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To feel upset about holidays

391 replies

MadameBee · 15/03/2020 22:29

I know this is really selfish and entitled but is anyone else feeling a bit devastated that their holiday is probably totally fucked this year?

Due to go to Spain (Benidorm!) in 8 weeks and it’s looking very unlikely.

😭😭😭😭

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DoTheNextRightThing · 16/03/2020 08:00

It's not selfish and entitled to be disappointed that something you were looking forward to has been derailed. We can be sensible and sympathetic and disappointed all at the same time.

A concert I've really been looking forward to may be in jeopardy and I'm sad about it too.

Insideimsprinting · 16/03/2020 08:00

lack of emotional depth and breadth of some people is astounding.

I have emotional depth and breadth but can keep things in perspective and prioritise what's important in life. The ability to do this doesn't mean you have no emotional intelligence. I'm sorry but whilst yes people deal with thing in different ways emotional depth and breadth works both ways, people are upset over holidays and are openly voicing thus when there are people cleay dealing with much worse. Where is the emotional intelligence there surely this should be of those times when even an anonymous place like this we learn to know what to complain about and when to keep things in perspective. Count our blessings that a cancelled holiday is all you've had to deal with and offer support and help to those who need it or even accept the bigger things at play here.

ooooohbetty · 16/03/2020 08:01

I'm gutted as well but not going to cancel. I've got a very good social life too and go out a lot. Am dreading having to stay in.

TLIMSISNW · 16/03/2020 08:02

Inside you’re showing a total lack of empathy. Ironic really.

lastqueenofscotland · 16/03/2020 08:03

I’ve got a big multi country trip including Russia and Azerbaijan for the euro 2020 that has been about 2 years in the planning. Ngl I will be upset when it inevitably can’t go ahead.
I also had a GFA place in the London marathon and have been absolutely killing myself since Christmas to get a Boston qualifier time. I’m gutted that that will be put on hold. I can’t do the rearranged date so I will have to defer till next year.
My friend is getting married next month which is starting to look shakey.
I completely accept that in the grander scheme of things Im lucky, on a personal level I’m sad. Emotions are not 1 dimensional. We are allowed to be sad/angry/disappointed while also understanding the gravity of the current situation

CalleighDoodle · 16/03/2020 08:05

Where is the emotional intelligence there surely this should be of those times when even an anonymous place like this we learn to know what to complain about and when to keep things in perspective.

Bullshit. There are always people dying of illness. There are always women being killed by ex or current partners. They are always people being kept in slavery. There are always people dying of poverty. There are always people who take their own lives. There are always huge numbers of people suffering more. This forum would not exist if people were not allowed to be disappointed with life’s tests because others were suffering More.

Cam77 · 16/03/2020 08:07

We’re talking about possibly 8 million hospitalizations (NHS figures) this year due to Loco del Coco British Government and people are feeling sad about missing a week in the sun. Ok.

IdblowJonSnow · 16/03/2020 08:07

Yanbu to be disappointed. The uncertainty and not being able to plan is also very difficult.

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Insideimsprinting · 16/03/2020 08:08

Inside you’re showing a total lack of empathy. Ironic really.

I know when to be empathetic I know when to be practical I can switch between the two. I give empathy freely when I need an yes can maybe come across as a bit cold at other times.

Amotherof6 · 16/03/2020 08:12

"We are meant to go in 8 weeks. It’s a holiday to celebrate DH not dying last year. It was part of his recovery, something to work towards.
Now we are in semi isolation to prevent it happening again.
It’s all a big bag of shit."

Sending big hugs, take care xx

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ShatnersWig · 16/03/2020 08:15

I've not had a holiday in eight years, not even a weekend away in three years. This was the year I was going to go on a big holiday. For those who go away a lot, meh. For those who rarely do, who may have saved up for a long time and lost their money, for those who had been looking forward to it for a long time and it was part of their mental well being, yes I get the disappointment.

It's perfectly fine to feel that. At this current time, everyone needs to feel how they feel and work through it. It's gonna be a bumpy ride for some time and managing mental health is going to be a very major concern for everyone.

SRK16 · 16/03/2020 08:16

It’s natural to be disappointed and saddened.
We had just booked a very much longer for holiday and I think there is minimal chance of it going ahead. Sure, health is more important and there are bigger issues, but I’m sad!

dottiedodah · 16/03/2020 08:23

Obviously we are worried about vulnerable people who are at risk of this horrible illness .However we are supposed to be going to the States in September for my "big " birthday.Not sure whether it will be happening now ,Staying with friends out there .Will be really disappointed if we cant go .Have been worrying about it all weekend .As PP says part of holidays is the looking forward to it and planning trips and so on .Have to "watch and wait" I guess .My DS and his GF were planning on going out in May as well .

WikkiTikkiWoo · 16/03/2020 08:24

Disappointed yes. I am also disappointed about a number of things I'll be missing over the next few months which we had planned and paid for.

BUT, people describing themselves as distraught over such things is really ridiculous. To be distraught is how I felt when I was my father die.. when my baby was is scbu.. when life really feels like it's ending rather than continuing. No one should feel that way about a holiday.

Canshopwillshop · 16/03/2020 08:34

YANBU - we have a big holiday booked for Easter and yes v disappointed . I’m hoping there will be a travel ban soon so we can claim on insurance otherwise it’s £12000 down the drain. Think I’ll allow myself a bit of sadness about that whilst also being very concerned about the bigger picture.

Straycatstrut · 16/03/2020 08:34

I'm a very low income LP and in Jan I got a good Haven deal for me and the boys (3 & 7), 1st week in June. I've just been sent an e-mail asking for the balance paying off. No mention of anything else, which has annoyed me. Just asking for payment. I think they should acknowledge what could happen.

I'll be annoyed if they shut down and don't re-fund a penny or offer anything. I'll never book with them again if they do that.

I'll be a bit sad if we can't go.. I really wanted the boys to have some fun after their dad walking out and me constantly in tears. We really needed it. But I've not even mentioned it to anyone until now and probably won't again.

I tell you what though - people moaning about their trip to Ibiza being cancelled every day all over FB when they go twice a year though is starting to get on my wick. At the same time there are masses of people dying all over the news and people grieving and terrified for themselves and family. It's really bad taste and insensitive. Says a lot about them.

Tulipstulips · 16/03/2020 08:36

A PP mentioned the devastating effect this shut down is going to have on airlines, tourism industry, poor countries who rely on tourism and the retail industry (here and world wide). I think it’s ok to mourn that too. The world will look very different in a year’s time, I think. I’m not talking about the number of fatalities - I’m talking about the familiar shops on the high street which won’t be there anymore, or online, the cheap airlines, the restaurant chains and pubs that were struggling anyway. I’m worried about my two favourite clothes shops - it doesn’t make me a bad person because I want to still be able to buy skirts that suit me after all this has ended.

Tulipstulips · 16/03/2020 08:38

Because it’s not my only concern - in the grand scheme of things it’s a very small concern but knowing that and being worried about my dad and my inlaws and my elderly neighbours and the NHS and the staff at our local nursery.... it doesn’t stop me also g about the personal affects on me.

The thought of losing your loved ones is a very huge concern and it’s human nature to try to block those thoughts out with trivial worries instead.

jasjas1973 · 16/03/2020 08:41

I feel a bit pee'd of about my holiday plans as we always go to the same appts and BnBs 7 have become friends with their owners, so as well as for my own disappointment, i feel v sorry for these businesses that will fold and livelihoods will be devastated.

Then there are our airlines and travel businesses, Hays Travel/Easyjet for example, they will very soon be shedding jobs, if we have further isolation, restaurants/pubs will all close down.... more unemployment.

I don't know enough about the epidemiology & science here, but i wonder whether govts around the world are running around like headless chickens, desperate to be seen to be doing "something"

Tootletum · 16/03/2020 08:41

@Insideimsprinting I wouldn't say you're a very flexible thinker, somehow. It's possible to have mixed emotions, to both realise what's important right now, and to be disappointed at the way things have worked out. Holidays are a huge part of people's lives, its completely unnatural to expect people to suddenly not care because they get to bring their neighbours toilet roll instead.

ellanwood · 16/03/2020 08:43

OP YANBU. I sympathise. Most people work long, stressful hours (I include being a SAHM in that category!) and need a break from routine. I am sad that the world seems to be constantly shrinking. There are so many places I've longed to go and most of them are out of bounds these days due to war or COVID. There are several shows I'd liove to see but no point buying tickets if they get cancelled - events we'd booked for next week are cancelled.

I don't think it's trivial to mourn the things that make life worth living. Obviously we all care that the virus doesn't threaten the vulnerable and will be sensible and take precautions to stop its spread. But we can still feel sad that the things which raise our spirits have been put on hold.

AmelieTaylor · 16/03/2020 08:44

think in a few months it will be all ok.

I think in a few months several family members & friends will have died.

I think there’s a high possibility I will die (51, obese, diabetic, high blood pressure).

If you genuinely think your life will be ok in a few months, please try to focus on the joy in that rather than holidays missed.

Before this I was feeling down & worrying about ‘stuff’, now I’d just like to go back to life how it was before this dreadful pandemic that will kill so many.

I understand that while you still feel safe & like there will be life after this for you, that missing holidays etc are disappointing & that you can be worried about Covid & missing your holiday, but PLEASE for your own sake - try to focus on the fact that for you, life WILL return to pretty much normal in under a year.

Omashu · 16/03/2020 08:44

Yeah we’re pretty gutted! Me and my OH have been together for 7 years and next month we were meant to go on our first family holiday with our DD for her second birthday. It was also my first ever proper holiday to a nice beach. We saved for ages 😭

But as a pp said it’s the not having anything to look forward to and not know when we will be able to re book a holiday. We don’t even know if we will be able to have a party for DD’s second birthday.

But mostly I’m worried about my family’s health and safety so the above issues are minimised in the grand scheme of things. It’s still really shit though Sad