Just MC'd .. Come and join us for the long haul (newbies always welcome!) - Vol 3

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Hi all, old and new, this is the thread where all moaning, pieces of tmi, discussions and virtual cups of tea and biscuits come together to keep us sane .. or at the least insane together!

morning ladies.

Apologies but have copied this from my post on November bus

was very uneventful and a bit disappointing at docs Friday, she said could be residual hormones but they don't do bloods as a matter of course from our surgery. Wait and see she said.

so being the addict I am, I poas this morning with my remaining fr and very definately negative. Am feeling as if period about to come too so am assuming now that it was indeed residual.

Hey not to worry, the good thing is that now i've seen it's really neg, i know my body is clear of any residual hormones. I am disappointed but that would have been very very lucky to get the bfp straight away wouldn't it? It's fine, really it is.

hippy I had no problems after my erpc either. I would ask gp just in case. I'm sure it's nothing but better to check eh? Hope you're ok. x

I'm so sorry Liahgen, I would be feeling pretty crushed after that hope and excitement

I'm sorry liahgen, I hope you're feeling ok.

Hello still here ? just been incredibly tired and very down? still waiting for first AF ? but had some spotting today so who knows?

Hope everyone else is ok.

Hi girls, Hope you all having a lovely weekend.

What a miserable day out there.. well, in London it's p'ing down!

Hey liahgen positive thoughts for the next round, it's still early days for us! Maybe the winter wonderland of the December bus is more suited

SWI almost since the last time I posted, DP under instruction not to release the little solders without me and is in the gym and off the wine mon-fri to keep their strength up. I took him for his first workout this morning, funniest thing ever!

Been looking at wedding dresses online this weekend, but also started to wonder would I be pregnant by October

Happy Sunday all x

Hello all. Sorry to hear Liahgen, not fun after thinking 'just maybe...'.

me, i'm being strong and not testing until at least next tuesday (erpc 4 weeks ago on Tuesday). I hope. But i'm feeling soooo hormonal and cold all the time, part of me says this means good things, part of me says pmt pmt pmt. trying to be good, but feeling very negative about the whole business at the moment.

been lurking for a while as i'm not good company at all and don't want to bring anybody down. also very sad for newbies and all those with bad news but have no idea what to say except sorry. there is so little you can say.

and of course horribly jealous of all you fabulous bfps out there - all fingers and toes crossed for you (making walking quite hard and the washing up impossible. oh damn...)

Hi All

Have been lurking for first AF after MC to come and go - it was a lot more painful than previous AFs and took 5 weeks! Still am now on CD10 and officially TTC again which feels a bit weird, but is good as it marks new beginnings and all that. I shall now be officially joining this thread although it does move fast and I am often away with work!

Just a quick hello - today's the first time I've really been on the comp for about 10 days, was struck down by flu of doom! Of course, it's just going now I'm on (I think) CD 15 and have had EWCM yesterday and today. Might see if I can muster the energy to SWI tonight, but probably we've really missed the boat this month (I usually OV on day 14). So annoying, but there really was nothing I could do - was too ill to get up and get a glass of water, there was no way I could get up to anything with DP!

Am really really crossing fingers for next month. This age gap is stretching out to be much larger than I ever expected, and am now worrying (I am totally anally organised, so this is the kind of thing that worries me) about not being able to have the choice about having DC3. DP and I have always been determined not to continue having children for 6+ years, so small age gaps are important if there's any chance of us having 3 (which isn't a given, I'm not sure I even want 3, but it's not stopping me panicking!). I know that asking DP to compromise and have a third would be a massive thing (he doesn't want more than 2), but to go beyond our original plan of having them close together so we're not going through the early years for the next 10 years or more would be a demand too far.

Sorry for brain dump, that's all so hypothetical, but it's amazing what you can worry about, isn't it?

liahgen - so sorry - can't imagine what a rollercoaster it's been for you in the past few days

underneath - sorry you're feeling down - I find it comes in waves - some days i feel optimistic and excited and the other I just want to curse the gods and hide under the duvet

Hopefully - now that's someone with a life plan! I can't decide what to have to eat tonight let alone what I'll be doing in 6 years time! impressed! I do kno wht you mean about the age gap though, we waited a year longer than I'd wanted to try for another (due to job insecurities) and now I've lost that baby, I feel quite sad that if we do have another one there will be a bigger gap - but on the plus side, it should mean that we'll only have one lot of nursery fees to pay at a time - still to be honest - I think I'd just be delighted with a baby - don't care if it's birthday is Xmas day, don't care about the age gap, just want to be pregnant again - soon.

Hi westyorkshiregirl I think I ws on a thread when you and another girl were having your MC's. I remember that yu were both supporting each other and I think I got quite involved and sent my regards and said I was so sorry for you both. God, how weird is life, within a few short weeks I also had a MC and now here we are on this thread together. Life is odd and horrid sometimes.

Anyway, everyone on this thread is lovely and in the short time I've been on it I've felt very supported and in good company.

Thanks for those of you who advised me about the shooting pains. They have got better today (they did give me a one off shot of anti B's just before they knocked me out, so hopefully is not an infection.) If I still have pains I'll go back to the doc.

Liah, sorry it's not good news for you this time.

Hippy, I have been getting the same shooting pains as you - started after my mc, but I didn't have an erpc. God knows what they are!

No news from me - Im going to do another pg test tomorrow to see whether I have lost the hormones yet. Have also ordered some ov tests from the site someone recommended on here.

And back to work this week too! Not looking forward to that, as I still get increadibly tired and I have to commute. Also, have only told 2 colleagues, so have alot of people to face.

Morning all, back to Monday already!

Best of luck polly returning to work today, it's not easy however does help to get back to some sort of normality.

I think I've OV had some cramps last night and again this morning. I thought the first month would be a real miss however the signs are there. Defo SWI tonight!

Some of you ladies were with me on the August thread, one of the poor girls on there has just found out at 15+5 it's all over and is going into to hospital today. I really can't imagine how that must feel for her right now. Just so sad to think your past the worst at 12 wks, such awful sad news

Right, time to get dressed and in the office..boss is back today!

Happy Monday all x

Good morning all - also back at the office today. V proud of myself for deleting my pg week count from my outlook diary without a tear. Am feeling a bit feisty and political today - why should I not say what happened? Honestly it really is a bunch of mysogynist crap that we should hide what's happened to us to spare other people's embarrassment at not knowing what to say! Ok, off my soap box now...

Good luck to everyone who's back on the rat race, and good luck to everyone back on the ttc race! I might need a prompt on that ov / pg stick website, never used them before but am feeling very determined!

My heart goes out to the poor lady from the Aug thread. How absolutely heartbreaking.

Morning all

Quick one from me before I join a conference call.

sparklyrainbow - I'm so sorry you're here. I know exactly what you're going through as I had my first mmc last July, four months before I got married. Although it meant I got to wear my gorgeous wedding dress, I'd already started looking for maternity ones and it broke my heart that I wouldn't get to wear one after all.

And hi to shinysideup - sorry you're here too.

liah - sorry it's not good news for you this time x

gi1da - you remind me of me with your positive attitude. Why should we be embarrassed or ashamed? It amazed me how many people said to me, "Oh we went through exactly the same thing" after I had my mmc, and while I can understand not wanting to shout it from the rooftops, it makes me angry that it's considered such a taboo.

As for me - got a on a digi ov test on Friday afternoon, so had a quick SWI before heading out. Then got my first peak on the CMFM on Saturday morning, so had another go on Sat evening. Am hoping that's all bases covered, as it were. Just have to get myself through the inevitable boredom of the 2ww without driving myself mad symptom spotting...

Much love to all xxx

Liahgen - sorry about that, hope we'll both have winter wonderland babies. Big hugs.

Hi WestYorks - I had similar, had to wait 5 weeks post ERPC for AF, and then it was a bit weird. I'm guessing I'll ov around Wednesday this week. Am peeing on ov sticks like crazy, but no sign of surge, which makes me anxious (shouldn't get it yet anyway!! Am crazy!!) so just SWI pretty much everyday. DH is a happy chappy at least

Hopefully - I plan that far ahead too!! I really, really wanted to have a baby by now, or at least be pregnant. Have to keep stopping myself and remembering I still have time. It makes sense what you're saying though, and it's funny all the different things we worry about.

Big wave to everyone - Monday mornings, bah!!

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Gi1da, I agree. Why shouldn't you say what's wrong? I'm not sparing people the embarrassment either, if they ask I tell them. Am with DH's family and there's lots of baby talk as SIL is pregnant and there is lots of 'when are you going to have another' etc.

Liah, sorry you've not got good news.

Polly, I hope work helps get things back to normal for you.

I'm still annoyed with my not quite period. I wish someone had told me it might not be a proper one after mc. I'm vowing to start trying ttc again though this month if physically possible. I've done my back in royally, and can hardly move at the moment. V. embarrassing, am groaning and puffing at every movement and seeing as am staying on a camp bed at my BIL's it isn't exactly ideal.

Hello ladies, glad to see you are all managing ok. Totally agree with you gilda its nothing that should be kept in the dark, in fact i have found the more people I have told the more I find out it happens to everyone!

viv glad you peaked!!! ov sticks and cbfm, that should cover everything

liah that sucks the biggie - have been there too and the disappointment can be crushing. chin up lady

I finally did a Digi last night and it said 3+ weeks. After all the pounds spent on 'Not Pregnants' in the past I would recommend getting a pack of 25 internet cheapies to get you through the early days of suspicion, through realisation, through acceptance of the fact that it really is a BFP and hold off the Digi's until you know you really are!! Worked for me anyway. Anxiety of being in week 5 which is when I had mc last summer is difficult, will be glad to get to week 6 (fingers crossed).

Cheepz - yes, internet cheapies are the way to go. Week 6, good stuff, hold on in there.

This morning has reminded me of everything I hate about my job ... Was holding out till mat leave from July. Not sure I can grin and bear it till the end of the year, at the earliest, but it's a nightmare trying to change jobs whilst TTC. Out at a cafe trying to control my tears before going back in for the afternoon

Big thumbs up to you Cheepz! Two daft questions (well one's a request) can someone link the ov stick / pg stick site or recommend some good (cheep) ones to use? Sorry I know I should search through the thread for it, but I suspect its pages back by now!

... and I guessed what it means but what does SWI actually stand for?

Thanks!

Oh Alba, sorry, that's utterly pants. Absolutely in the same boat, I was counting down the days till end August and mentally crossing off projects that I wouldn't be around for. I'm there with you for a lunchtime sob-a-chino!

first time posting at work - eek!
Gi1da and Alba - the work thing totally sucks. the one thing getting me through was that a long awaited promotion for me was about to be announced, so I'd been spending lots of energy trying to conceal my pg at work, it case it affected things, and now the'y've told me it might be another 6 months until things are worked out. Argh.
Spent the weekend updating the CV!

Clareanna, me too, had been trying for internal transfer and hence hadn't told a soul I was pg, just in case. Heard today I didn't get it, so my only out gone and no baby either. Damn, crying again...

Gilda, amazon do them I think or access diagnostics... I used them and got discount code 'reward' that will work for anyone. Sorry not to post link but using my phone...

You're not the lady next to me in starbucks with a black laptop are you? ?? Maybe not, she looks happy...

Thanks for handholding. Back to it...

Hello ladies I'm a newbie to this site and this seemed like a nice, welcoming thread to join. I had a MC 3 weeks ago when I was 6 weeks pregnant. The pregnancy was unplanned but now I've been pregnant all I can think about is getting pregnant again. My partner wants to wait until June to give us time to get healthy but I am trying to persuade him that we should start as soon as AF has been and gone. TTC is all I can think about at the moment so it's good to come on here and share with other people who are in a similar position!

Afternoon ladies, is it tea and cake time yet??

Welcome CCBloom sorry you find yourself here but you are in good company! I had an erpc 4 & 1/2 weeks ago. They told me to have 2-3 GOOD periods (what is a good period FGS! AF returned a week ago and it has been much heavier/longer than expected.......In my head I know I should wait until after my next AF but in my heart I just want to TTC NOW! So I am in the same boat as you, waiting until June would drive me crazy I think.

Hope you are ok Alba & Clareanna and work isn't too stressful x

Sorry you are having a crappy time liahgen x

How are you feeling unbuffy? Hopefully I worried for ages about a large age gap....my dd1 is 3 & 1/2, although now I think if I ever get lucky and hang onto one until the end I will have as much time with them as I did with dd1 as she will have started school....

Glad you are feeling better hippychick and Dirtgirl Polly I hope your first day back at work was ok.

Littlemiss72 I have just caught up with the Aug thread which I was on but dropped out in Jan I was so sad to read about Bigmutha

Gi1da I agree with you I just come out with it now, not hiding the fact that I have lost 2 babies and had my life turned upside down over the last 9 months! Well done for getting back to work today and deleting the week count from your diary......sadly I missed cancelling one from last year when I lost dd2 and I got some pampers bumf through the post last month saying "your little one is 4 months old" - it cut through me like a knife especially as I had just found out I'd had a mmc

Well done Cheepz think positive ;) x

Fingers crossed for "Vivclicq* x

Please can someone tell me also what SWI means?!

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