Go on, tell us why you’re special

[SeasonallySnowyPeasant]

The lockdown rules don’t apply to my particular situation because:

• I have a holiday booked and it’s in the middle of nowhere so we won’t infect anyone;
• I’m worried about getting an overdue book fine from the library;
• My dog has poor recall but needs off-lead exercise so I can’t stay local for walks because I live in a built-up area;
• I need to socialise my puppy;
• My DH wants to take the DC to see the ILs.

All seen on MN this evening. Anyone want to add to the list?

What I don't really understand is why people are shocked by this or all the posts I've seen about waking up in a strange new world. This has been on the cards for weeks now - as soon as we started to get an increased rate of infection (rather than isolated cases), lockdown was inevitable, it was just a question of when. And if you've been following all the guidelines about social distancing then nothing really has changed. Obviously some people (non-essential retail for example) wouldn't have been able to up to now but it's not like we're being asked to do something brand new overnight.

#BeKind was invented to shame people who said that someone who assaults their partner isn’t a nice person.

HTH

This is a prime example. Just posted on a dog group on facebook.

Exactly how people are trying to exploit and loophole for their own gain. This is not essential.

I’m fed up of all those who CBA. We get it. It’s shit. None of our lives are what they were. Kids and parents and work and school and stress.

Apparantly, being kind to people who cant get their head around the rules, despite it being in the cards for weeks, is more important that your health.

Not sure how that is kind to you. Not really sure why the whole be kind thing, only ever relates to people who are being total dicks to other people.

Clearly ‘essential’ isn’t a universally understood concept nationwide, or these discussions wouldn’t be happening. These things aren’t essential to you, fine, other people do consider or think they may be essential, however trivial that sounds to you, being a dick in response isn’t helpful, for the big picture or the immediate situations.

@Cappycapcap no idea what that means. But I do think not dying should be a priority. Who wouldn’t?

Stay home.
Essential outings only.

What’s not to understand.

And be kind? Never mentioned that and agree with Seasonally.

'Essential to you'. Isnt essential.

People are labeling wants as essential, because they want to keep doing it.

Are you really suggesting, full functioning adults can not seperate essential from nice to have?

Or is it that people think if they label their wants, as essentials, that they can get say with it.

What the hell is wrong with world that people really think their wants are worth risking people lives?

I'm not going anywhere

I haven't been anywhere for the last 8 days

My children have left the house once in the last 11 days, for a 15 minute bike ride round the block in the early morning when it was quiet.

I'm following the rules.

But ffs, I can see why some people are struggling to grasp them and I can't honestly see why some people think they now have carte blanche to talk to other people, struggling with a massive change in their lives, like they're something on the bottom of their shoe.

no idea what that means. But I do think not dying should be a priority. Who wouldn’t?

I am agreeing. But there many on this thread that are arguing we should be kind to people who want to go out 3 and 4 times day.

Let's be kind to people who are putting your health at risk.

That's my point. Not dying should be a priority. But for lots of people it's not.

The people who cba, as you said, are putting you at risk. How is that being kind to you?

That's the problem with 'be kind'. It seems to only apply to certain people.

The kindest thing people could do would be to just stick to the rules.

Sorry @Cappycapcap I must have been being dense. Puppy means little sleep at the moment.

I just wish everyone would do their bit. Surely a few weeks of boredom and stress (but maybe curtailing this) is better than people living how they please and being stuck like this for months or years.

Because my son is suicidal and has been for months and we finally have an assessment appointment with a private psychiatrist today. One that that we had to wait montha for despite it being private. If we can't get DS some help soon ,.I truly fear for his life going forwards . He has said he wants help and is willing to go .If it is cancelled ,.I don't know what we will do.

Apparantly, being kind to people who cant get their head around the rules, despite it being in the cards for weeks, is more important that your health.

No just more important than taking an opportunity to call someone a "selfish fuck" or wishing someone would "catch the fucking thing themselves". Both of which are real quotes form recent threads in response to someone asking questions.

The choice whether going out is more important than life. The choice is whether being rude to someone struggling with the new reality is really the right thing to do vs being civil when responding to them. The answer doesn't have to change, just the use of insults to deliver it.

I don't understand the kids will go mental thing.

When my niece comes to stay I have literally walked out and left her and my sister behind because she won't fucking get dressed, stop watching TV, stop playing with a tablet or all three together.

She wants the tv on whilst playing games on a tablet.

When we have had plans for me to take them somewhere, I've said to her before get dressed, get off that tablet or I'm leaving you behind and I'm not taking you anywhere. Then I followed through, walked out and left her with her mum and went somewhere myself

The next time she paid attention a bit more but the day is still blighted by her whinging for a phone or tablet.

Where are all these kids that now want to be out all the time and dont need screen time restrictions.

I never met them before.

serialtester don't be so ridiculous.

I'm as judgy as they come about people who won't stay the fuck home but suggesting that animals be left to suffer is grotesque.

Actually I think I'm special because I have to drive to Heathrow on Friday to drop off a 16yo boy who is flying home to China. I had to pick him up from his boarding school last Friday in an emergency when they closed and he's staying with us for a week before going home and spending 14 days in quarantine.

I've read the government rules and it doesn't say this anywhere in the 4 exception circumstances listed, but it feels pretty essential to me. So I'm going. Otherwise he'll be staying with us for the foreseeable and he just wants to get home.

@bumblingbovine49 I'm so sorry, what a horrible situation for you. Please go to your appointment - it definitely sounds like it's something essential and leaving home for essential medical treatments is allowed anyway.

@HowIrresponsible your niece is not typical of the children I know. Different personalities and all that. Mine love going out and it's been a huge adjustment, sticking indoors.

@MuddyPuddlesAndPrettyBubbles fair enough!

Your DC sound great.

I get frustrated with my niece. I've known her to walk round somewhere playing on a phone not looking where she is going and bumping into things.

It's very annoying.

I've had this conversation tonight.

Family member has to travel to take elderly family member to critical medical appointment - fine.

Grandma is therefore coming over to look after their child, so child doesn't have to go with - would be fine except....

Childs dad is working from home!

Cue: he can't hear child due to headset, its unprofessional if child cries etc etc....

No grasp that dad could just NOT work (they can afford it and he's so very definitely not a keyworker!) for a few hours and look after his own kid. No grasp that granny (in her 50's and gets on well with elderly relative) could be the one to escort elderly relative, thus mixing only two households instead of three. Nope, its all okay because 'granny is providing essential care'.

These are bright, educated people and I was banging my head against a brick wall of 'yeah, but....'

And, I've got to be honest, I think part of it, for them and probably many others, is that they're so used to other people shouldering part of their parenting load that they genuinely can't contemplate managing without it. Just the idea that they, and ONLY they, are expected to get on with it now is triggering panic and so all the 'yeah, yeah but, but....'

But ffs, I can see why some people are struggling to grasp them and I can't honestly see why some people think they now have carte blanche to talk to other people, struggling with a massive change in their lives, like they're something on the bottom of their shoe.

Absolutely agree. Some posts just read like the poster is getting something out of the power of being rude.

I’m on the verge of needing to break the rules.

Lloyds pharmacy haven’t delivered my medication, one is a controlled drug so I can only have 28 days worth at a time. One is insulin, I can’t live without insulin. Our SI due to my son developing a cough doesn’t end until Saturday, if I don’t have access to insulin I have to present myself at the nearest A&E. Queuing outside at the pharmacy and going in one by one is much better and safer than going to A&E. GP is being shit so I can’t use a service like pharmacys4u.

My insulin runs out on Thursday morning, I thought it was Friday, but I had a bad day and night so I needed slightly more than usual. No being able to food shop properly has also increased my insulin use.

I'm as judgy as they come about people who won't stay the fuck home but suggesting that animals be left to suffer is grotesque.

And a crime. The new regime has not suspended old laws.

I would hope mental services and help stay open, especially vital right now.

However I have little sympathy for anyone who complains (without a valid reason).

It's a horrible situation but if it helps save lives then being stuck inside for a few weeks is a VERY small price to pay. People have health issues and are dying, stop being selfish and think of others.

We've had someone drive into our parked car and rip the bumper off yesterday (no note and drove off). Would like to get it fixed but you know what, it can wait.

‘We’re vair, vair, vair important people so it is essential that our nanny continue to comes everyday.’

‘I’m going to exercise, kids are going out to play, in an empty field that a friend has lent me.’

‘I’m essential because my job hasn’t been listed as non essential. So the kids are going to school and I’m going to hop on the tube.’

‘My boss would go mad if I didn’t go to work, even though the job can be done from home.’

@BonnesVacances

Someone has posted a screenshot with advice saying that 'moving children between their parents homes' is allowed, so I'd have thought the first leg of getting a child back home to China would fall under this. Post at 6:22

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/coronavirus/3858901-Are-these-things-allowed-in-lockdown