Just MC'd .. Come and join us for the long haul (newbies always welcome!) - Vol 3

[LeeWT]

Hi all, old and new, this is the thread where all moaning, pieces of tmi, discussions and virtual cups of tea and biscuits come together to keep us sane .. or at the least insane together!

Allthe8s TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD6
MrsGazebo TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 1 CD44
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle WTF CD37
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle WTF CD36
Moofold ttc#2 UCL~33 cycle1 CD31
lucyt66 TTC#1 UCL34 cycle 2 CD28
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD24
Unbuffy TTC#2 UCL? WTF CD24
Liahgen66 TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 (post mc) CD22
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD18
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD18
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 3 CD17
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD16
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 3 CD16
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 11 CD15
Albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle WTF CD15
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD14
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 3 CD13
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD12
Curlylox TTC #3 UCL 28 cycle WTF CD12
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD10
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 11 CD10
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 9 CD7
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD6
SarahMumtoAlex TTC#2 UCL28 Cycle 6 CD4

PENDING STATS
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
dirtgirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
Polyanna TTC#6 UCL27 WTF CD?
Gi1da TTC #1 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 UCL? cycle? CD?
slimyak TTC#2 UCL? cycle? CD?

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
Cheepz BFP 16th February 2010

one more for the list....

"at least you can have lots of fun trying again..."
and that was from my MUM!!!!

Ooh Liah, will keep everything crossed for you.

Have updated the list to take off MrsG at her request xx

Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle WTF CD37
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle WTF CD36
Moofold ttc#2 UCL~33 cycle1 CD31
lucyt66 TTC#1 UCL34 cycle 2 CD28
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD24
Unbuffy TTC#2 UCL? WTF CD24
Liahgen66 TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 (post mc) CD22
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD18
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD18
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 3 CD17
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD16
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 3 CD16
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 11 CD15
Albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle WTF CD15
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD14
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 3 CD13
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD12
Curlylox TTC #3 UCL 28 cycle WTF CD12
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD10
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 11 CD10
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 9 CD7
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD6
Allthe8s TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD6
SarahMumtoAlex TTC#2 UCL28 Cycle 6 CD4

PENDING STATS
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
dirtgirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
Polyanna TTC#6 UCL27 WTF CD?
Gi1da TTC #1 UCL? cycle WTF CD?
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 UCL? cycle? CD?
slimyak TTC#2 UCL? cycle? CD?

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
Cheepz BFP 16th February 2010

Clareanna - thanks for teh company! We seem to be going through v. similar things. I hear you on the red wine thing too. Am all over the shop with pmt kind of feelings but nothing doing. Am emotional. It didn't help with the fact that am staying at BIL's house and DS (2yo) has massive constipation and was in children's hospital this morning having been crying with a stuck poo since last night. I've been trying not to weep in front of him for his sake.

MrsG. How awful for you. I hope you're coping.

My goodness this is a busy old thread - which is good cos there's lots of company but also sad that so many of us are suffering.

So sorry to hear your awful news mrsG, hope they give you all the answers you need. Make a list of questions incase you just get too emotional and forget it all.

I agree with clareanna I want to stop bleeding and get back to normal but also keep thinking "I'm not pregnant!" and finding it so hard to believe.

Liaghen good luck with finding out if this is all real. You must be feeling about a million emotions at once - I know I would be.

All the best to all xx.

Just popping in as I sit here with my cup of tea and cookie from Ben's cookies (don't know if that's just a local shop or a chain? Best cookies ever though). It's teatime ladies - get the kettle on.

Liahgen - keep us posted, are you going to get a blood test done today? I hope, I hope......

Weekend is nearly here!

xxxxxxxxxx

So excited for you Liahgen! Hope your GP can do blood tests.

Clareanna, I got a comment similar to your mum's from my boss less than a week after ERPC whilst still on sick leave.... 'I guess you need to wait a while before trying again, still, at least you can do lots of practising' And she's almost always incredibly politically correct. I didn't know what to say. Lucky for her it was by phone

antibiotics doing their job at last. Just v tired now from sleepless night.

ooh fingers crossed Liahgen!

I also got the "it's not a real baby comment". really helpful that.

Had some bleeding today again - 19 days post mc - it stopped very quickly, but I wish I knew what was going on!

oooooooh liah bump me off the bottom please fingers crossed for you - it took about a week and fifteen internet cheapies before I was convinced and accepted I am pregnant, still doing cheapies now just to reassure myself, once back from Scotland will do a digi to get an idea on weeks as it was wtf cycle so don't know exact dates.

alba agree the 'practising will be fun tough eh wink wink' is the one that gets me - no it bloody isn't fun because all the fun has gone down the toilet to be replaced by a desparate desire to get pregnant

i also had - well when its so early theres no heartbeat is there ... sooooo there would have been!

hope all you other ladies are doing ok, this thread is brilliant, grads thread is lovely too, its a really good support system and as viv said, its only the people who have been there who can really understand

Evening everyone. Hello to all the new girls and hugs to all those who have had bad news last few days or just feel shitty again. Totally empathise with the advice to the newcomers that one minute you feel like you are on top of your emotions again only to be knocked right back down again. I was congratulating myself on Wednesday for getting through a whole day without crying and now am really low again. Also empathise with the excessive red wine consumption - just a few glasses most evenings to take the edge off it! Really handy for TTC - except that's not possible in the absence of bloody ovulation which has still not happened by CD31.

Other words of wisdom that spring to mind include 'don't worry, you'll have another baby' (yes, but I desperately wanted this baby) and 'at least you are only 3 months, you wouldn't have wanted to lose the baby at full term'.

Had a new experience at work. 2 colleagues asked if i could join them in a meeting. I come into the room and they both have serious faces like something awful has happened. So I'm wondering who is ill, whose partner has left them etc - bracing myself for terrible news. Except it was only to tell me that one was pregnant, almost apologetically. Then I had to congratulate trying to beam away while fighting tears at the same time. Then I feel like a total ogre where friends are worried about telling me their good news.

Hey ho. I'm away back to my red wine! Hope it is good news for you Liah!

Hello, (sadly) I'm new. (Sorry for rambling that follows)

I started to bleed Sunday, spent Monday am being investigated then told mmc, then bleeding started properly, back to hospital Tuesday by ambulance as couldn't cope with severe pain/blood loss. Had blood test yesterday for thyroid and stuff, think this is my 2nd mmc- nurse was kind which made me cry again, not sure I can cry much more. Then was reduced to a complete state again today by the dog catching the end of her ear and bleeding everywhere (she's fine now after vet glued it).

Anyway really wish I would stop bleeding, just desperate to get back to something approaching normality, though think I am going to take a few days off work next week (teacher so half term this week- can't wait for the 'how was your half term?' conversations).

Re. the 'helpful' comments, my best so far has been 'well at least you won't need a maternity wedding dress now' (getting married in May), have heard a couple of the others as well.

Someone please tell me this all gets easier? TIA

sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle WTF

Oh lovely. I'm so sorry. Do give yourself some time next week. I've just been in a similar situation and have needed this whole week to go through ups and downs and just to rest. I think there are easier days and totally pants days. But you're not alone and we understand. Hope you have lots of support at home too. x

Sorry that your here Sparkly Its been nearly a year since my mc (including near death experience) and all I can say is take each day at a time and as my dh says all the time 'be kind to yourself' .

Cry lots and don't aplogise about it, talk to dh or the wall, I found I sometimes just needed to talk about how unfair it was and still is.

Most days I'm ok it's just when I find out someone else is pregnant that I get down. My friend told me the other week she was pregnant for the third time, I am happy for her but I just want it to me , so I came home phoned dh and cried and just reading the threads and seeing graduates gives me hope.

Sorry if I have gone on ! Your not alone

Evening all- well, AF finally arrived- actually now feel relieved to be off the WTF cycle and get ready for the future. Think the wait is far worse than anything else.

Total damage - x6 ovulation sticks and x2 pg tests, pretty restrained eh?!
We'll be on hols at key time next month, so feeling optimistic- plus it's the weekend, woo hoo!

lia quietly excited for you.

So.. My stats (scared of list so if someone with better counting skills than me wouldn't mind...)
TTC#2 UCL 35 CD1

dirtgirl I've got a DS who is 2.9 and we'vejust had the opposite- he's been dry and potty trained for about 5 months, but over the last few weeks gas been wetting the bed and having poo accidents. I'm sure it's a reaction to us and particularly me being so sad recently- they def pick things up
hope he's feeling better soon

Thanks Clareanna - he's running around now like a mad thing, happy as larry. The hospital gave him mega laxatives and they did the jobby so to speak.

Anyone P-ing OAS this weekend? I've got one calling to me in the cupboard and trying very very hard to resist

Hello ladies, can I join you?
I MCd at end of Jan at 9 weeks (medically managed) but had suspected for a while before that that things weren't right.
I have no idea where my cycle is. Getting BFNs on pg tests now (at last - never thought I'd be pleased to see that) and -ve OPK. Thank the Lord for internet cheapies or we'd be remortgaging by now. SWI at regular intervals just in case. Well, you never know and time is not on my side.
I feel the need to do something to help things along so have booked for acupuncture next week. Not usually my thing at all but I'm at the stage of being ready to try anything.
This is my first MC - does anyone have any experience of how long before cycle returns to normal after a medical management?
Liaghen - am keeping everything crossed for you.
Can someone add me to the list?
TTC#2 UCL 25 cycle WTF

Hi Shinysideup, sorry you've found yourself here, hope you are doing OK?
I don't think there's any hard and fast rule as to when your cycle will return to normal - it's really frustrating waiting for it to happen. I had an ERPC and my first period was roughly a nomal cycle length, (which was a relief) however I did about 6 OP sticks and have no idea when I ovulated, as the cycle felt very different.
This thread calls it the WTF cycle - which is probably the most accurate way I've ever hear it described as because you honestly don't know WTF is going on!

Hi Shiny - sorry this has happened to you too. I can vouch for the WTF uncertainty. My period arrived 5 weeks after the ERPC but was very light and short. I'm now having a second WTF cycle being at day 31 with no ovulation or temperature increase or sign of AF. I am actually willing the arrival of AF to start using the fertility monitor I purchased.

Its all very frustrating when being pregnant again is all that's on your mind. Hope you are muddling through alright

Quick question for those who had an EPRC. Sorry if TMI!!!

Is it normal to have shooting pains up the backside?? Just before a bowel movement I had terrible shooting pains. And even though I've cleared that particular blockage I still have a shooting pain up the 'jacksy' if I sit down hard.

Also when I wee, as my bladder empties I get a shooting pain up the 'fandango'. Is this all ok or should I be worried. I seem to remember pains a bit like this after the birth of my children and also after a laproscapy where they lightly nicked my bladder. Not sure whether to speak to NHS direct.

Sorry to use such childish words - I'm 43 but still feel too silly typing sensible terms like vagina and anus!!!

Hi Hippy - that doesn't sound much fun... I know I was feeling a bit of discomfort when I had my bleed a few days ago, no shooting pains at the time, and the consultant gave me antibiotics just in case, told me to take them if the discomfort got worse or didn't go away -- developed to agonising bladder infection that night (at least I think that's what it was), shooting pains and no way to get comfortable at all, and the antibiotics have now cleared it up, and boy was I glad I had them. There is always a risk of infection after ERPC, some hospitals give you antibiotics as a matter of course, they don't here and maybe you didn't get them, so I would call out of hours GP if I were you. I had a scan too to check nothing left (which there wasn't) which they may want to schedule for you early next week.
Good luck and I hope it doesn't get any more painful for you.

sparklyrainbow and shinysideup welcome to the thread we'd all rather not need... but are hugely grateful for now we do. So sorry you ended up here.

It does kind of get better, in a two steps forward one step back kind of a way... but can't pretend there's any magic wand. As icedlemonmuffin says, be kind to yourself, it does help.

Morning after Cheepz's kind vote of confidence I thought I'd have another go at the list last time for a while probably as back to work tomorrow, so MN from my phone, not laptop, so my posts will get a bit shorter!

Liahgen still crossing my fingers for you -- you've gone very quiet, I hope all ok? Hippy have added you onto pending stats, looks like you've well and truly joined the thread
Been back a few pages to check for updates, hope I've got everyone at the right place now clareanna your post with stats was Saturday, but just past midnight, so I'm guessing Friday was in fact CD1?
northlondonchoclover have you tested? v close now... and moofold and lucyt66 and unbuffy... where's underneaththestream got to? Hope all ok....
(I'm getting excited for everyone else this month, I'm on the list just to check how long my cycle is this month - given up trying till next month given that I'm now on mega strength antibiotics...)

Sunday's list:
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle WTF CD39
Moofold ttc#2 UCL~33 cycle1 CD33
lucyt66 TTC#1 UCL34 cycle 2 CD30
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD26
Unbuffy TTC#2 UCL? WTF CD26
Liahgen66 TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 (post mc) CD24
icedlemonmuffin TTC#2 UCL24-32 cycle10 CD22
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD20
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD20
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 3 CD19
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD18
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 3 CD18
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 11 CD17
Albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle WTF CD17
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD16
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 3 CD15
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD14
Curlylox TTC #3 UCL 28 cycle WTF CD14
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD12
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 11 CD12
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 9 CD9
Gi1da TTC #1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD 9
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 7 CD8
Allthe8s TTC#2 UCL28 cycle1 CD8
SarahMumtoAlex TTC#2 UCL28 Cycle 6 CD6
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle 1 CD3

PENDING STATS
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
dirtgirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
Polyanna TTC#6 UCL27 WTF CD?
Malteser1981 TTC#? UCL28 cycle WTF CD?
slimyak TTC#2 UCL? cycle? CD?
sparklyrainbow TTC#1 UCL 28 cycle WTF
shinysideup TTC#2 UCL 25 cycle WTF
hippychick TTC #3 UCL? cycle WTF
lauraloo09 TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
Cheepz BFP 16th February 2010

Morning Alba, thanks for the list. No need to get excited for me - you must have missed my posts bitching about having a 2nd WTF cycle and no ovulation/ temp shift yet. I'll probably be at the top of that list for a while to come yet!

Hippy, had an ERPC but no pains like that experienced. Definitely get that checked out.

Have a good day everyone