To feel upset about holidays

[MadameBee]

I know this is really selfish and entitled but is anyone else feeling a bit devastated that their holiday is probably totally fucked this year?

Due to go to Spain (Benidorm!) in 8 weeks and it’s looking very unlikely.

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We are supposed to go to London on the 4th April. Then Naples in June for our belated honeymoon and greece in august. I am also devestated. Everything was paid on credit card except the train tickets but they are able to be cancelled any way. Part of me is also thinking I will be a good few grand better off so will save the money for a nicer break next year. Or sort my bathrooms out! x

I was really enjoying the thread about HOLIDAYS. Can we just ignore the posters who don’t understand the thread title and opening explanation because it’s really derailing this one.
Let them boast about how they are far more distressed and virtuous elsewhere.

It is possible to worry about all of these things at once, to be pissed off about all these things at once.. This will have a huge impact on me financially. It already has. The fear about that is huge for me. But I also feel horrendous about people dying and grieving , people who I don't know.

I don't understand why people are thinking they wont be going on a UK cottage holiday in the summer though. Unless the country is still in lockdown why would a UK holiday not happen? Am I too optimistic in thinking it should have wound down by then?

I am upset about missing my holiday to Greece, but as I don't have children I am planning to go late September/October.

Yes, catsmother thats a good point.
The reason I'm so desperate for my kids to have a cheap trip to Malta is not that I 'want a holiday' but because it is further social 'differencing'for them now that they haven't had the experience of going on a plane / experiencing a different culture (v rural at home)
My parents were poor when i grew up. I didn't get on a plane until i was 18 and clearly I survived. But I was not alone in that, so I didn't feel too 'different'. It is simply another way that they are (not the most important, clearly!), and I'd like to build their confidence by exposing them to that experience, in a modest way.

But, hopefully we can 'try again' next year.
Everyone's expectations are having to be adjusted about all sorts of things, 'big' and 'small'.

I have cancelled mine. we have lost £400 deposit. Of course we are disappointed, we look forward to going and its our special place but I am more terrified and worried for the world's population and what is about to hit the UK. I am worried about dying, about my family dying, I am worried about the businesses that are going to go bust and the ongoing poverty, the effect on tourism on our holiday place. I just wish I could wake up from this nightmare and all be normal again. We never knew how good we had it did we?

@movinghouseatlast I am also optimistic that foreign holidays will be ok in the summer. I hope that countries such as Spain don't suffer too much economically because of the loss of tourism - it would be devastating for them. But obviously I'm also hoping that I can go on my July holiday. We have to keep some optimism amongst all of this hysteria and gloom.

YANBU - I really look forward to a relaxing break, but more than that I feel for all the people in the travel industry who are going to lose their jobs.

We always book our holidays last minute because we don’t mind where we go and usually get something for £400-£500 for the three of us.

I’m a bit worried that a lot of operators will go out of business and the price of holidays will go up next year and we won’t be able to afford to go.

No you're not being unreasonable. It is an absolute nightmare all of this. Humans don't exactly get much time to enjoy life away from the constant day today things. I mean most of us get a holiday a year if that. People who are slightly better off may go twice a year. But that's it for the rest of the year life is just work and housework and the normal things. So no you're not unreasonable because you're disappointed that the one small thing you'll probably get to enjoy every year has been taken away from you buy a miserable depressing virus that's killing people. money that you've saved up for ages and now you won't even get to experience what you've been excited for a full stop it's ok to admit that you're disappointed it doesn't make you a self-centred a. we all can agree that the main priority is we need to protect ourselves as people and make sure that we don't let this virus bread more than it has two. Hopefully next year will be in a new situation and all this will be over. Up

@claragolightly - yes, my cat sitters have just messaged checking we're still going away because they've had swathes of cancellations.

It's flexi work that supports mainly women who can do it around home responsibilities.

I'm planning to spend as much as I can with locals and independents - my company has good reserves and can work remotely easily, so I'm sitting pretty on a financial level - but normally I'm spending a lot of leisure money that supports other people's livelihoods.

I’m a bit worried that a lot of operators will go out of business and the price of holidays will go up next year and we won’t be able to afford to go

I was thinking the same - whilst also thinking about the bigger picture.

We are going away in August. Only to Spain but it’s much needed after a tough year last year. I’m disappointed that we just don’t know if we’ll be going yet. I’m hoping it will have all blown over by then but no one knows. Kids are disappointed too. I know there are more serious issues than being disappointed about a holiday. Not denying that but when I think of the nice things we had planned for spring / summer it is really disappointing. Everyone will be in the same boat. I think people’s mental health will take a massive battering during and after this virus.

Yep I'm gutted. I work in The airline industry and lost my job last week.
I was due to travel on a very long awaited, hard saved for and planned luxury holiday this weekend that was cancelled as I arrived at the airport. I had another one booked for the start of May (booked last July) that is looking very unlikely too.

I live for my holidays and loved my job. Feeling rather flat and lost. So much of my life involves travel and travel planning and airlines. My inboxes full of amazing bargain cheap deals I cant book due to government advice, no money coming in and travel insurance no longer covers some Corona related issues.

I'm taing some solice in that as I'm not currently working I'm no longer exposing myself to an international.mix of germs in a confined space every day.

Yes it is selfish and entitled. Assuming you and your loved ones don't die, you'll be able to go next year instead.

I’m a bit worried that a lot of operators will go out of business and the price of holidays will go up next year and we won’t be able to afford to go

Hotels still need to be filled, as will airplanes etc - once this is over, it'll be business as usual again.

I'm supposed to be attending my friend's sons wedding on a Greek island at the end of May. All hotels in Greece are closed down until 30th April at least. Don't feel at all sorry for myself if this (likely) doesn't happen but the bride and groom are naturally extremely stressed with all the planning they have done and now, as with so many there is this uncertainty.

@user1497207191 can only assume the few people who come out with this bile,don’t have an expensive holiday they were looking forward to .
Does this mean you never get upset about anything in your life because”someone is always worse off” ?

This has come as the latest in a long run of scary and depressing news stories that have made lots of people fear for the future. Brexit, a winter full of endless rain and flooding that has had a real impact on lots of people’s lives. In situations like that it’s pretty normal to cling on to the prospect of a holiday as a break from the endless bloody gloom and misery, and that makes it all the worse when it’s taken away from you. It’s horrible to be counting the weeks to something and then have it disappear. I have no time at all for people so wrapped up in their own self-righteousness that they can’t recognise that.
Also, the bigger picture is something we really have very little control over. Trying not to obsess over it and focus on finding the positives is a perfectly healthy response. Certainly more so than rushing out to buy as much pasta and toilet roll as you can find and calling it “stockpiling”.

The judgmental, unempathetic people on this thread seem to think that there are two types of people - people who go on holidays and have no idea about poverty and suffering, and people who don't. It is not that simple. Someone with a very hard life on a low income may have saved for years to have a holiday, the loss of which is devastating. Others are ill and wanting a last holiday with their loved ones. As has been shown on this thread, it's what the holiday means, not the holiday itself.

I didn't even have an effing trip booked (due to illness and not having the funds) but I am still gutted for many of those who did!

I'd call it a lucky escape as it's Benidorm

Our trip to Poland has obviously been cancelled (not by us!)
Wondering whether Maldives will go ahead in the Easter Hols...

We've had to cancel 2 holiday's so far. We were due to go to Ireland next friday to visit family which now isn't happening and we were also due to go to a large Haven site 4th april. It is disappointing because we've been looking forward to it so much

My son saved up and worked for a trip to Australia and se Asia - his Cambodian visa runs out in two weeks and he's not allowed in most other se Asia countries with a European passport so is having to come home 3 months early. Gutted for him.

DH and I both have a milestone birthday this year and we’re looking forward to two amazing trips, we didn’t go away last year as we were moving and I am upset about it. I don’t even feel comfortable booking a holiday as we have no idea how long this is going on for. I’m an intelligent rational person but the more you see and hear about what’s going on the more worried I become.

I’m so worried about older family members with health issues, I’m worried about the effect this has on the health and lives of other people and then there is the effects on the economy and the lack of civility some people are showing.

I’m in a fortunate position both financially and health wise. I’m not worried about either DH or I catching it as I think we would be ok after a week or two. I’m just worried about everything else and it’s the uncertainty of it that is also a worry.

I want normality back and not the threat of a lot of people dying and a global recession, but yes I still want a holiday too, it signifies that normality.

The judgmental, unempathetic people on this thread

It’s Ok too , to have different opinions you know . I’ve lost a holiday , but I’m over it

I think there are more
Pressing issues than a holiday and that’s not being unsympathetic , just factual

So shoot me !!

I just put 4 bog rolls on my elderly neighbours doorstep as she had run out - does that make me a better person