wolf your right. Things like that put everything into perspective.
Had an argument with dh last night. Apparently I’m being controlling (again). Because I’ve asked him not to go to work early on Monday, and also have asked him to find out what the hell is going on this weekend with his dad.
For context:
Monday morning there will be an extinction rebellion protest at rush hour time. Designed to stop traffic. Dh is planning on getting the early bus (at 630) instead of his 745 bus. This means he won’t be late for work. Which I understand but he’s also working late on Monday and I’ll be on my own with both kids all day and could do without having to get up at 5 so I can get dressed/shower etc. Am happy to drop him in to be there for just after 9. He could also work from home for a bit.
This weekend Fil is 70. He’s having a party on sat night which the kiddies aren’t invited to. Dh hasn’t organised a babysitter. Everyone we know is either away or will be at the party or is busy. I’m waiting on a family friend to come back to me (but have a feeling she won’t get back from her holiday until tomorrow). Have said to dh that if we can’t get anyone hell have to go on his own as we can’t take them and can’t leave them.
Dh wants to go for Sunday lunch with Fil too as Sunday is his actual birthday. Fil and his gf are being very vague about making plans. The gf has suggested breakfast on Sunday. Either way we’ll need to book somewhere as will need space for the pram and a highchair. And places get busy. I’ve suggested just booking somewhere (then we can always cancel). But nope. Controlling.
Is it controlling to want to know what we’re doing and to want to make sure kids are looked after. I don’t particularly want to go to the party anyway. But that’s not the point.
I also have worked out that the venue is completely cashless. Which isn’t a problem if you know about it. I doubt Fil and gf know this. I doubt their mates know this. Most of the ones I’ve met use cash only when they go out....