I haven't said any ifs or buts with regards to Palestinians having a state of their own. I've always been for a two state solution, ever since I was a child. Even when they were sending in suicide bombers to Israel on a regular basis and my cousin was almost killed in a nightclub explosion.
To the second part of your post, I do think you should also recognise that Hamas are also responsible for the devastation affecting Palestinians instead of solely blaming Israel but I doubt I'll ever manage to convince you of that. I mean from before October 7th. Hamas have always had a lot to answer for.
Yes, the Israeli government had a choice. I personally don't think they made the right one but I have some understanding for why they made certain decisions even if I don't agree with them. I mean, they exchanged 1027 prisoners, many of them terrorists and murderers, for one soldier a few years earlier - they were clearly hoping to avoid a similar unproportional solution this time around with a then unknown number of hostages. They had to change their strategy but I think they have made some truly deplorable choices.