To feel upset about holidays

[MadameBee]

I know this is really selfish and entitled but is anyone else feeling a bit devastated that their holiday is probably totally fucked this year?

Due to go to Spain (Benidorm!) in 8 weeks and it’s looking very unlikely.

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I'd call it a lucky escape as it's Benidorm

I wouldn't give a crap about a holiday or lost money. I'm worried about my frail mother and my partners job. We have a family to feed.

In my defence we have a beautiful villa booked - in Benidorm

MadameBee
and well done for not losing your shit and getting shitty

As always , we can all disagree civilly !

We had to cancel a family holiday at the very last minute to the Caribbean at half term because of my shock cancer diagnosis! My surgeon was confident I would be done and dusted with treatment by end of April, so we decided to treat ourselves to a really flash summer holiday instead. But now we daren't even book that just in case. I'm also fifty this year so we had intended to go to New York at Thanksgiving with friends, but again daren't book anything. I hate being in holiday limbo.

Am really sorry for people who have lost their jobs - it’s truly awful

can only assume the few people who come out with this bile,don’t have an expensive holiday they were looking forward to

Actually we had two "once in a lifetime" holidays booked a couple of years ago. Both had to be cancelled when my OH was diagnosed with terminal cancer. So, in the big scheme of things, a couple of holidays were pretty irrelevant.

I'm disappointed too. I had planned a trip to Europe for my dh 40th. A cancelled holiday really isn't my biggest problem now, no, but I'm still disappointed. I needed a break from all the rubbish I've been going through. Nothing wrong with being disappointed. I feel sorry for people who have weddings etc planned abroad. Yes things could be worse but still 🤷🏼‍♀️

I have COVID-19 myself right now, and am thankfully on the mend after a really scary couple of days when I had so much mucus that I couldn't shift because I was too weak to cough and found that I couldn't breathe, or barely.

So at the moment I couldn't care less about holidays. Even before all this I had Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and PTSD from childhood abuse, and had a lot of stress dealing with our adopted DDs (10 and 7) with attachment issues.

Having said that, we had a lovely holiday visiting relatives in Canada in August 2018, so it would have been disappointing if we hadn't been able to go, so I understand where you're coming from.

I hadn’t booked anything but I’ve put the £1400 I had budgeted, in a separate account and hopefully will spend it on a better holiday next year. Or maybe skiing next Xmas.

Having something to look forward to seems very important.

Hope you get better soon Mittens and none of your family come down with it.

@user1497207191 While that is awful , this isn’t really the same thing.

Yes its okay to feel upset. We have a German tour booked for Easter and Bucharest in May. Will just have to see what happens and move everything. I just don't want to go on lockdown - that would be horrible!

I’ve got a holiday booked for May to a country that has just banned flights from the UK. I hope it’ll be okay by then as it’s still a while away but if it does get cancelled I’ll be disappointed.

My ex is also supposed to marry the woman he cheated on me with in another locked down county in May.

Im disappointed. We had a sort of holiday of a lifetime booked early May somewhere we'll never go to again that we booked a year ago Two minds now whether to cancel or wait another month and re-assess

I would obviously sacrifice the holiday if it means people staying fit and well, but i dont think its selfish to be incredibly sad and frustrated about missing my holiday

Meant to be going to France for 2 weeks in June. So far I can get my deposit back but not the flights. I need to make my mind up whether to cancel and get the deposit back. I don't know what to do.

It's valid to feel this way - as if everything wasn't depressing enough right now, having a holiday cancelled when you've scrimped and saved and been looking forward to it for ages is the shitty icing on the proverbial cake!

Myself and DP have a trip to Paris booked for the very end of April, to celebrate our six-year anniversary. We would be in Paris for the day itself and have been excited about going for months. Haven't had a holiday abroad in two years, and looks like this one isn't going to happen now.

You're not alone!

It a real shame but it's exceptional circumstances so I kind of have accepted it. Hopefully we will have many happy holidays in the future if we can ride this out.

Was going Malta in may half term. Expect it cancelled.

Hoping the British hols in summer will go ahead but time will tell. Surely by then we will be out the other side.

We're meant to be going to the in law's caravan for my little girl's birthday on Easter Monday. We're not sure if we'll still be going as everything is still very much up in the air. I'll be so disappointed for her as this seems to be her first birthday that she really understands what we have planned and is so excited.

Nothing really in the grand scheme of things, but it was something that we were really looking forward to

@KoalasandRabbit Thank you, that's kind. They won't diagnose anyone, though, so I'll never know for sure. I've got the symptoms and plenty of tissue with mucus so it would be easy to diagnose if they'd only do it. I think my DD2 has had it, she had worrying symptoms for 3 days and recovered quickly, as kids mostly do.

I don't think a single person on here who's disappointed about a holiday being cancelled, isn't also really scared about what is happening and that life as we know it may never be the same again.

I have anxiety. Off work for several months type of anxiety. I am also very fortunate that we have a financial safety net, and can afford to go in holiday. Having a break to look forward to really helps with my ability to manage day to day life, which I find really hard at times. I have a front line NHS job, which I find exceptionally stressful but have managed to keep going with.
My DM is in the vulnerable group. I have a underlying health condition that puts me a higher risk of serious illness when CV finally hits me.

So too fucking right I am allowed to feel sad and disappointed that I won't be able to go on the two trips we had planned for this year, and that my DC's will have their much anticipated school residentials cancelled. Because I can be sad for the little things, along with being terrified for the world at the same time.

For those who say we should be thankful that it's just cancelled holidays, others have it worse etc - you are absolutely right!

But being able to acknowledge a comparatively minor disappointment, and have a moan is a way of hanging on to the normal - and that is a reassuring thing to be able to do at the moment, when we seem to have no control over anything that is happening around us.

And you know what this crisis has made me realise? DH and I really need to update our wills. They were made a quarter of a century ago when the DCs were small. We've intended to do something about it for ages but just never got round to it.

I think people can have lots of different emotions. I’m worried for my parents and children’s health, how many people might die unnecessarily and the bigger economic picture. But I am also personally a but gutted about likely holiday cancellation and managing work with closures of childcare.

NBU at all you can de upset devastated and disappointed about anything ( Was disappointed it rained other day wanted to hang washing out )
It doesn't mean in the slightest you care less or feel any less devastation for the massive events unfolding .

Did make me smile at some off the passive aggressive replies though

I’m disappointed that our family ski trip has been cancelled. Kids are gutted. It was to celebrate our 40th birthdays. Also disappointed that my marathon has been postponed.
I’m terrified about what’s going to happen in the coming weeks and frightened for my elderly/vulnerable friends and relatives. But that doesn’t stop me being disappointed too.