Go on, tell us why you’re special

[SeasonallySnowyPeasant]

The lockdown rules don’t apply to my particular situation because:

• I have a holiday booked and it’s in the middle of nowhere so we won’t infect anyone;
• I’m worried about getting an overdue book fine from the library;
• My dog has poor recall but needs off-lead exercise so I can’t stay local for walks because I live in a built-up area;
• I need to socialise my puppy;
• My DH wants to take the DC to see the ILs.

All seen on MN this evening. Anyone want to add to the list?

Tell us why you feel the need to post threads like this.

I don’t think this thread is that horrible
I think it’s natural to wonder if you can bend the rules to suit your life but whereas some people are asking ‘ok I have situation X, can I have your opinions on it’ some people are brazenly making statements about how it doesn’t apply to them

Someone asking about library books or an MOT is not the same as the self indulgent statement about low heart rate induced dog walking (which I also saw)

Jourdain. If you are self isolating you must take care of your own children at home. That’s what self isolating means.

If your DH is going out to work, mingling with other people and you send your children to nursery to mingle with other people you realise if they contact a virus from someone they will bring it home to you right?

Isolation means keeping yourself and the people you live with away from others

Tell us why you feel the need to post threads like this.

To get people to look at their behaviour and ask if they can really justify it – even if they just read and don't post?

The answer in some cases will be that yes, it is justified. Going out for food once a week, for example.

But the answer in other cases will be that it isn't. Discussing and comparing with other people is a one way for people to get a sense of perspective.

It's going to be an uncomfortable thread to read for a lot of people making difficult decisions. But they're not as difficult as the decisions being made in hospitals in the coming weeks.

Replying in a helpful rather than condescending tone helps. I genuinely think it's going to be difficult for some people to separate essential (food shopping, picking up medicine) from non essential things. For some people non essential things FEEL essential and maybe need a nudge to remind them their behaviour is not ok now.

I feel like I need a hi-vis jacket or something to prevent dirty looks! I'm supporting my dad who's having immunotherapy due to stage 4 cancer (mum obviously not going out either) and a single mum friend with asthma whose eldest daughter has CF, her dad is 77 and her mum passed. I'm cycling to shops and their houses when the items are small enough to put in a rucksack so I get exercise alongside the support. Working full time from home too. My sister is community MH nurse so needs to stay away from my parents. Just don't need dirty looks as if I shouldn't be out! I have a little weep in bed each morning before I pull myself together

No, if you are someone who's been told to self isolate for 12 weeks you also have to stay 3m away from the other people in your home. Not share food or bathrooms with them.

That's why she can't look after them.

BikeSkiRun that's fine so far as it goes. My issue is not with 'modern construction sites' by which I take it you mean commercial sites ie. large housing or business projects? Theses may well be set up to cope if they have pre-existing large scale infrastructure but the 'lads and dads' firms who are building extensions in every other house in our street and taking absolutely no effing precautions whatsoever!! My rant was based firmly on facts.

Yy Stellaris22, people need to talk through these huge, challenging changes.

I strongly believe it's OK to be sad about the small things too, and people shouldn't just be yelled at because there are bigger things to worry about.

But while recognising that we FEEL sad, what we DO in practice has to reflect the new reality.

@BreathlessCommotion yes, that's it. Youngest is 4, so I can't just leave them to their own devices!

I hope that I'll soon get a medical all-clear and that this won't be the case going forward, but I have been told that that this is what I must do for now.

Had we known it would be like this, husband wouldn't have agreed to teach for the next few weeks.

@Jourdain11 that's really shit.

I would have thought that most people in the vulnerable list would not be able to stay 3 meters away at all times. Or have seperate bathrooms.

I would have though everyone who could stay in the house, would have been better staying in.

Must be very worrying as your ds or dh could easily being it back with them.

I’m on the ‘shield’ list.

The list of precautions is the ‘perfect’ list. You need to talk to your HCPs about your actual circumstances and work out what is the nearest to perfect you can achieve in your real life

Yeah, exactly. I was advised just to distance as much as possible, others should clean in the bathroom and kitchen after using it and so on. Which is one positive that could come out of the this situation, quite frankly!

I wonder what’s happened to this kind of mean spirited goadyness at the start of lockdown?