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MIL lied about having Covid now my anxiety is through the roof!

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CrispyOnionsOnly · 08/01/2022 09:18

This is not a MIL bashing thread as I genuinely do love her but right now I am beyond angry with her.

MIL despite being in her late 70s hasn't really taken covid seriously.
Think still meeting up with her friends during the first 2 lock downs (her friends have the same mindset) going on holiday at every opportunity both UK and abroad.
In a way I kind of understood her point but DH and I made it clear we would not see her until she has done LFTs as I am CV. She agreed so we have met up and see her at least once a month.

This week she is moving house so we of course offered to help. She mentioned on Thursday that her friend who visited the previous weekend has tested positive for Covid. DH told her she must do a LFT as she was having a removal company in yesterday and DH helping too. She called back later to say it was negative.

So Friday DH spent all day there helping her move and I was due to go over with him today to help sort things out. Anyway at 10pm she calls DH and said "oh I have just done a LFT and it's positive, so just you come tomorrow and not Crispy".

DH is fuming he believes she actually tested positive Thursday but lied due to the move. I am also angry but more anxious. I have so far avoided covid, I am very careful and now because she is selfish I will most likely get it.
I am trying to tell myself I am triple jabbed and I will be ok but since losing my father to cancer recently at 68 and exdh being diagnosed with heart disease at 51 all with 3 months I have developed huge anxiety around my health.

I barely slept last night and all I can think about is if I catch it I will probably die and leave my poor children with no mother. I know this isn't rational but at the same time I cannot stop the thoughts.

Anyone else with severe asthma caught Covid and been fine?

So sorry for the long ramble Blush

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MrsLargeEmbodied · 08/01/2022 14:09

@CrispyOnionsOnly

He's not going to catch covid from frozen food.

He doesn't think he will he's just not up to running around after his mum today.

fair enough
OliveTree75 · 08/01/2022 14:12

Call me cynical but how convenient an old neighbour has called to confirm the lying.

Flabbyflabberson · 08/01/2022 14:17

@CrispyOnionsOnly

He's not going to catch covid from frozen food.

He doesn't think he will he's just not up to running around after his mum today.

Is he gonna run around after her ever again after this? Confused I read this thread out to my husband who said he wouldn't want a thing to do with his mum again if this had been her. It's unforgivable.
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CrispyOnionsOnly · 08/01/2022 14:21

Call me cynical but how convenient an old neighbour has called to confirm the lying.

To be fair DH was supposed to call the neighbour this morning and give a time he would be over but he didn't so she called him.

Flabby he is angry she lied but he loves his mum and won't let this be a problem.

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Soosiesoo · 08/01/2022 14:21

@MrsPussinBoots

So she says she had a negative test on Thursday but positive on Friday night? I had a negative test on Tuesday and positive on Wednesday. That's what happens when you test daily.
Same ^
Bluntness100 · 08/01/2022 14:23

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Orchid876 · 08/01/2022 14:24

Good grief she's behaved appallingly. I'm with your DH, even if there's zero risk of contacting Covid, I wouldn't be helping MIL today (or ever again!) either. It's unbelievable that a grown woman is willing to expose others to Covid, when they know they're infected, just to avoid problems with the house move. She's not a child, she can deal with life's problems like a responsible grown up surely?! If I owned the removals firm I'd be livid. If their staff come down with Covid and need to isolate as a result they'll likely lose business. When we're at a stage where we do treat Covid like any other disease, and there's no legal obligation to isolate, your MIL's behaviour would be fine. But we're not there yet, the isolation rules are what they are, and they have significant financial consequences for businesses, let alone the health implications. Your MIL sounds very selfish.

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CrispyOnionsOnly · 08/01/2022 14:28

Gosh that was so lucky, now you don’t need to worry anymore, she conventionally told her neighbour who phoned your husband to tell him, so you’re both not being horrible, you are totally vindicated.

Blunt you have clearly hated this thread and me from your first post.
If you are going to troll hunt me at least be upfront about it.
The neighbour didn't ring to tell DH MIL had covid she didn't even mention it DH did.
MIL has known neighbour over 20 years they are friends its doesn't surprise me that MIL told her.

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CrispyOnionsOnly · 08/01/2022 14:32

Thank you Flabby I just think it's a weird vendetta this poster has against me.

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workingtheusername · 08/01/2022 14:38

Mil was wrong to meet people in lockdown and was wrong to ask dh over if knowingly positive. Other than that she should be able to do as she pleases

FazedNotPhased · 08/01/2022 14:39

That poster has a weird vendetta against everyone Wink

This was an appalling thing to do. I sort of understand the pressure of a move and the stress and difficulties etc, but it's still just awful. You can make decisions regarding your own health (eg 'we'll agree to meet up', 'I'll go on holiday' etc) but not other people's!

Bluntness100 · 08/01/2022 14:40

@FazedNotPhased

That poster has a weird vendetta against everyone Wink

This was an appalling thing to do. I sort of understand the pressure of a move and the stress and difficulties etc, but it's still just awful. You can make decisions regarding your own health (eg 'we'll agree to meet up', 'I'll go on holiday' etc) but not other people's!

Personal attack
Flabbyflabberson · 08/01/2022 14:42

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FazedNotPhased · 08/01/2022 14:43

Personal attack

Oh the irony.

Orchid876 · 08/01/2022 14:46

And the house move, surely she was wrong to move? She's not only exposed OPs DH, but the removers too. If they catch Covid they'll likely lose money because they can't work. Yes they could catch it anywhere, but I don't think they'll be expecting their customers to knowingly expose them to Covid. There may well be something in their contract about that, so they could take legal action.

Kca29 · 08/01/2022 14:46

I have read recently that Asthma sufferers are often necessarily more affected by covid than non Asthma sufferers op, so I hope you will be okay.

It is selfish behaviour from your mil though. All we talk about is protecting the elderly but sometimes the elderly are not protecting themselves or others either. My own mil is a covid denier, told us to break isolation when we had covid and go round there so she could see the grandkids... had parties all the way through lockdown etc, had people to stay during lockdowns.

She might not have lied though. You can be negative one day and positive the next. Dp was a close contact and he had a negative pcr on the Friday evening and a strong positive lft first thing Sunday! It can change rapidly.

She was stupid to say your husband can still help her out when she's got covid though!

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CrispyOnionsOnly · 08/01/2022 14:47

Bluntness

On this thread you have accused my DH of abuse and having anger issues.
Mocked my anxiety.
Being snide in accusing me of being a troll and frankly only posted it order to attack me for some strange reason despite my OP asking for support.

I am afraid if you don't like posters pointing out that your behaviour on this thread is you MO then maybe you should look at how you are choosing to come across.

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Faevern · 08/01/2022 14:57

OK so we know she lied now and that was wrong. I do agree with the PP who said that these Covid times are causing rifts that may last longer than the pandemic so hopefully any bad feelings will pass as you say you usually have a good relationship with her.

Flabbyflabberson · 08/01/2022 15:02

Oh, we are reporting people now as well are we? Pathetic Grin

Bluntness100 · 08/01/2022 15:05

@CrispyOnionsOnly

Bluntness

On this thread you have accused my DH of abuse and having anger issues.
Mocked my anxiety.
Being snide in accusing me of being a troll and frankly only posted it order to attack me for some strange reason despite my OP asking for support.

I am afraid if you don't like posters pointing out that your behaviour on this thread is you MO then maybe you should look at how you are choosing to come across.

At no stage have I accused you of that, if I thought that I’d report you. I wouldn’t respond on the thread. You can turn this into some personal attack if you wish because you don’t like my responses, that’s fine.
StellaGibson118 · 08/01/2022 15:57

This thread has really made me want crispy onions.

Bluntness has been around years and has always suited the username. It's unlikely to be targed and more just how they are from experience. I've come to accept them like a piece of MN furniture.

StellaGibson118 · 08/01/2022 15:57

Targeted*

justasking111 · 08/01/2022 15:58

Well mum gets no contact for the next 14 days, no arguments she's burnt her bridge in this instance

Billlius · 08/01/2022 16:02

I've come to accept them like a piece of MN furniture.

What, you mean like that sharp edged coffee table you always bruise your leg against?

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