Friendly frugaleers as the leaves fall our bank balances will rise, hopefully!

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Couldn't see one so took the liberty of starting a new thread.

for you and your friends wolf, I'm very sorry.

Em, no you are not being controlling.

Eugh I hate not knowing plans em it makes me anxious. Dh and is family are like your dh. Re Monday morning we've always had the same routine since we had two, dh sorts breakfast whilst I shower so I'm with you on that too.

£45 Iceland. Not impressed really apart from the big pack of bread sticks. It's probably because I can't eat any of it though.
£40 Tesco getting the things I couldn't get. Still forgot red peppers.
£30 fuel.

em let him build a bridge & get over it! Hopefully during the day today he'll thaw out and see what you were trying to do.

Today I returned €508.50 worth of dresses to Littlewoods, I pulled out a dress out of the wardrobe that I've never worn, still in its wrapper. It'll be fine once I put a modesty panel in it as it's rather booby

Em dh is being a knob. If I didn’t know what was happening in advance I’d refuse to participate lack of organisation and last minute stuff make me anxious

£113 Sainsbury’s, birthday cake, little extra presents. Present for friend for bday. Tea for tonight. Wine and gin for me

Happier, that's really frugal.
I need to learn how to put a modesty panel in one of my new dresses, unless I buy a different bra type, but then they don't sit right. I usually just wear a cami.

He does it all the time. Just arranged things without telling me or only does half of it.

I’ve told him I’m not going. I’m already compromising my weekend enough. So am not going to put myself out.

Also the pathetic side of me says why should I acknowledge fils birthday when he and gf can’t acknowledge mine with a simple happy birthday or a card?

Em I guess you've got to rise above it regarding them not acknowledging your birthday for sake of your dh and dc but I don't blame you for refusing to go.

curvy my cousin is even more frugal, she said pick up a brazilian style knickers in Penneys cut it in half and make my modesty panel from that

On absolutely happier I haven’t even mentioned my birthday to dh.

I’ve told dh I’m not going. He’s super busy at work but is texting me trying to guilt me into going. I’m standing firm and saying no. I’m not stopping him going though. This is the point he’s missing.

Em, I don't blame you either, it's sounds so hard for you at times

Happier, that is brilliant!

Thanks curvy. THing is it shouldn’t bed difficult. But dh has this thing in his head that his family are to be obeyyed. And when Fil says so we jump. And whenever anyone is a twat it’s excused as “oh you know x. That’s what they’re like” except if you’re perceived to be a twat then you need to change your behaviour Emily and whatcha what you say Emily and you’re too sensitive emily

I’m brave enough to say no. But then I’m the bad guy. In some situations I just don’t care though. If it’s going to be tough for me mentally I stay away.

Next weeks going to be tough for me mentally. Have ds’ 2 year assessment (which will be fine), a colposcopy appointment (which I’ve had before but am twitching about) and ddad finally has an appointment to find out what’s wrong wit his knee. He mentioned he thinks it’s probably cancer this morning. I doubt it’s anything more than a sprain and it’s got worse because he hasn’t been resting it. BUT still.

Plus I’m exhausted and my hands are hurting again (they did this post pregnancy with ds).

On a more positive note it’s been an nsd so far. I’ll probably stop at the shop on the way to bosses house and pick up some wine and some flowers etc.

Em, please take some time for yourself, you sound so overwhelmed. Dh is not giving you the support you need. You and the DCs should be his no1 priority. Dh needs to tell his DF that.
It really frustrates me, that, it seems you are expected to drop everything all the time for others and when you push back, you get called controlling, which couldn't be further from the truth, you just want clarification.

Sorry, I don't mean to overstep, you can just ignore me.

Just lurking here but sending you a big ol’ hug Em and also to agree with curvy
Xx

No curvy you’re right. I know I’m doing the right thing. I am exhausted and overwhelmed. By not going tomorrow I’m able to chill. And by not doing breakfast on Sunday I’m able to give the house a spring clean no doubt dh will just think I’m lazing in bed which will help me mentally.

I get it’s fils 70th. I get family is important. But I have said to dh that it wouldn’t have mattered what this weekends plans were I wouldn’t be going.

Waiting for dh in the car park and then off to pick up DMs car so I can drive to bosses house. Usually I’d be sad not to be drinking. But I’m excited to have a dinner without a baby or a toddler! Or dh. And bosses wife is a fab cook. Shes Filipino and is apparently making a feast!

Sending you big hugs em.
Enjoy your night, you definitely deserve it xx

Hugs for sure em, you've still got a very newborn babe so if you need a chill, you need a chill... it's a shame your dh hasn't sorted a babysitter and in frugal terms, me and my dh go to lots of events separately to save on babysitting costs. However, I also know that either of us not going to such a big family event would be a big deal. Party seems like a no-go but maybe if your dh gets his arse in gear and finds a suitable place for Sunday, it could be chalked up to family harmony?

I picked up the first batch of family Harry Potter pjs today and discovered that George have 25% off so much cheaper than I'd anticipated! Popping into Primark early tomorrow to check out pjs for dh. It has to be early as ironically I'm going to a family party with my mum and eldest dd whilst dh stays home and babysits 😂😂

I can't really remember what my morning routine was when my DC were young but I know I didn't get up at 5 I think I put the baby in their chair in the bathroom with me and let the toddler play just outside the door. DH was never there as he started work early and finished bloody late Your DH should be pissed off with FIL for arranging a party that the dc can't go to - just let them crack on em

Good on you em for putting your own mental health first, enjoy your night out at bosses house. Sometimes just being out is enough without drinking.

I'm here with my very quick fire #ecofriendlyfirelog and have made a healthy version of spicy chicken & fries in airfryer & having a glass of Rioja with it.
Bf suggested staying in a hotel tonight to shorten our journey tomo but we've both had a long week & it's a waste of money for little gain so I'm having my Friday night in & we'll head off early in the morning instead.
Dc are with their dad until 6pm tomo eve.

I’m going to say two words. Galaxy darkmilk. I don’t really like chocolate but omg!

Is it that good wolf?

Curvy it’s delicious. I really am not a sweet toothed person (unless it’s a bag of sour Haribo)

I miss chocolate, sometimes.
There isn't many vegan alternatives that are reasonably priced. I may just break it, for some decent chocolate!

Now I was looking at that the other day but didn't buy it as I don't really like dark chocolate. Is it like proper dark chocolate or more milky? I do love normal galaxy although it can be a bit sickening if you eat a family sized bar Think I'm going to need to try some now.

Morning all. Such a nice evening out. I got home at just before midnight.

I had one glass of bubbly early on. And the sippiest of sips of frangelico (which the boss has recently discovered - it tastes like Nutella cake and biscuits). Literally a sip.

Their apartment is bigger than my house and is beautifully stylish.

Food was ace. Thai food cooked Thai style so spicy but not too much. It was just perfect. The whole team was there so lovely to catch up.
Boss wife gave me food for my freezer and some for dh. She’s a doll.

I watched EWFL last night - . Couldn’t believe they were only 15 years older than me. I’ve been in the grip of my sugar addiction recently but nothing like that... and it’s given me a proper kick up the arse! Good on them for wanting to change but it’s a hell of a lifestyle change, not sure they’ll sustain it.

I’m afraid I’m not with the pack on all the DH thing Em - defo agree about FIL’s main party (if they pick a place that’s not for kids then they have to understand you might not both be able to come - though I would make every effort to find a babysitter as it’s a milestone birthday). However, Monday morning... I don’t think it’s unreasonable that DH wants to leave early to get to work on time. DH and I have to do stuff like that for each other all the time due to work logistics, or one of us does double bedtime alone because the other is out. Could you just shower the previous evening, get up when the kiddies do and have a low key day?

Not too frugal really - I’ve paid for one DSis’s birthday present (£200 - milestone birthday) and I’ve the other to pay for when I get the payment details from the dog artist who’s painted DSis’s dog (and done an amazing job - she’d better cry when she sees it ). I’ve got to order a big cheesy cake topper and get some balloons and make the cake, then sorted. Oh, and they’ve asked for a big roast beef lunch for the family get together next weekend. So a bit more spend there but then done. Phew.

Baby ballet this morning then coffee with my friend again. I will try to resist the avocado toast...

Still haven’t watched ewfl. Might do today. Up to watch the rugby.

Extra spends yesterday £12 flu jab. Arm now hurts like a bugger
£2.50 lottery
£6 coffee shop