago.

So your OTD is only 1 day earlier than mine but yet my transfer was 5 days after yours. You're very good to wait until Monday. I'm thinking of starting to pee on opks (as a no pressure test) this weekend.

I'm not on codeine and was honestly really fine after the EC. I'm already on daily laxatives due to my IBS but they don't seem to be working these days... I guess I now feel a bit full like I'm on my period... and my bbs have been so painful ever since the egg collection, the swelling has reduced but oh my they're so tender to the touch. Bloody meds!

I may not make it until Monday Pez! I don't understand the difference in OTDs either - my friend having IVF in Germany had to wait 16 days after transfer (and they use blood tests not sticks), while mine is only ten! When the nurse filled in the date on my documentation she confirmed it was a five day transfer, so maybe that affects things? I'm in London for a wedding tomorrow and won't be back until Saturday night, so that should distract me. We'll see if I cave on Sunday...

Good luck late! We're exactly on the same boat, first IVF after multiple failed IUIs. I want this to work for the both of us more than anything!!!

To me my OTD makes sense, as it's 14 days after EC so when my body would have normally ovulated. The clinic did tell me not to test of hpt though!!!

@create yes for me the birthday thing gets worse each year. It's different for everyone though. In terms ofor our story, we have waited for iui on the NHS for 3 1/2 years so passing birthdays just ram that home a bit more. Especially as we were told the wait would be 6months. And we were told the same thing every time we called after that.
It might feel differentry for you.
I'm on my first iui (last friday) so can test next weekend.
I can't bear this two week wait.
@pez and @late it's so good u have each other doing literally the same treatment.

Pez progesterone will slow down your digestive system. I'm hoping the pains are a good sign. Fingers crossed for you and late.

I think Progesterone is messing up with me on so many levels, not just digestive 😖

Forgot to say witch that I really enjoyed the article - it's refreshing to read something different. Although as I started reading I thought why is she sharing this with us and I'm glad I kept on reading 😊