What happens when you can’t do it anymore?

[BlueMoon1103]

I’ve struggled with lockdown since day 1 and it doesn’t seem likely it will lifted after the 3 weeks. I can’t live like this. What do I do when it gets to a point where I literally can’t do it? Fuck the rules? Become a suicide statistic? What’s the plan for those with MH then? Non, because only CV deaths matter.

Today is the worst I’ve felt. I feel bad for my son stuck in lockdown with me.

Oh op I'm sorry

Where are you stuck OP? Can you get our for a daily walk at all? That’s helping us massively.

It’s hard, it really is.

I just came on here to write my own post like this. Have strayed feeling quite depressed again today. Miss my family and seeing other people see theirs is stressful. I will stick with it but do feel like we could do with a bit more clarity on the governments plan, I guess this may become clear in the next few days. But like you say, they are probably going to have to start weighing up the mental impact of this a bit more

Keep talking to us, BlueMoon. We can’t do much but we can listen.

How old is your son?

And sorry to hear OP sending hugs. I have a two year old son and it's hard because I want to be positive for him!

What happens when you can't do it anymore and fuck the rules? Then you potentially put other peoples lives at risk. If this was a war and you had to stay inside to avoid getting hit by the numerous bombs flying around, would you be able to adhere to the rules then?

Perhaps try and arrange face times/video chats with family/friends? Build a daily routine? Building youtube exercise videos into my daily routine is really helping me.

I'm really sorry you feel like that bluemoon. A lot of people are suddenly acting like mental health doesn't matter when just a month ago they were posting #bekind.

Can you still get out a walk? Or anything else similar nature of exercise might help. Personally I find drawing with my youngest son or going out a walk makes me feel better. Or a nice hot bath every evening. I suggest trying to get a routine if you can even though we are on lockdown.

Wish I could help. Don't be hard on yourself for feeling this way and please seek advice from the samaritans or a friend if it does truly feel like its too much.

And there are also lots of charities around that are offering phone chats for people. Perhaps that's something to look into in your local area.

How old is your son? There are pressures on all medical care at the minute but if you are suicidal you need urgent care. Do you have access to any emergency mental health teams?

What do you think should happen OP?

I’m so sorry you’re struggling with your MH. This is temporary but it certainly feels much more permanent because we know so little. How old is your son? 💐

He’s only 1. He’s bored and demanding. I’m bored and tearing my hair out. We get our for our one walk a day but seeing some posts on here I feel like I’m endangering him by even doing that. This has to stop.

Get him in the pushchair and have a long long long walk it will really help

*MLou it's not the same as bombs flying around at all. Stop being so hysterical and try to find some empathy. It's really hard for a lot of people.

This has to stop.

What does?

You dig around and try things until you find some things that help.
You reach out (like you’ve done here & like calling your doctor) and let people help you get through this tough time.

You are allowed to go a walk. Don't let anyone make you feel like you are endangering your son by doing so. Mental health is also important. Do you have a garden?

Better days will come OP. Try to take each day as it comes for now. Please make sure you talk to friends or family as much as you can as we are all going through the same. You are fine to go for your walk a day. Ignore hysteria. As long as you social distance along the way there is nothing wrong with it

@BlueMoon1103 sorry to hear you’re struggling. Are you able to go for a walk? Getting outside will really help you - just being out of the confines of yourself can really help your mental state. Have you thought about taking up running? The endorphins released after running help to combat depression, as it triggers feelings of happiness. It’s helped so many people with mental health issues.

@Smellbellina the restrictions. It’s too much for a lot of people. I’m aware of 2 suicides since this started and that’s just in the circle of people I know.

I have a garden that is only half useable as the rest is unsafe for my son.

Bluemoon I'm in a flat and remember that age with my boys, it is a tricky time, I found it hard without this as well and have MH condition...anyway what I found helped was putting them in the buggy and going for a walk, you can do this (fingers crossed) this helped me a lot, also having a routine and nap times so you get a break too. Kind thoughts, hope you can find a way of finding some things to help.

We find that establishing a routine has really helped us and it has stopped the days drifting past in a shapeless mass.

What is it that's affecting you specifically OP? Is there something you normally go out and do that helps, or are you very anxious about the virus specifically?

I'm really sorry to hear you're struggling. Please don't feel like you can't seek medical help because of the current situation. If you're feeling bad get in contact with your GP. If you're feeling really bad then ring a crisis hotline.

Please remember there will be an end to this and life will get back to normal

Having a one year old is hard. Are you a single parent? Do you have family close by?

It's so shit I totally get what your saying. No advice unfortunately but you are not alone.