Just MC'd .. Come and join us for the long haul (newbies always welcome!) - Vol 3

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Hi all, old and new, this is the thread where all moaning, pieces of tmi, discussions and virtual cups of tea and biscuits come together to keep us sane .. or at the least insane together!

It's 'shagging with intent' ... far more accurate and less bloody twee than that awful awful 'baby dancing', non? (A phrase that makes my teeth itch even typing it out. Bleurgh. )

Tea and cake time definitely

Clareanna and Alba totally understand what you mean. Been getting through the last few weeks at work by thinking 'term and a half to go' and now I don't have an escape route. Didn't go in to work today, still really tired though emotionally a bit more steady but know the smallest thing will set me off again and teenagers can be annoyingly perceptive! Trying to decide whether it is helpful that my best work friend is now on maternity leave...

Thanks everyone who has said positive/encouraging things and for the nice welcome. Hope everyone else is ok, and sounds positive Cheepz (fingers crossed for you). Hello CCBloom, sorry you're here too x

Alba and Clareanna - work frustrations on top of TTC, I think it would tip me over the edge.

My good friend had a baby this morning, so pleased for her but so utterly jealous. At least I now have legit reason for browsing the baby shops for a present.

I used to think I would be bothered if I was due around Xmas, and had planned the best months to TTC, it worked brilliantly and I would have been due on my wedding anniversary in September. But now I would do anything to have a Christmas baby because that means I would be pregnant shortly.

Welcome to CCBloom and Sparkly, I'm new too but the others members have been very supportive.

Glad I'm not a complete freak planning ahead so much! good point about getting to spend more time with LO if older one is at school/nursery though. I shall try to hold onto that.

Have managed to SWI all of once this month due to flu, so am seriously pessimistic about my chances. May give it another go tonight, just on the off chance that I've ov'd a bit late. Fingers crossed. Really really hope that next month is a good one (assuming this one is a wipe out) so I can have a 2010 baby.

How awful to find out at 15 weeks that it's all gone wrong, can't imagine how awful that would be.

Hi to newbies, glad you found us here - everyone's really nice and supportive.

Ah Alba, that's the pits. I cried silently at my desk most of my first day back in work. No-one noticed!! I think they thought I had a cold. Sounds like it makes it even harder when your job is pants.

Malteaser - that's funny, I'm the same. I was always super keen to have an autumn baby, as most of mine and DH's family are born in Sept/Oct - don't know why I was so keen, just thought it would be really nice. When I got due date of end July I was obviously pleased, but secretly would've liked to have an autumn due date. Now, I would literally take ANY DATE, I could not care less.

You know when people ask "would you like a boy or a girl" and you answer "oh, I don't mind, as long as it's healthy" - I actually really genuinely mean it now.

Mondays = pants
Tuesdays = more pants, as no weekend gossip

Roll on Wednesday. No wait, roll on Thursday, am off for long weekend break. And a bit of SWI, wahay!!

xxxxxxx

P.S. Allthe8s - they said 2 to 3 good periods? I actually never asked this question, I assumed I could just crack on after 1. Hmmmmm. Did they define "good period" like the Always adverts where they say "have a happy period" - as if!! It reminds me of the Bodyform advert where she goes rollerskating wearing white shorts, etc. etc. - who is this woman and what's wrong with her?

P.P.S. Re-reading that I see that I seem to have made a tenuous link between rollerskating and TTC, i.e.:

Rollerskating in white shorts = Happy period
Happy period = A good period
Have good period = Can TTC

Right, must get the rollerskates on.

xxxx

Goodluckbear - you make me laugh - if wearing rollerskates and white shorts seriously did help , the way I've been feeling recently I'd be out there in my size 16 tighty whities being dragged along the pavement by a load of dogs on leads...
the things we'd do....!
Plus - Wednesday is hump day .... over the hump to the weekend, so something to celebrate (I take my pleasure where I find it at the moment)

Tighty whities, ha, a phrase that should be used more widely!! In order to get to the hump day, I am going to amuse myself by seeing how many times I can legitably use those words in everyday conversation. Will update on progress come Wednesday.

xxxxx

Hi everyone. Welcome newbies - I still feel new too, and sorry to those having a tough time of it.

I haven't posted for ages but I've been lurking. That 2ww was so damn stressful. It's like your entire life goes on hold for two very long weeks. Nightmare. I tested on Friday - BFN - then got so unbelievably drunk and upset. I'm thinking, I can't go through this rollercoaster of emotions every month.

I'd secretly (arrogantly?) thought i'd get pg again quite quickly after the MC.

The arrival of every post-MC AF is so damn depressing.

Anyway, major apologies for misery-fest. My AF came today and the only glimmer of light in this tunnel is that it now seems back to normal, 3 months after mc - ie all the usual symptoms that I hadn't had in previous post-mc cycles, sore boobs and bad cramps. At least body seems back to normal.

Sorry i'm not name-checking everyone. The thread is busy - which is both good and sad xxx

Love SWI so much better than baby dancing!

I am the same, before I would have avoided a month of ttc so I wasn't due over the silly season but a crimbo baby would be fab right now! Any day is a good day to have a baby now! DD1 was born on DHs 30th birthday

As for a "good period" - the only "happy" periods I have had was when they returned after mc and I whooooped for joy.....now I have the bodyform song in my head! I guess she was referring to it being normal for your usual cycle. Mine is not a good one as it has been 8 DAYS NOW! However, the St Georges Hospital pregnancy loss handbook given to me when mmc was confirmed recommends you have one period before ttc again unless you have had a molar/eptopic pregnancy. I would happily go with the leaflet rather than the registrar.....they told me to wait after losing DD2 for a painfully long 7 months (tests etc) I did, and I had mmc anyway (although for reasons unconnected)! DH & I have kinda agreed to wait until next time but secretly I just want to crack on!!!!

Goodluckbear a weekend away sounds luuvverly and I am jealous!

Northlondon - did you test? x

I would just wait one period. Technically you don't even really need to do that, but it makes dating easier so you don't get the panic of them guessing and then deciding baby is small for dates and maybe something is wrong, but actually no it's fine you're just not as far along.

I have to wait for 3 months because of the methotrexate. I really wanted a baby this year, but now I'd just settle for being pregnant and progressing by the end of the year.

Muser - I hope all your 2010 Christmas photos are of you with a nice bump and you get a lovely Valentine's baby next year. Waiting is so hard, even harder when it's not through choice [hug emoticon]

xxxxx

First day back at work this morning after mc two weeks ago, thought I would be ok...mais non....as soon as I walked into the building I could feel the tears coming. Then had to hold it all whilst in the lift with 5 other people, get past reception and past another handful of colleagues to reach my desk before I spluttered. Was not a pretty sight, really I'm the last person on earth to want to draw attention to myself. On the whole they were all respectful as didn't want to talk about it. The crying just wore me out, so am off to bed to hopefully sleep a lot better than what I have been doing of late. Thank you for being here ....apologies if not making sense I is tired...

I challenge someone to start a new thread. I feel too new to impose.

Sorry to all you people who are hating work. At least I don't have that. Got made redundant from my job in the summer and have been trying to go it alone with a garden design business, it is a complete career change. Very slow start, especially as I've been more interested in ttc than getting jobs in.

I'm not sure if gardening did my back in, or just running after a very lively toddler.

A big slab of comfort tiramisu to everyone who had a pants back to work day today. Let's hope that's the worst day out of the way. Or poor Dirtgirl might find there's suddenly a whole lot more horticultural competition out there as we all get our wellies on! Good for you DG, and good luck with it.

Ps and please do remember to get the phrase tightie whities into your conversations this week. If nothing else it should keep us smiling! New thread please! x

new thread

Bit bold of me but there you go.

Ladies just to let you all know, Totally who was the person who started the first thread had a baby girl, Faith Juliet, last week. They are doing fine.

Hope for all of us for post mc happy and sucessful pregnancies.

what fab news Cheepz - thanks for teling us -cheered me up no end - see you on the new thread....

I am so impressed with all the resilience (spelling?) on this thread. We have all suffered a loss, we have all had our dream snatched away and yet we all got up, dusted ourselves off and started all over again (not me actually cos I'm waiting to stop bleeding, get a negative on a preg test and then have my first AF - but I include myself cos I do intend to start all over again asap).

You ladies are all very determined and strong. It is crap that we thought we would have summer babies and now we're desperately hoping for xmas, NY ones instead. Personally I had just ordered a pair of maternity jeans and was so excited about wearing them - they're on their way back to next

I was very lucky at work, I'd just announced the pregnancy at nearly 11 weeks and then lost it at 11.5. As far as I know everyone, male and femal knows what has happened and they even sent flowers. Of course you shouldn't be made to feel embarrassed about what happened - shame on anyone who makes you feel like that

I felt a bit better today and even managed to forget what had happened for a short while in Tescos. Of course I then felt guilty for forgetting my poor little one - you can't win when you're full of hormones can you.

Congrats to cheepz. Littlemiss72 I also read about that lady who lost her baby at 15+5 - I'd bumped into her on other threads - it made me sob for her - so awful!

Oh cheepz that's really lovely news. Please pass on our very best to her and let her know we're still going strong for her over here.

hippy I know what you mean. Women are incredibly strong creatures.

Allthe8s - thanks for the welcome and sharing your experience. I agree there is no such thing as a good period but I really want mine to come now so that I can feel like I'm a step closer to being able to try again. My partner is taking the doctor's advice of waiting 3 months to heart so hopefully we can meet halfway and I can bring him down to 2 months!?
Sparklyrainbow, malteser1981, LucyT66 - thanks also for the welcome. It's good to feel like I am somewhere where I can be honest about my feelings and can talk to people who are going through the same emotions.
Goodluckbear - my due date was September 24th and I was worried about my baby being one of the oldest in the class but now I can't believe that was a concern, I would take any due date that I could now!

Morning all, hi to all the newbies so sorry you have found yourself here however we are a strong group and share chocolate.

Tempted to do a test at some point soon, just to find out if everything has now gone back to normal and sadly hoping for a negative

On the positive side I'm back in the gym, starting to lose a few pounds as I got quite chunky quickly when I was pregnant.

I echo what others have said, look how strong we are all being. No point thinking about what might have been, it's terrible and we all know that but we have to carry on in the hope of some positive news in the future

Wednesday already! must get some work done.. lol

Have a good day all x x x

there is a new thread, scroll up a few and Liah posted link ...