Friendly frugaleers as the leaves fall our bank balances will rise, hopefully!

[lifelongfrugaleer]

Couldn't see one so took the liberty of starting a new thread.

I got that Only Connect Q right too and the one tonight with Cbeebies shows. I love Only Connect!

£20 Aldi on the way home from work. I'd like to say it was a useful top-up shop but it was mainly cheapo pretend Baileys and stollen bites! They are to donate to a Christmas hamper thing.Mostly. I bought some to test. Just in case they weren't very nice. Sure you understand.

I saw a counsellor for about a year a few years back em and found it really helpful. Definitely not a weakness, it was one of the hardest things I've done actually.

Dd came home in a state today as she has severe stomach pain, I had a panic it was her appendix so rushed her down the drs but turns out it might be ovarian pain! She seemed much better at bedtime so fingers crossed it doesn't come back bless her.

Spent £20 on petrol and £10 on a top up shop.

Your self sacrifice knows no bounds snuggly. Let us know of they are good enough though

Thanks Life, no rush. Let me know what I owe you for postage

Lousy night's sleep not for want of trying

That’s true girlie a good therapist makes you work hard.

Poor DD ovary pain can be quite a shock.

Off for a free film today (and another tomorrow), it’s an annual festival for schools which home edders can access.

Reading with interest about therapy em as I've decided it might be time for me to get some help to put separation behind me, I've had a few instances of paranoia when bf hasn't been able to keep to plans we've made and it's 100% on me as he hasn't given me any reason to doubt him. but hearing now it's hard work, reminds me of when I went to counselling when h wouldn't go for marriage counselling I suppose it's a case of choose your hard, I don't like feeling the paranoia and dramaticising a situation that isn't even there.

In other news I spent an absolute fortune at the weekend
bf met the parents and all my friends at a wedding and it went brilliantly, he got on with my friends, their husbands and my parents #outing

Washing machine is on the blink, waiting for a new seal so spent €15.50 on washing clothes yesterday.

€8.60 on chicken fillet burger & chips while I was waiting and €3 on treats afterwards hope weight loss frugaleers don't read this

See that’s what I like about this. I mention therapy and a lot of you chip in with either your own experiences and/or thinking about it. I don’t feel I could talk to many people in real life about doing this if I’m honest given the stigma re mental health issues/wellness how many people are going to admit to having seen a therapist in real life when it’s still seen as a “crazy person” thing?

Up early today. Well, in the shower before 8 anyway. Ds was awake at 3. I went back to sleep at 530. Woke up at 745. As did dh. He missed the 750 bus... so he’s taken the car today and did nursery drop off and will pick Ds up.

Dd and I are at “stranded” at home (as I’ve just realised the pram is in the car boot). Probably a good thing really as I’m tired. But have a load of boring house jobs to do.

So far this morning I’ve put ds’ clean laundry away, have put a load of laundry outside on the line (hooray!!!), another load in the machine and another one in the dryer. Sorted two more to hopefully throw in the machine later on. Dishwasher emptied and reloaded and put on. Made/making leek and potato soup in instant pot.

Currently chilling with a cup of tea and a fruit plate (I say fruit plate to make myself sound fancy. Cut up apple and a handful of grapes is more like it...!) 😛🍎🍏

There is a noisy eater on the train next to me. Open mouth noises. Blergh

I think it's still sad that MH had such a sigma. Carry on taking to us em.
I spoke to a fabulous counseling woman couple of years ago and that was the only time I felt it was of Benefit. Cbt didn't work for me but the bucket theory totally made sense

Spends today are mostly claimable except for the £10 in hotel chocolate. I nearly fell off my perch at the price.
Went into the HP shop to admire the lovely stuff.
Homeward now

Urgh Life. I had noisy music/video person yesterday made me rage

I've done counselling, psychologist and psychiatrist multiple times. That awful American phrase is very true "it only works if you work it". Also you have to be ready for it and willing to commit. I thought I was "fixed" many times and I wasn't so I had to go back around the roundabout

Urgh Life. I had noisy music/video person yesterday made me rage

I've done counselling, psychologist and psychiatrist multiple times. That awful American phrase is very true "it only works if you work it". Also you have to be ready for it and willing to commit. I thought I was "fixed" many times and I wasn't so I had to go back around the roundabout

Ah Life I reckon I'm 20-30 mins behind you coming to KC to get the train home. Dammit. I'm assuming that's the HP shop you mean

Yes the HP shop. Damm auto correct.
Just at York now. I was on the 2pm

One day wolf

That's fab that ye are both travelling basically the same journey regularly, ye could pass each other and not know it.

wolf glad to hear you have to be ready because lots of people suggested it to me when h and I separated but it's only now I feel the need and feel ready.

We probably pass quite often in Sheffield too.

One day we will meet. I'm there the 4& 13 December then that's my last travel until 8 Jan in London

Poor dd girlie. I can remember my mum rushing me to the gp thinking I had appendicitis and it was ovary pain!

Nsd today. Yay!

Ouch girlie DD. poor lamb.

£12 on blueberries and lunchables. £5 sweet potato carrots

I think the reason I’ve gone for therapy this time is because I’m ready for it.

Dh came home from work with ds after nursery. And he’s gone back to work. Bit annoyed. But needs must.

Missed a couple of days, work and home has been v busy! Bathroom is getting there but not finished, my bedroom is a very depressing place atm but I’m hoping they’ll finish tomorrow, or Thursday at the latest. I am not sleeping at all well because of the dust.

Sorry to those struggling, and I hope the time whizzes by Plan, I’m really at your having to wait more than 2 weeks.

Someone mentioned something about a bucket theory - what’s that, may I ask? Just curious as it rings a vague bell.

Spent £40ish yesterday on Boden, with the very kind Born’s voucher. Got a lovely long sleeved tee and a shaggy lined hoodie for DS. He loves having a hood up and now will be toastie and warm whilst totally hiding his face from the world

Too much spend today at work on pastry, coffee, lunch... need to get a serious grip. But I’m just so frantically busy I don’t have time to think atm. So am just spending and shovelling crap foods in.

I went into the office yesterday - normally I wfh on Mondays - and being really busy all day and outside my normal routine I was convinced it was Tuesday. Consequently, I completely forgot to pick DD up from nursery (on Tuesdays she’d be home with DM). Got home at 6.45pm, said to my mum ‘where’s DD, it’s very quiet here!’ And she gave me a look and said ‘with you? Or.... still at nursery...’. 11 missed calls on my phone and 50 mins after closing time, oops .

Been to fat fighters tonight and I am a little depressed by my (significant) recent backsliding. And this evening I am feeling a little pissed off with DH for not supporting me better and looking after me occasionally. He does his share with the kids but the rest.... no. I am so tired of doing all the family thinking, and cooking, and project managing, and most of the doing. Feeling put upon and actually a little angry. Going to bed now in a huff. Big presentation tomorrow 🤞🏻

Oops sea. You totally have your hands full. Good luck with the presentation.

It was me with the bucket theory. I will see if I can find a link.

Sorry plan missed your extended wait. That's rubbish and not great at all

bucket theory for stress

With thanks to the Christmas thread.

Lots of heritage free entry days out . This weekend I think
www.lotterygoodcauses.org.uk/projects/thanks-to-you

Oops Sea! Did nursery charge you for being late?

For some reason I feel compelled to but a bundh cake tin

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