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I’m thinking of leaving my partner for not getting vaccine

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Newmumlake · 16/10/2021 19:54

I’m thinking of leaving my partner for not getting the covid -19 vaccine. I feel like I’m putting my child’s health at risk for staying with him.
I love my partner very much although things haven’t been easy over the years. The vaccine has recently caused a big strain in the relationship.
I can’t understand why anyone would refuse without a genuine reason. My partner refuses to discuss his reasons with me apart from stating he doesn’t want to be tracked by Bill Gates. I answered that this is complete nonsense and that he is more likely to be tracked through a mobile device - which he obviously owns.
If it was just the two of us I think I would be turning a blind eye/burying my head in the sand but I can’t stop thinking about my son. Is he at risk? Am I failing to keep him safe?

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tedsletterofthelaw · 16/10/2021 23:26

Your partner sounds a bit bonkers.

But I think leaving him based on him refusing a vaccine is almost as bonkers. It's his body, his choice.

If you want to leave him cause he is a conspiracy theorist that spends far too much time watching crazy YouTube videos then that would be far more understandable.

Mydogmylife · 16/10/2021 23:34

@Shitapillar

You are being utterly ridiculous. You got an experimental vaccine for something that is 99% survivable. Children are not at risk from Covid unless they are clinically vulnerable. Are you going to stop your child interacting with anyone who hasn't been jabbed? One of you is the crackpot here and I'm not sure it's him.
Surely it's the conspiracy side of things that's causing the issue?
PurpleOkapi · 16/10/2021 23:38

@lightand

What if your child ends up agreeing with your partner on the vaccine issue...?
Obviously he'd need to be put into care (or at least packed off to boarding school), because he's endangering his siblings' lives.

(Sarcasm, but I'm not sure OP wouldn't actually do that.)

Seriously, though, imagine growing up knowing that this was the reason your mother divorced your father.

PurpleOkapi · 16/10/2021 23:41

Surely it's the conspiracy side of things that's causing the issue?

I don't think so. OP keeps talking about her partner putting their child's life at risk. If that's true (and I don't think it is), his reasons don't change anything. If he had sincere and science-based concerns about the vaccine's long-term safety, that wouldn't make him likely to contract covid than if he believed it was a lizard-people conspiracy.

boogiebogie · 16/10/2021 23:43

@Shitapillar

You are being utterly ridiculous. You got an experimental vaccine for something that is 99% survivable. Children are not at risk from Covid unless they are clinically vulnerable. Are you going to stop your child interacting with anyone who hasn't been jabbed? One of you is the crackpot here and I'm not sure it's him.
Love... Yes... This...
Duckypoohs · 16/10/2021 23:45

People are mental on mumsnet, you only have to look at videos they disagree with, rather than subscribe to their newsletters to be left/blocked/abandoned. Do people here not look at a wide variety of things/viewpoints? Just because you watch or read things, doesn't mean you are are automatically aligned with them. This world has gone crazy, if he doesn't want a vaccine, that's his choice. No not everyone who doesn't want it is a quirky 5g chip believer, such a fucking straw man dragged out on here every time.

KeyLimePies · 16/10/2021 23:48

I understand your concerns OP. One of my best friends has bought in to the whole COVID conspiracy thing and I now see her in a different light. She does believe COVID is real as 2 people close to her have died with COVID, but she also believes that “they” (whoever they are, probably Bill Gates is one of them) have conspired to orchestrate the great reset. This reset happens every 40 years apparently so we are due one now. It’s all to do with the global economy. Also, the people dying from COVID that the BBC reports on are actors, and I’m apparently gullible for believing the news that a 15 year old girl with no underlying health conditions died of COVID complications.

My friend’s 14 year old DD wants the vaccine and I’ve witnessed her being bullied by her mum about it. Her DD recently said she didn’t want the vaccine after all, and later admitted that she’d only said that because she knew it was what my friend wanted to hear. I do worry for her DD and the position she is in with her mum regarding the vaccine. If she gets the vaccine she won’t want her mum to know she’s had it. My friend actually hissed at her DD, when she said that she wanted the vaccine in front of me, that they would “discuss it later” and she was to “shut up”. It was horrible to witness.

sandybeaches74 · 17/10/2021 00:00

Why would you leave him for having thoughts and an opinion? Yes the Bill Gates thing is a bit bonkers but ultimately the vaccine is still experimental, Covid is 99.5% survivable and it's highly unlikely your child would be very poorly.

Surely you'd respect him for making considered decisions and calculating risk based on facts. I think Covid has sent people bonkers. There are far worse things for husbands to be doing in my opinion. If you have a nice one, hold onto him.

Duckypoohs · 17/10/2021 00:04

The whole great reset thing has an actual website, its not a conspiracy at all, search it up. I don't know why people refuse to see what is trying to happen right in front of them Hmm

Duckypoohs · 17/10/2021 00:05

Unless it's on the BBC people don't think anything is real

Porcupineintherough · 17/10/2021 00:06

@sandybeaches74 the vaccine is not even slightly experimental and thinking it's full of microchips that let Bill Gates track you is more than slightly bonkers, it's full blown batshit crazy.

sandybeaches74 · 17/10/2021 00:13

@Porcupineintherough it is considered new and experimental, if you don't think it through before having it then surely that's just as bad as blindly having it?

And yes, it's bonkers but no, again, it's not wrong to look at information and consider it. The amount of human sheep in this whole thing is ridiculous. Look at the stats, think about them properly... The reaction is just out of proportion. I could understand if it was Ebola but no, it's a 99.5% survivable virus.

KeyLimePies · 17/10/2021 00:14

@Duckypoohs

The whole great reset thing has an actual website, its not a conspiracy at all, search it up. I don't know why people refuse to see what is trying to happen right in front of them Hmm
Why not post a link or 2?
KeyLimePies · 17/10/2021 00:15

Educate the sheeples

FreshFreesias · 17/10/2021 00:32

Vaccine passports were a conspiracy a year ago.

Porcupineintherough · 17/10/2021 00:38

A year ago the conspiracy monkeys were telling us there would never be a vaccine.Hmm

PurpleOkapi · 17/10/2021 00:44

[quote Porcupineintherough]@sandybeaches74 the vaccine is not even slightly experimental and thinking it's full of microchips that let Bill Gates track you is more than slightly bonkers, it's full blown batshit crazy.[/quote]
Last I heard, no one had no idea what the proper dosing regimen is. No one's sure whether boosters are really "boosters," or just additional doses in an initial series. Nor does anyone have any idea how many doses should be in that initial series, or how often real boosters would be needed after that point. They're attempting to answer all those questions by vaccinating people at semi-random intervals and seeing what happens. So, what's your definition of "experiment"?

Garriet · 17/10/2021 00:56

I mean, I wouldn’t ditch someone over not choosing to have the vaccine. That’s up to them. But - as others have said - I’d lose all respect for anyone thick enough to believe the Bill Gates/5G conspiracy theories. That would likely be a dealbreaker for me.

sleepwouldbenice · 17/10/2021 02:10

@Garriet

I mean, I wouldn’t ditch someone over not choosing to have the vaccine. That’s up to them. But - as others have said - I’d lose all respect for anyone thick enough to believe the Bill Gates/5G conspiracy theories. That would likely be a dealbreaker for me.
This A million times over
sleepwouldbenice · 17/10/2021 02:11

@Duckypoohs

The whole great reset thing has an actual website, its not a conspiracy at all, search it up. I don't know why people refuse to see what is trying to happen right in front of them Hmm
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
MrsLCSofLichfield · 17/10/2021 03:00

@userperuser

If you were my partner OP I’d hope you would leave me.
We are not in a relationship, but I would block you if I could darling, trust me.
MimiDaisy11 · 17/10/2021 03:29

@Duckypoohs

The whole great reset thing has an actual website, its not a conspiracy at all, search it up. I don't know why people refuse to see what is trying to happen right in front of them Hmm
Well if there’s a website it must be true. They don’t just let anyone start up their own website. 😂
girlmom21 · 17/10/2021 07:51

@Duckypoohs

The whole great reset thing has an actual website, its not a conspiracy at all, search it up. I don't know why people refuse to see what is trying to happen right in front of them Hmm
Oh, well, if it has an actual website...!
Whathefisgoingon · 17/10/2021 08:11

The vaccine isn’t the problem here, it’s the stupidity. Luckily my partner got it as he will do anything to help protect our toddler, but if he refused on the same basis I would definitely reconsider our relationship.

It’s one thing not getting it because you’re just not up for it and another thing entirely to preach the microchip nonsense.

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