I’m thinking of leaving my partner for not getting vaccine

[Newmumlake]

I’m thinking of leaving my partner for not getting the covid -19 vaccine. I feel like I’m putting my child’s health at risk for staying with him.
I love my partner very much although things haven’t been easy over the years. The vaccine has recently caused a big strain in the relationship.
I can’t understand why anyone would refuse without a genuine reason. My partner refuses to discuss his reasons with me apart from stating he doesn’t want to be tracked by Bill Gates. I answered that this is complete nonsense and that he is more likely to be tracked through a mobile device - which he obviously owns.
If it was just the two of us I think I would be turning a blind eye/burying my head in the sand but I can’t stop thinking about my son. Is he at risk? Am I failing to keep him safe?

If someone genuinely believes that bill gates has put chips in vaccines and has some diabolical plan then either they are extremely stupid or they are mentally unwell.
Having the vaccine is neither here nor there.
I wouldn't stay with a fool and I would want someone with mental health issues causing delusions to get help.

Does he have a smart mobile phone?
Does he leave the house ever?
Does he browse the internet?
What does he do that he thinks Bill Gates would be interested in him?

Has it passed you all by that this vaccine does not stop you spreading this virus? It just (apparently) keeps you a little less at risk. I say this as someone who has had both.

Why do people not check this sort of thing before peddling nonsense?

These vaccines have been shown to reduce both your risk of catching and your risk of transmitting Covid. They reduce your risk of hospitalisation. They hugely reduce your risk of death.

@DrDreReturns

I'd leave him. My 15 year old had the jab today. None of this anti vaxxer bullshit. I've got no respect for these people.

He may not be an anti vaxxer. He may just be unsure about the covid one.

OP can't force him it's entirely upto him. Honestly I don't know what seems more extreme OP thinking of leaving or the BF refusing the vax!

I'm only here because of medical science so can't be doing with these gullible types.

I’d be reconsidering the relationship if I discovered my partner had such fundamentally different values to me.

I’d also be wondering if this is a “thin end of the wedge” and is this a slippery slope to becoming a flat earth nutcase.

He may not be an anti vaxxer. He may just be unsure about the covid one

I think you're being over generous here, as he's someone who is referencing Bill Gates

@AutumnLeaves21

I’m 100% pro vaccine, double jabbed plus booster-but you are being unreasonable and hysterical. No you are not failing to keep your child safe I honestly can’t believe you would end the relationship with your child’s father over something so trivial. Absolutely batshit. Covid has sent people fucking bonkers.

This

To console you my 2 kids 9, and 10 had Covid this week, one is asthmatic… so I was holding my breath.. usually needs nebulisers and lots of TLC.. but other than vomiting and having a cough-no wheeze - for 48 hrs he was fine. She had a sniffle.. I struggled with cough and headache (double jabbed) and we’re all ok.. kids really do appear to her a mild version

My DH isn't vaccinated and is unlikely to be in the near future. Am I going to divorce over it? Absolutely not! His body his choice. Its not an issue. I'm double vaccinated and all our dc have had the relevant jabs for their age groups. I respect his decision not to vaccinate just like he respects my decision to be vaccinated. Unless there is other issues going on in the relationship then I would not consider separation over an injection

Yes I know that. The word ‘reduce’ in your comments tells me you also know this.

Lose the patronising tone.

Thank you for the reassurance

@RoseAndRose

He may not be an anti vaxxer. He may just be unsure about the covid one

I think you're being over generous here, as he's someone who is referencing Bill Gates

Well tbh OPS post isn't far off is it?

Let's be honest.

I am all for vaccination but if the only reason if because you think your child is at more risk that is just silly. Myself and husband are double vaccinated and we managed to pass Covid on to the kids. Everyone I know is getting it, vaccinated or not. Him being vaccinated really only affects how ill he himself is going to get. Your child is likely to catch it one way or another eventually.

@AutumnLeaves21 I agree.

This isn't just about the covid vaccine. It's an eye opener into the kind of person he is. Selfish, ignorant, lacking intelligence, hypocritical. I, personally, couldn't be with someone like that.

My views on antivaxxers are extreme, but my dad died from covid before he could get his second vaccination. He was unwell anyway and so therefore extremely vulnerable and contracted covid in hospital. So I have little patience for the selfish pricks, although I expect I'd feel the same even if I hadn't lost my dad.

@Shitapillar

You are being utterly ridiculous. You got an experimental vaccine for something that is 99% survivable. Children are not at risk from Covid unless they are clinically vulnerable. Are you going to stop your child interacting with anyone who hasn't been jabbed? One of you is the crackpot here and I'm not sure it's him.

In what way is it experimental?

I don’t know if you have answered this already so apologies if you have.

Are either you or your child CV or ECV?

I can’t imagine why these people think Bill Gates wants to track their quite ordinary lives of going to work and coming home again… he’s welcome to track mine, it would be quite tedious I’d imagine

The health aspect of it wouldn't bother me that much - he's the one likely to come off worst. But would be a fundamental mismatch in our views and beliefs, and that's what would do it for me. Just like if my partner turned out to be any one of a number of things that are dealbreakers for me (homophobia, racism, very religious, etc.). I don't do conspiracy theories and I don't want to live with someone who believes shit like that.

There's always going to be people who dont trust the vaccine and there will be people who don't trust those who don't trust it. It's up to individuals what they can cope with in a relationship.

You do not need to leave him to protect your child from covid.
You are still a good mum if you stay with him.
Remember those two things.
Besides that he'd drive me bloody potty.
I'd have to at least tell him to keep his bs to himself because its embarrassing.

If the child's a baby presumably it's his child? You wouldn't be able to stop him seeing the child so can't eliminate the risk him being unvaccinated brings.

What if the child has friends that haven't had childhood vaccines at school?

I think you're looking for an excuse to leave. You don't need an excuse.

Yeah just leave him for being Thicky McThicky

@IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves

If someone genuinely believes that bill gates has put chips in vaccines and has some diabolical plan then either they are extremely stupid or they are mentally unwell. Having the vaccine is neither here nor there. I wouldn't stay with a fool and I would want someone with mental health issues causing delusions to get help.

Agree 100 per cent. It’s the bill gates tracking bit that rings the massive alarm bell. Not wanting a vaccine is his look out.