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Opppppps - we nearly filled the old one

unescorted not what you need on top of everything else
Ds ' negative test actually has the faintest of faint lines, he's feeling rubbish and has a PCR booked for the morning. Does anyone know about the isolation payment that is available? He had double time shifts scheduled for last night & NYE (both double time) so will be approx £200 down if positive. Monday & Friday are his regular shifts so he isn't pulling a fast one.
Another family we know we're apparently at the local pub too on Xmas Eve and are positive now. Ds feels bad but my dad also went to the pub on Xmas Eve so everyone is taking chances, life can't be on hold forever...

Thanks people... he is alive. ! I think my capacity for caring about drama is seriously declining. The hospital kindly said it was likely to be labyrinthitis - my more uncharitable view is it was a bad case of lookatmeeeeeeeeee.

Today is going to be a quiet uneventful day - I just want one unexciting, drama free day. The most exciting thing is going to be deciding what to have for dinner.

North gov.uk link to support payments

Oh god unescorted thankfully he’s ok.

I get the lack of anything to give. I’m at that point with DH now. It’s been a long week since he hurt his hand. In which I’ve done everything. Him nothing and he’s rested nicely while I’ve been at work and running around after the kids.

Dd hasn’t been well last couple of days. So hasn’t really slept. Which means neither have we. But I’m on day 2 of no sleep. And DH is in bed having a nice lie in. Because he’s tired. He was meant to make breakfast for everyone today. But he’s tired.

We also found out on Christmas Day that fils gf needs a hip replacement. It was put to me yesterday by both of them that I’d have to take leave to care for her when she’s out of surgery.

Yeahhhh nah.

@ememem84

We also found out on Christmas Day that fils gf needs a hip replacement. It was put to me yesterday by both of them that I’d have to take leave to care for her when she’s out of surgery.

Yeahhhh nah.

What?! That is ridiculous! How dare they suggest that?? I hope you told them where to go?!

More wating yesterday as we had family round. Dcs had great fun with their cousins who they haven't seen for ages.

Assuming LFTs are negative we are going to my mum's for lunch today.

*Eating not waiting!!

That’s the best laugh I’ve had this week. Cheeky bastards

That’s was at ems fil
The reply didn’t work

Blah he’s back unescorted and it’s nowt too sinister.
Fingers crossed for -ve north

Em no freaking way especially given how bloody rude to you they both are. They can do one. And dh can surely manage some tasks, lots of people live with only one functioning arm and however traumatic he can't possibly still need to stay in bed (I am the world's least sympathetic person though). Glad he's home unescorted you do not need either labyrinthitis or lookatmeitis at the moment.

Morning all just catching up with the thread. Hope everyone feeling poorly gets better soon. We had a lovely Christmas Day saw dd briefly in the morning then heard the boyfriend had gone home she hadn’t so knew something had gone on then got a call could she stay here which was obviously a yes.

Dd has opened up to his mum how awful he treats her and his mum had a go at him called him toxic so he stomped off expecting dd to follow and she didn’t. She was stressed as they can’t get shut of the dogs they have bred she’s used her overdraft to pay for the dogs and bought him a £750 phone to promote the dogs with. The promise he made was to pay her back buy her a new phone and a new car when they sold the dogs but obviously that’s not happening

Lots of tears wails of how her life is over then her being snappy plus opening up to how shitty he treats her text book narcissist behaviour she’s come off social media but hasn’t blocked him yet and upto last night wasn’t replying I want her to get her stuff asap which may include the 2 cats lucky me lol and block him as she has left him before and it lasted 3 days when she started replying to his messages

So please can I ask you to pray to whoever and keep everything crossed she doesn’t go back to him this time even his mum is texting her not to go back to him. Not really the peaceful restful time off work I had planned but If she finally leaves him for good it will be worth it and worth every penny paying her overdraft off

unescorted great news he’s ok but I hear you on the lack of energy for drama.
em they are absolute cheeky bastards and it would be incredibly hard not to tell them so!
humbug and mrs glad you are getting some downtime
north hope your DS isn’t too poorly
alfie sounds like tentative good news, everything crossed she sees sense. We had drama last night with DD and partner - she was upset (she doesn’t usually show her feelings) and partner was ignoring her and being quite mean. Unfortunately none of us are that keen on DD’s partner as she needs a lot of reassurance and regularly causes drama. I feel mean saying it but I am normally very tolerant and able to see both sides. I encourage DD to stand up for her needs and she did - it’s now sorted apparently. Your kids relationships are exhausting though aren’t they?
Feel a bit flat today as nothing planned - need to make the most of it by lazing!

@ememem84

We also found out on Christmas Day that fils gf needs a hip replacement. It was put to me yesterday by both of them that I’d have to take leave to care for her when she’s out of surgery.

Yeahhhh nah.

Like the amount of help they gave you with your babies - zero

alfie really hope she breaks away from him for good, such a worry for you

It’s exhausting and heartbreaking seeing her so upset and hearing how he’s been treating her. I just wish she would get her stuff and block him as I feel her reading his messages is making it harder for herself. One minute he’s promising to change then he’s trying to make her jealous saying he’s out for cocktails she knows if she goes back the abuse and name calling etc will continue and he will punish her for not following him and staying here she feels guilty he’s on his own and has nobody and about the puppies as she was the one looking after them hence why she’s behind on her university work

He’s demanded she picks up her cats then in the next message threatened to rehome them which is why we have offered to have them will have to have them spayed as they haven’t Not having 8 bloody American bull dog puppies though if he can’t afford them and despite reducing the price can’t sell them they will have to go to the rescue centre

Alfie if it helps I will gladly find religion for you. He must be a piece of work if his own mum is counselling her to get shot of him.

em that sound I heard was my jaw breaking as it hit the table.

Hope she does stay away Alfie and blocks him. Can someone else get her stuff. It’s hard leaving an abusive relationship not as simple as LTB. Sounds like she has lots of support from you and him mum too.
Keep the messages, keep a log of all his behaviours from her leaving in case you need to involve authorities.
And come here for us to support you either here or by pm

Oh don’t worry I just casually said I was busy then. DH told me I could have been kinder. But whatever.

He’s welcome to do it if he’s that concerned. But I won’t be.

You could have been kinder!! Bwaha

To be fair. I could have sugar coated it a bit more. But why bother.

I should also say I’m all for being kind. But it works both ways. I don’t go out of my way to be mean. But have literally no patience for twats

It sounds as if they were assuming that you would be OK with it em

It enrages me when people assume I have no life that can't be put on hold because they want me to do something to make their lives easier.

Don't think they've earned sugar coating Em
Alfie I really hope this is the end of their relationship, it must be so hard. One of ds' friends is with a controlling gf and it's really hard to watch. I'm friends with his mum so I get the stress from her & ds

Bit the bullet and checked my bank balance today. As expected, it was quite low and my mortgage is due out tomorrow! Had to do a hasty transfer from my savings account. I think I mentioned already that I had some expensive dental work in December (more due in January) and that messed me up a bit.

I've done up my budget for the month of January and I'm back on the straight and narrow financially. I've budgeted for the impending dental work and also a boiler service, although I had to estimate the cost of the boiler service.

I'm going to claim back the cost of my/DD's medical expenses from Revenue (well, a % of them) in the New Year.

I'll also delve into the depths of my freezer and see if there's anything I can use up. I've a fair bit of food in because I availed of some special offers when I did my big grocery shop before Christmas. So should be minimal spend on groceries in January.

My sister bought me a lovely house plant for a Christmas present. Only thing is, the pot it came in is tiny relative to the size of the plant. So I'll need to buy a bigger pot for it. Hoping DCats don't eat it!

DD's gone to Ex's for two days. Much as I adore her, I'm enjoying the peace and quiet.

Must stop eating the Ferreros.......

Onto your news.

em I love jigsaws. I've a Snow White one left over from the summer (a three for two offer) and DD also got one for Christmas. Both 1000 pieces. As soon as she gets back from her Dad's, we'll get stuck into the Snow White one. I laughed and rolled my eyes when I read about FIL and his GF (Girl Friend/Goady Fucker)'s plans that you would play Florence Nightingale while she recovers from her hip replacement.
Like you haven't enough on your plate already.

Mrs good work on the hot air balloons puzzle. Hope you enjoyed your day off yesterday.

Wolf no snow and ice here. It was a very mild and rainy Christmas. We had so much rain that there was flooding in the South East of the country on Christmas morning and a bridge collapsed www.rte.ie/news/ireland/2021/1226/1268710-ireland-flooding-latest/. Sorry to hear you're not feeling so good. Have a and some .

north sorry to hear about your hip also . Sounds nasty.

Unescorted glad your DH's condition isn't too serious after all. I had no idea what labyrinthitis is and had to google it. I was picturing your DH in a David Bowie/Goblin King style wig.

Adora glad you got to meet up with DD2

Humbug sounds like you had a nice day with family yesterday

Alfie glad your DD is back home. I'm sure you're all treading on eggshells hoping that she won't succumb to his messages. No doubt he's promising her the sun, moon and stars to get her back. A very difficult time for you all. I hope she can resist the temptation to reply. It's a slippery slope.