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To feel upset about holidays

391 replies

MadameBee · 15/03/2020 22:29

I know this is really selfish and entitled but is anyone else feeling a bit devastated that their holiday is probably totally fucked this year?

Due to go to Spain (Benidorm!) in 8 weeks and it’s looking very unlikely.

😭😭😭😭

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Autumn101 · 16/03/2020 07:22

I’m disappointed we’ve had to cancel a holiday for Easter - we were going to the Maldives for DHs 40th and after a stressful 6 months we were so looking forward to it.

But I’ll get over it! What’s making me very upset and worried I’d that I don’t live in the UK and the country I’m in is pretty much on lockdown and not knowing when I will next see my parents and sister is awful. My father has health issues so at risk and my sister lost her husband last summer so not being able to get home to support her and her being on her own is breaking me a bit.......

Fluffybutter · 16/03/2020 07:22

I have Hawaii booked for August . I’ll cry my eyes out of it’s cancelled but I have a while yet so fingers crossed

Greenpolkadot · 16/03/2020 07:23

We have a 19 day cruise in June. Booked and paid for last year. One of the ports of call would gave been Venice.
The cruise company are grateful that we haven't cancelled and have given us a nice sum of credit to spend onboard.
Im expecting the worse and that the cruise will be cancelled. Of course things could change dramatically and quickly in the next few weeks.
Lots of other fellow cruisers are ranting about the unfairness of it all.
I appreciate that they have worked hard for their holiday but what will be will be. We must all look after each other

Insideimsprinting · 16/03/2020 07:23

I'm pleased mine was cancelled, I'm more upset by how the panic buyers are acting even before any restrictions are imposed, what are they going to be like then??
I also feel upset that my husband has underlying issues and worry, that my 90yrold mil is already very ill, that the NHS may struggle a lot.
The fact that holidays being cancelled are the last thing on my mind and I'm amazed that being upset they are cancelled is at the for front of your mind, hiew very self absorbed.

TLIMSISNW · 16/03/2020 07:26

The fact that holidays being cancelled are the last thing on my mind and I'm amazed that being upset they are cancelled is at the for front of your mind, hiew very self absorbed.

The last thing on your mind but still on your mind?

You do realise that it’s possible to be sad about more than one situation at once?

Of course it’s natural to feel disappointed when a holiday is cancelled. It doesn’t mean you aren’t terrible upset about everything else too. Please try not to be so judgemental.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 16/03/2020 07:26

Insideimsprinting, I'm sorry to hear about your DH and MIL but is it really so hard to understand that people can worry about things AND be upset about their holidays?

My DH is over 60 and my Uncle is 84. I'm very worried about both of them but I'll also be disappointed if our holidays are cancelled. It's possible to do both.

Insideimsprinting · 16/03/2020 07:28

Not having anything to look to...

How about the current health pandemic getting under control society returning to normal so you can then book your precious holiday. I'm in the same boat as most of you on here, so are many, many work hard and we're looking forward to them I like many wee having first holiday abroad in 14yrs first ever for kids but really, get a grip there are more important thing like all our health and staying safe.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 16/03/2020 07:29

I’m Over holidays , took me a week but over it

Seriously fuck it , there are worse things at play here

SoupDragon · 16/03/2020 07:29

but is it really so hard to understand that people can worry about things AND be upset about their holidays?

Apparently yes it is.

The fact that I'm gutted about my holiday means I am clearly not at all worried about the effects of the virus on my 83 year old mother and the wider community.

CanICelebrate · 16/03/2020 07:32

get a grip there are more important thing like all our health and staying safe.

I think we’ve already established on this thread that it’s ok to be upset about a holiday but still care more about staying healthy and safe.
People are unwell, dying and vulnerable - it is horrendous and worrying.
£5500 of holiday cancelled - absolutely no where near as horrendous but I can still be gutted!

badrighthip · 16/03/2020 07:37

We're due to fly out on our first family holiday with our baby and toddler on April 2nd. To Majorca. So clearly that's not happening. Neither tour operator or airline have cancelled. Unless travel insurance pay out we stand to lose over 2k. We've saved for over a year and spent £££ on clothes/luggage/toiletries etc for a family of 5.

Safe to say I'm gutted (and yes, I know there are plenty worse of than me but I'm still upset for us)

Insideimsprinting · 16/03/2020 07:39

The last thing on your mind but still on your mind?

No I saw this thread and was actually amazed, when mine was cancelled I was pleased it seemed daft going with everything going on. When it was like I say I was relieved I can rebook once everything else has blown over.
I'm genuinely surprised that it's so much in the minds of others when there are clearly more pressing issued to worry about and be upset about. Seeing this thread quite surprised me to the point where I commented.

Tempuserregularposter · 16/03/2020 07:39

It's also OK to want to vent on an anonymous forum about the things that do upset/annky/disappoint you. I'm completely fucked off with the people who feel the need to virtue signal. Especially as most of them didn't give a fuck about the virus when it was killing the Chinese.

Cocoandclive27 · 16/03/2020 07:43

It's totally fine to feel upset and disappointed about losing a holiday. Many of us work hard and save for holidays which we look forward to all year. To have it ripped away suddenly with no idea when you can next rebook is very frustrating and upsetting.

But....in the current situation I'm really struggling with people who are quite openly complaining about this as though it's their top priority. I have someone on my fb who has posted no less than 12 separate statuses about their holiday cancellation. So much wallowing, complaining and even a few not so subtle racist digs at the chinese. When people are dying and self isolating and struggling I think it's a bit of a first world problem. That's not to say we shouldn't be gutted about our own personal disappointment however trivial they might seem in the bigger picture. I just think it's useful to have a bit of perspective at the moment.

SoupDragon · 16/03/2020 07:43

I'm genuinely surprised that it's so much in the minds of others when there are clearly more pressing issued to worry about and be upset about.

I'm genuinely surprised that people are unable to grasp that it's possible to be worried about Minor Problem A whilst also being worried about Fuck Off Major Problem B.

The lack of emotional depth and breadth of some people is astounding.

CalleighDoodle · 16/03/2020 07:45

I always think the virtue signalling Arseholes who can’t possibly imagine being upset about more than one thing, are the same people who can’t possibly understand an op who didn’t use paragraphs. Just bore off.

ReginaGeorgeous · 16/03/2020 07:47

I got back from France last night having had a weekend trip to Disneyland for my daughters fifth birthday ruined. We arrived on Friday morning with the park open and Disney saying they would close after trading on Sunday, which was when we were coming home anyway so we thought we’d be unaffected. But we were turned away at the theme park gates on Saturday morning. Spent all of Saturday stuck in the hotel room and most of yesterday at the airport.

I am also due to go to Tenerife in three weeks which is looking incredibly unlikely.

My sibling lives abroad in a country on total lockdown, I don’t know when I’ll next see him.

Apolloanddaphne · 16/03/2020 07:47

Of course it is okay to be disappointed and upset by holiday cancellations. I should be on a flight to NY right now and when we had to cancel I was disappointed even though I totally understood why we couldn't go.

My DD and 2 of her friends have been working for 9 months saving for a 3 month long trip of a lifetime to South America. It's now pretty much off and they are all devastated. However they are mature enough to understand why they can't go and that this is affecting everyone not just them.

Surely this is a natural and normal reaction?

RollaCola84 · 16/03/2020 07:48

@Lynda07 actually the conversations I've had in real life have been far more normal and appreciative of the fact that it is possible to be upset about losing your holidays, potentially having hobbies/ other social events disrupted having to change whilst simultaneously both appreciating and having concern for the bigger picture rather than some of the self-righteous virtue signalling bollocks on here.

annamie · 16/03/2020 07:49

I am allowed to care how it affects me personally too though.

Maybe if you didn’t call yourself ‘selfish and entitled’ in your OP then you wouldn’t have had that response. Why call yourself these things? I find women do this a lot, like ‘I feel like a bitch.’ So unnecessary.

Tulipstulips · 16/03/2020 07:51

I’m terrified that my 70 year old, overweight, diabetic ex smoker father might catch it and die. I’m trying not to think about that too much. But I’m also gutted that my holiday in May might be cancelled. It’s possible to be concerned about both things, and I don’t think it makes you a bad selfish person to be upset about any of the ways the virus will curtail your activities or change your life.

burntpinky · 16/03/2020 07:52

Yes, we have 2 trips booked in may and it is looking unlikely we will be going. Likely means no trip away this year as I’m pregnant and due in November and was largely immobile from about 25 weeks last time due to severe SPD.

CalleighDoodle · 16/03/2020 07:57

Im not upset i can't go on holiday in two weeks time. The holiday is a once in a life time holiday we could barely afford. We have gone without lots, and not done house repairs to pay for it. And it has been a holiday ive wanted to do for twenty years. But what I am upset about is that’s it for that dream. We will never be able to go. We most likely won't get any money back, despite having two insurance policies, as they havent stopped travel there, theyve just implemented two weeks Quarantine for arrivals. So we would arrive, be quarantined for the entire holiday, then come home.

Ameliabrowner · 16/03/2020 07:57

Ya we had a holiday booked soon (all abroad) and wanted to plan for summer which we can’t now.
Just devastated and depressed at the thought of being stuck at home with nothing to look fwd to like holidays....

AuntieMarys · 16/03/2020 07:58

I'm certainly not apologising for being upset that my holiday will be cancelled. Or that my ds will not be having end of year university celebrations and can't go on his planned travels he has planned and saved for.

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