Just MC'd .. Come and join us for the long haul (newbies always welcome!) - Vol 3

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Hi all, old and new, this is the thread where all moaning, pieces of tmi, discussions and virtual cups of tea and biscuits come together to keep us sane .. or at the least insane together!

Congratulations to LittleMiss on your engagement and to all the latest BFPers. Good luck getting through those early days - I have never known time to go so slowly!

I am 6 weeks and 3 days pregnant today (not that I'm counting and went for an early scan this morning because of the previous MCs and because I was a complete nervous wreck when I went to the Dr! Anyway, all good so far - we saw a tiny blob with a heartbeat. Such a relief! There's still a long way to go but this is a good start

congratulations littlemiss and Cheepz too!

I had another scan yesterday - apparently my womb lining is still a bit thick, although I don't really know what that means.

I also had to do a pg test which was still positive Does anyone know whether you can still ovulate if you still have HCG in your system? I really would like to move on now.

I'm fairly certain you have to wait for the HCG to decline so you'd get a negative test before you can ovulate.

Muser that must be so difficult for you - fingers crossed tomorrows USS is the one to answer your questions.

There is always so much to catch up on...I only have time to post properly when it's the school holidays! I can't manage to keep track in term time.

Littlemiss congratulations on your engagement. DH and I were married not so long ago and I wholeheartedly recommend it! The dress shopping is the ultimate shopping experience too. I remember it fondly .

Cheepz I'm really pleased to see you finally graduating on the list. It is very difficult to accept that it might be ok when things have gone so wrong in the past. CONGRATULATIONS . I really hope that it is uneventful for you and that you are able to enjoy the whole thing too. I remember when I was pregnant with my second DD (some ten years ago now) that I didn't think that I would ever be pregnant again, so I vowed to love every minute. Aside from the head being born I pretty much did

muser Good luck with your scan tomorrow, I hope that you get some resolution at last.

TheKurgan Although I know that it came about from difficult circumstances, I am jealous of your early scan. I don't know if I'll be able to persuade my GP to refer me for one. Congratulations, you must just be so relieved.

Where is MrsR - anyone have any news?

Sarahlou - where are you (excuse the awful scooby doo style rhyme). I hope everything is ok?

Everything is better here since last night when I did my spare CBD test. Was a bit of a wreck but delighted to see pregnant pop up almost immediately shortly followed by 2-3 weeks, which is what I was hoping it would say. Phew. Went shopping today to buy a bigger bra. My boobs have become unruly (only 5 weeks pregnant) and my old ones wouldn't do up . Very happy in the new one now though, I hardly know myself .

Had a bit of a moment in Mamas and Papas on Regent Street. I walked in like a regular person and then just cried a bit without being able to stop. I left the store obviously (before they carted me off in a straitjacket). My hormones are wild and uncontrollable

Hope everyone else well, sorry if I missed anyone out! SB

congratulations littlemiss - lovely news - and something fab to look forward to. Saying your vows is a wonderful moment that truly is something special [looks soppily over at DH, who is looking scared]

TheKurgan - the scan must have been wonderful to see, I can't imagine how nervous you were beforehand - great news

samanthaB had a similar experience to you and had to be hustled out of a shop by DH - straitjackets all round!

Everyone else on the WTF cycle - I have 3 days to go until I hit my "normal" cycle length following my ERPC on 15th Jan and I have NO IDEA what my body is doing - not even sure if I've ovulated yet! however, have been out and purchased a big stash of OV sticks and PG tests - you lot should be on the Boots payroll

Clareanna I'm delighted that you did the same. Truly delighted that it's not just me !!!

I absolutely can't keep up with this thread but reading through the most recent posts looks like there have been some reasons to celebrate!
Congrats to Cheepz - wishing you all the luck in the world with this pregnancy. You deserve it.
Lovely to hear of all those having scans and hearing heartbeats - most uplifting.
Littlemiss congrats on the engagement - planning a wedding is so much fun. Almost wish I could do it all again - just don't tell dh.
Muser - what a truely rotten time you're having. I really feel for you. It's all the horrible uncertainty. Keep us all posted on how you get on. Will be thinking of you.
SamanthaB and all those others on the wtf cycle - I totally know what you're going through.
I think I oved on CD11 due to pains and ewcm - which is three days early for me. Now keep convincing myself I am def/def not pregnant a million times a day! Am going mad. Waiting till CD28 and then going to test if no af. Refuse to give up hope!

Sorry that should be Clareanna on the wtf cycle not SamanthaB!
See I really can't keep up!

Hello, room for one more? Mc'd on sunday at 9 weeks, was first pregnancy at 38 so had been so excited. Didn't expect this to happen and am all a bit upside leftways. Trying to be philosophical about it and look at the big positive which is that at least we know now that we can get pg. Just need to get there again. Feeling a bit lost after dropping off the antenatal thread. Can I come and chat here instead? Fraid I haven't done my homework and read all the old threads but have seen enough to doff my bonnet to you ladies for your courage, humour and support to one another.

Welcome Gi1da, I am sorry about your loss and that you've found yourself here .
You have found a good place for support and hand holding when needed, we're a mad good bunch.

TheKurgan Fab news about the scan, you must be elated.

Congratulations Littlemiss Lovely news!

Cheepz glad to see you've moved to the Grads list.
Hopefully some of us will be shifting you up it post haste

Muse I really hope you get your answers today.
You deserve a really big prize for being so patient.
Finkin' of you today.

Gazebo Hoouusse update:
Hmmmm... Day 42 and Daddy still hasn't bought me a pony AF is showng no signs of popping in.
I did another negetory POAS Mon.
I've come to the conclusion that I'm going to have to have a weekly POAS party till she rears her ugly mug, as if I have been/do get caught I need drugs straight away to keep my overprotective NK cells at bay.
Lucky I'm a cheapskate and pee on Home&Bargains finest for a quid.
I couldn't stand a £12 piece of plastic shouting BABY FAIL at me on a weekly basis.
Although I may go on t'internet and order a job lot of dippy sticky things.
The fella that collects the sanitary bins for work will think that a budding OctoMummy works there if I continue cramming anymore tests in the bins.

SamB and Clareanna I too am a little crazy, I went into M&P to stroke things MrG was very tolerent and luckily saw the warning signs of a wobble and directed me promptly to a pub.
There's also a spanking brand new Mothercare opening in May, directly opposite my work and I've already had the wobble that I was looking forward to being first in the queue with my big fat 7mth bump.
Now I'm just having a race to get pregnant before it opens so I don't feel a total loon barging everyone out the way when they cut the ribbon and hand out freebies

MrsG, I am proper laughing my head off at my desk - I've been POAS on an ovulation test every afternoon at work, and I reckon the dude that collects our sanitary bins must wonder what the feck is going on. God help me when i finally do ovulate and then move into the two week wait.

(D15 for me btw, and STILL only a high on the monitor. FFS)

And hi Gi1da - sorry you're here but welcome to the asylum.

How frustrating for you MrsG and laughing to think of your bin at work Viv

Hope all goes well today muser and welcome Gi1da remarkably fun board considering what we're all going through. It is such a shock when it first happens, you never think it will happen to you. I have such nostalgia for the innocent pleasure of being pregnant before having a mc - I was never happier and never will be.

CD2 for me and its a glorious day here after predicted rain so I'm full of the joys of spring, new cycle, fresh start etc.

Hope all our new grads are well and are new members are recovering as quickly as possible.

All part of the service Viv
I was supposed to be offski today and was looking forward to being on MN all day doing some housework, but may have to go in now
There's no pooter in work, which in my opinion, is rather poor show considering my addicton to MN.

I've not watched One Born every min yet either!
I'm waiting on a call to summon moi,still in jimmies though. I'm keen aren't I!

MrsG where do you get your sticks from? I have also spent a fortune in Boots, but can't carry on like that!

I watched One Born Every Minute and I was fine - even with the new borns. Only one wobble, when one of the pg women was speaking about her mc.

Good luck with your scan today Muser - I was in the same position a few weeks ago, and the wait was horrendous.

Welcome to the thread Gilda - I am 3 or so weeks ahead of you, still in the wtf cycle (still have positive pg tests ) and waiting for things to get "normal" so that I can start poas in ernest!

I go to Home&Bargin Polly
It maybe a Northern Shop.
Don't recall seeing any many past Manchester when visiting Fahhaaammlii in Landan.

I used to go to Boots and justify getting the points but it was getting silly.
I'm pants at links but you can get a squillion dippy stick things on the Amazon interweb for around 50p (well A Fiver)
You have to pee in a pot and dip 'em in.
I'm sure one of the other clever ladies will do a link or just Google Ultra Early Highly Sensitive 10 miu Preg strip tests.

Still waiting for the call to go into work..... I'm going to make a bacon butty and a cuppa... she's bound to ring then!

I refused to watch One Born Every Minute as I didn't think I could handle it.

Forgot to say muser that I'll be thinking of you today. Hope all goes well. x

Hi everyone, just checking in after a few days and lots to catch up on as always. Congrats to Littlemiss on your romantic proposal! Hello to Gi1da, things must still be very raw for you - hope you are managing alright.

Viv - I can't help with your query on the fertility monitor but have just purchased one in sheer desperation so will be using this during my next cycle. I am utterly hacked off to have reached CD28 with no ovulation, -ve OPks since day 10 (a small fortune being spent to use one every day too although waiting til I get home so not clogging the bins at work!)and no temperature increase. I started bleeding fairly substantially the other day and thought that AF had made an early appearance, however, after a few hours this stopped and nothing since. So still in total limbo and feeling angry with my stupid body. Concerned also about random bleeding like that and just desperate to get back to some semblance of normality.

Rant over! Hope everyone is doing well. My thoughts are with Muser today too

Hi, I'm not ready to ttc yet - MMC discovered last Friday and medical management yesterday. I might join you all one day in the future with some knicker checking (what an appropriate term!)

I do have a question, but I've posted it separately so as not to hi-jack your more general thread.

If anyone knows anything about Short Luteal Phase, thin lining and MMC please please do take a look.

Big Hi to Alba my absolute saviour over the week-end. (smile)

G'morning all. Funny old morning, got weepy when I had second set of blood tests today (to check my Hcg levels are dropping) - I stupidly looked at the needle and just thought oh for feck sake I can't have any blood left in me by now - get off!!

Nurse asked me how I was getting the results and I said I assumed the doctor would ring me like last time - she advised me to pop back to the EPU to check if I should ring or wait for a call - darn unfriendly EPU receptionist left me sitting waiting for 45 minutes even though she knew I'd just mc'd - surely its not that hard a question to answer? Eventually I just walked out. Is that unreasonable? Last damn place I wanted to be.

Can I ask what's probably a really stupid question, for all the POAS, do you have a 'special' cup to pee in? I've only ever done it the once, and was at work, went and got a spare cup from starbucks to use. Now I feel it may become a routine event, maybe it deserves a special ritual wee chalice! (And one that DP knows not to use!)

Gi1da How long ago did you MC, no one told me we are meant to get bloods checked after.

I thought we just had to do a preg test to confirm no longer preg .

I did loads of peeing on a stick when ttcing. I had a tiny little pot that i kept in the bathroom cupboard and just rinsed out each time. Neither DH or kids knew it was there - I hope!

I'm going to GP soon to get signed off work perhpas she'll tell me about the blood tests you mentioned.

Some people can be very inconsiderate and make you wait when you've just had a MC. We went straight from the scan to the emergency gynae and waited 2 hours to find out what the next step was. Eventually they told us it would be another 1 hour before we were seen and we just left. I couldn't believe that we were expected to sit there for so long after having just been told that our hopes had all just gone up in smoke and not knowing what the hell was gonna happen next.

Having said that, all the staff on the ward yesterday were lovely.

So glad I've been directed to this thread. It's weird how I've gone from the ttc thread to the preg thread to the MC thread in a matter of weeks - life can be crual can't it.

Don't worry Hippychick not everyone needs bloods, or even a pregnancy test to check that the hormones are going down. I was told I didn't need to do a pregnancy test, but if I did I should wait at least two weeks.

It really is astounding how variable miscarriage care is, and I really feel for you and Gi1da because you seem to really have been treated shabbily. Goes to show how important the MN miscarriage code campaign is.

The first time I was seen for my last mc was in Venice (where they were generally great) but the porter was confused and took us first to pediatrics, then to the labour ward and finally to the EPU - gruelling.

Hope these first few raw days pass quickly for you, be gentle on yourself

Hi Hippychick66, yes its completely pants. I MC'd on Sunday, began bleeding Sat night, went to A&E Sunday morning and the doctor did a preg test which showed positive. I had a moment of thinking oh thank god it's still ok, then she said, but of course it would still show positive even though it does look like you've miscarried. She told me to come for a scan at the EPU Monday.

Had bloody godawful Sunday afternoon having the actual horrible mc (stupidly I thought I'd already had it as no-one told me what to expect so I had sent DP away and was at home on my own).

Monday went to EPU had the internal scan (after 3 hours waiting). Womb all empty but they sent me for a blood test. Results came back high (over 1000 hcg) so they sent me for another blood test today to make sure the levels were coming down (they have). I think if it hadn't they were going to make sure it hadn't been ectopic? Frankly it all feels like quite a pallaver.

I'm just outraged that the NHS does not tell you what to expect with a mc - or offer any support. I thought it was just going to be like having a period. Stupid me!

Sorry you're going through this too, hope you are ok.

Gosh, whoever said this thread was just like a noisy cafe, it really is, isn't it... v crowded, but a lovely place to be if you need to be... feels to me like it has very comfy armchairs, essential with the number of posts to be read!

Welcome Gilda, I'm only just over those first few days and really feel for you... I got next to no care from the NHS, had to have private scan when I started spotting and just knew it had all gone wrong, and then private ERPC when the scan was indeed bad news. NHS just told me it would happen when it happened and to stay at home unless I was losing a lot of blood (how much is a lot?) I was petrified.

Wave to Hippy, good to hear you had sympathetic staff at hospital yesterday, that's one horrid day over with now. Can't pretend that it'll all be fine from here on in, unfortunately, but at least that part's done with. Lots of chocolates all round, and big bottle of white wine (I started out on red, couldn't stand it, but white and fizz, as I was advised here, do indeed taste fantastic )

POAS.... hmmm, I'm super confused here now too. pg test finally negative day before yesterday, but OPK positive (so not the HCG interfering), and spotting for the first time in days yesterday + EWCM and temp up this morning... does that mean I ov'd? already??? would be normal for a regular cycle, but is it wishful thinking on my part and I should lock away all the sticks and just not think about it for a while? (If I'm honest, I know the answer to that question already...)

btw - I get cheap sticks from here: here, the current discount code is 'reward' - they have the cheap dip sticks and also very cheap CB digis just now, I'm resisting buying as probably won't need them for months... but maybe I should as I saw how much they cost in boots this morning -- daylight robbery (I too keep a little plastic pot tucked away on the top shelf in the bathroom for the cheap dipstick tests )

So, having thought I'd be well in control, wait till hcg levels down to nothing and count through normal cycle from then... I'm now back to wtf.... oh for first AF to arrive, be over with and back to just normal TTC.... but am seeing consultant on Monday for follow up, so I guess I can ask then what on earth I can expect (the one advantage of my local NHS trust being so overstretched that I had to go privately to get an ERPC without waiting... I get the private care style follow-up)

Hello to everyone -- I'll just make myself useful now and update the list but a few queries (have tried scrolling back, but just can't quite find out all I need to)
Gi1da, have added you to pending stats, shout if you're ready to be on TTC already Hippy, should I add you on, or are you just popping in to say hi? similarly Malteser, would you like to be on the list? You may already have said and I missed it -- and Muser I didn't want to exculde you but similarly didn't want to add you to any lists pending your scan - will be thinking of you tomorrow, very best of luck

(sorry, I'm an accountant, making lists and amending numbers is calming for me... about time I went back to work! But actually on holiday this week...)

Apologies in advance if I got anyone wrong, or missed any updates...

Wednesday's list:
MrsGazebo TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 1 CD42
Underneaththestream TTC#1 UCL ? cycle WTF CD35
clareanna TTC#2 UCL35 cycle WTF CD34
Tigerbear TTC#1 UCL26 cycle 6 CD31
just1moreplease ttc #3 ucl 30 days cycle 1 cd30
Moofold ttc#2 UCL~33 cycle1 CD29
lucyt66 TTC#1 UCL34 cycle 2 CD26
northlondonchoclover TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD22
Unbuffy TTC#2 UCL? WTF CD22
Liahgen66 TTC#6 UCL26 cycle 1 (post mc) CD20
RunForTheHills TTC#1 UCL30 cycle 14 CD16
yogamat TTC#2 UCL? cycle WTF CD16
vivcliquot TTC#1 UCL27 cycle 3 CD15
sunburntats TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 2 CD14
Tetleytea TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 3 CD14
Barrenbrook TTC#1 UCL 25-28 cycle 11 CD13
Albadetamble TTC#2 UCL25 cycle WTF CD13
LittleMiss72 TTC#1 UCL28 cycle WTF CD12
Hopefully TTC#2 UCL28 cycle 3 CD11
NoShouting TTC#5 UCL? cycle 1 CD10
Curlylox TTC #3 UCL 28 cycle WTF CD10
Goodluckbear TTC#1 UCL28 cycle 1 CD8
Zayja TTC#1 UCL24-26 cycle 11 CD8
Tigger15 TTC#2 UCL26 cycle 9 CD5
SarahMumtoAlex TTC#2 UCL28 Cycle 6 CD2

PENDING STATS
westyorkshiregirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
dirtgirl TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
allthe8s TTC#? UCL? cycle? CD?
muser TTC#? UCL? cycle WTF CD?
Polyanna TTC#6 UCL27 WTF CD?
Gi1da TTC #1 UCL? cycle WTF CD?

GRADUATES
amyboo
totally
hoops997 BFP 11 July 2009
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
Jollster BFP 10th January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
Cheepz BFP 16th February 2010

Hello to all

I've been storking this thread for a while now but thought I'd join. Could do with some vitrual hand holding.

I had 2 MCs before having dd in summer 07, who is now a wonderful fiesty toddler.
Had MMC at 12 weeks last November, showed up on the 12 weeks scan. The babe was at about 11 weeks development, so near and yet so far . The consultant who gave us the second opinion on the scan was very matter of fact, showing us the screen pointing out that the 'fetus was about the right size and development for my dates but no heart beat. Obviously just failed in last 24 hours as he would expect to have seen some deteriation in shape.' Those words are like a slap in the face and I can feel my heart breaking just typing them. Is there a good way to hear it - I think not.

Just started TTC again. Had no tests because of our lovely DD. Yes we were given the you're probably very unlucky diagnosis.

Not really sure what all your stats are about, but I do know we want another DC, I'm just terrified of what might happen.

When we get the BFP I'm planning on asking my GP for baby asprin just in case - anyone else gone down this route?

So here I am, in virtual support. Am I in the right place? TTC on it's own just doesn't fit the bill.

Be strong to all and I offer my hand for holding, although it's a bit snotty now, sorry